Farmer, cultivate your field!

Marriage is like a field and the man and woman are the farmers assigned to work on the field. Therefore, like farmers who have to cultivate their farm, what will you need to do in other to make the most of the allotted farm?

1. Prepare the land for planting. This requires weeding, clearing, uprooting dead trunks etc.
Dear husband/wife, What are those things you need to clear out of the field of your marriage? Those things that will not allow you enjoy a good harvest e.g. grudge, malice, anger, cheating, dirtiness, laziness, prayerlessness etc. Please think about it, you will be able to identify a few things that need to be cleared. Bend down and start working at clearing your field. No one will do it for you!

2. Planting of seeds:
Dear husband/wife, what types of seed are you planting?
Are you sowing kindness, tenderness, consideration, understanding etc or you are sowing harsh words, abuses and curses. Remember, whatever you sow is what you will reap. Let us be conscious of our actions, they are seeds. You want a peaceful home? then let your words and actions be the type that will bring about peaceful response from your partner.

3. Water your plants:
For proper growth, the plant need sunshine, water, nutrients, sometimes fertilizer.
Dear husband/wife, are you providing nourishment for your marriage? What are those things that provide nourishment? Things like romance, friendship, communication, prayers, etc. Be deliberate in investing time and resources in bringing daily nourishment to your relationship. Remember, without all these things, the marriage will die.

4. Constant weeding and pruning. Weeds will always show up to contest for the nutrients available for the plants. Please look around and look inward. What are those things competing for your spouse space in your life? Is it that friend of the opposite sex? That job exposing you to alcohol and friends of easy virtues, pornography or other sexual pervasions? Or is it even your ego that needs to be pruned? Or other activities like sports. Be sincere with yourself, without cutting off some friendships and habit, the marriage will continue to suffer.

5. Updated knowledge. A wise farmer needs to keep tab with current trends to know about new farming techniques. Please seek information, seek knowledge, and seek professional counsel. Buy books, listen to CDs, follow helpful blogs and other influencers .Guy, please don’t think counselling is for weak people.. It is strong and wise people that seek help.

May I also warn that you desist from wishing that another man's field should be yours! The grass always seems greener on the other side. If your neighbour’s farm looks good, then be humble enough to go learn the skills from him. Don’t allow your field to be over grown with weeds or to be run over by rodents and other destructive animals .Any farm that looks good surely have people who are working hard to achieve the results you see.

U keep ur marriage, on ur knees, mature in ur attitude, work at healthy communication, n sexual intimacy, be careful of 3rd party, never go to bed wt quarrel, sincerely apologise when u r wrong, never talk her down public or private

Please put on your working shoes and get to work. Take responsibility for your farm. You can’t outsource this assignment. You will succeed in marriage.

A lot is involved in marriage


I counselled a young guy who was addicted to masturbation. He told me he can't do without masturbating. One thing that struck me in his confession was when he said, 'my mum caused all this for me'.
Curiosity got hold of me & I asked him, how? He said; he started masturbating since when he was 4 years old. ' my mum dresses up before me, I am used to seeing her unclothedness. I am not moved to have sex with her but I always long to see mature ladies naked just the way I always see my mum dressing up naked before me. I still remember seeing her unclothedness regularly till I was 8 years& my dad do shout on her, 'send this boy out before you dress...' , but my mum would always reply by saying, 'will my son sleep with me? Stop planting evil thought in his heart'.
Anytime I see my mum's naked body, I long to see ladies' naked body, I went into sex at age 10 and till now I am not free from sex& heavy pornography & masturbation...'

Dear parents, I hope you are not guilty of this?
You are dressing up before your 2 years son/daughter & you say he/she doesn't know anything yet? .
Some couples will be having sex while their close to 2 years old child will be in their room with them & they will feel, he can only see, he can't understand.
Sir/ma, that your child does not need to understand. Seeing your unclothedness or seeing you and your spouse making love is enough to plant abnormal sexual fantasies and urge in that child.
Remember, it is a jet world! How will you destroy your own children with your own carelessness?
Don't let your children see your unclothedness.
Don't make love in the presence of your child no matter the age. The scene sticks to the memory& they may want to explore & experiment what they are seeing.
Stop making (unknowingly) home-made 'sex clips or video' for your children to be watching.
Mummy, sit properly. Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room;FCC gv parting your legs and your son is seeing your inner tight & pant.
Be careful! Daddy, don't wear that ordinary boxer at home that when you sit down & your 'thing' is dangling & your daughter is seeing it.
There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom, just for your spouse.
Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your house, you now put your children into sexual bondage.
Mummy, wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your sons is dangerous.
Yes, they won't lust after you but you might be increasing their curiosity to see the breasts of ladies outside.
Let's stop being 'pornographic materials' to our children.
Raising sexually pure and impure children begins at home'

Lalasticlala seun

wow!

This is highly educative!
The comparison really make sense.
Any farmer who doesn't work well as expected in his farm cannot get bountiful harvest. The same with marriages. Marriages need constant good touches here and there to be enjoyable.
May God help us all.

On the other post, how I wish all parents know this, I was at a friend's place about 2 years ago, she already knew I was coming, immediately I knocked at the door, she knew I was the one, she just called my name and asked me to enter. To my surprise, I met her with all her children watching TV, and she was only with pant, no clothes on, not even bra, I was embarrassed, wanted to go back, but asked me what's wrong, all the children were putting on clothes o, and the eldest, a boy, was in SS3 then. When I entered, she asked me to let us go into her room to discuss. It was there I told her that being with your children unclad will be sending wrong messages into their brain, but she wouldn't agree with me, claiming they are her children.
Well, I said my own and the original matter that took me there and left.
Whether she has changed or not, I don't know, but I'm sure many parents are also guilty of this. Please, let it stop for the sake of these children's psychology.
May God help us all.

The same thing applies to daddies or fathers who walk around nakedly in the house while there are young girls around, thinking they are still young. This has to stop, its an emotional abuse to these youngies. It doesn't send good messages into their brain. It is corruptive and destructive to their mental psychology.
Raising decent and respectful children starts at home.
A decent and respectful child becomes a decent and respectful adult.
May God help us all.