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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 8:46am On May 26, 2016 |
@op, find another man, your man is a wussy. 10 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 8:48am On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake: To you am a tribalist and that is not a bad thing But to me I am a realist and that is an awesome thing Everyday here in Nairaland people will complain igbo this igbo that ...it's becoming shameful They will complain that Igbo won't marry them , therw parents won't let them marry them. This is sickening and despicable How many times have you seen an Igbo man or woman cry that the other tribe won't let them marry them This is such a shameful thing...people throwing their selves on igbo....igbo are just human and this whining should stop 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 8:55am On May 26, 2016 |
Jaygrl:Thanks a bunch really preciate....u said it all 7 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 8:58am On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:It has nothing to do with being Igbo or Yoruba, its just about how connected and understanding the person is 5 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 8:59am On May 26, 2016 |
My dear this is tough o..i will advice you to seek God face,if it doesn't work out then find your way. My cousin is married to an Igbo guy and they are doing fine. His parent approved the marriage cos they are well learned and aren't tribalistic likewise her parent too...Tribalism is mostly common among the illiterates. My yoruba friend is facing the same the same issue from her father cos of her igbo boo,her boyfriend parent accepted her wholeheartedly but her own father is the main issue..She took in and she is currently 8month gone but her father is still adamant. May God help you and morenike 5 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 8:59am On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:bro u mean o 2 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 9:03am On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:Ikpu stop talking like a child. She isn't crying or whinning,she only needed advice. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 9:04am On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:Amen my sister... my father is cool with us..just his parents and I don't have a mum to come for my omugwo...the dudes parent threatened to disown his sis if she marries outside Igbo...who does that? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by mylove4him(f): 9:06am On May 26, 2016 |
This is a very dicey situation. In any inter tribal marriage you need both families to.consent to it. It is easier if it was your parents that were foot dragging and the guys parents accepted you. In this case, it isn't that way. Marrying into an igbo family you need his parents consent cos when u marry them you marry all of his family. There is even a red flag as the guy as u describe him isn't firm and can waiver when the issues arise. Marriage is sweet when u have a supportive husband and a supportive inlaws. When you have a fiance that waivers and tends to listen to other people more omo you are on your own. I tell you the journey will be lonely and u will be married but single. I know it is difficult to walk away after 5 years but you need to have a rethink. If he says all those things you wrote there. He has already told you the relationship is over indirectly but he doesn't have the 'liver' to tell you to your face. Pray about it and if after that you still don't have inner peace. Girl, you have to take a walk. Painful but what can you do? I feel your pain. You better go somewhere you are accepted than going where u ain't accepted. Marriage is deeper than what you see outside. Think deeply. I wish you the best. 12 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 9:08am On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices:Hmmm this is serious..what is your BF saying about it?Seek the face of God.. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 9:11am On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:He is being a committed,obedient first son and first born of the FAM, laying good examples |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 9:15am On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices:O ti pari niyen..Nothing as good as having a man who would stand by you...My dear joor move on 9 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 9:15am On May 26, 2016 |
mylove4him:Thanks love...wish u luck too 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 9:17am On May 26, 2016 |
Lalasticlala,mynd44,royalroy,seun a sister needs help |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by jashar(f): 9:56am On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices: I'm gathering my thoughts. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by dragonking2: 10:51am On May 26, 2016 |
In the past Igbos were not too tribalistic but now Igbos are very tribalistic. Its a big shame 10 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by OsusuMustFlow(f): 10:51am On May 26, 2016 |
KINDLY MOVE ON |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 10:51am On May 26, 2016 |
kaziblake:Amu, I said that advice is when you know the truth and wanted to be told something else I told her to take a walk 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Odunharry(m): 10:53am On May 26, 2016 |
Love is never enough. It's left for the guy to make his parent see reason with him.. If they are still adamant, it best you move on.. Truly, love alone isn't enough 4 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 10:53am On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices: But I said that fact |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by berrystunn(m): 10:54am On May 26, 2016 |
Only apply when the guy is poor Too much money, no body will talk.... 9 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by dragonking2: 10:54am On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices:You better leave and look for someone else before you regret the decision. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 10:54am On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices: My dear what matters is if both of you agree, I had a friend in similar circumstances he went ahead and married his true love and eventually his parents had no choice but to accept. You see what matters in issues like this is the man, is he man enough if yes that's all you need as his support is what mattters 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 10:55am On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu: You mean you actually took time to spew this kinda Nonsense? 16 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 10:55am On May 26, 2016 |
Odunharry: Abi she wan form day she know know |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by colli247(m): 10:56am On May 26, 2016 |
richyblink1:Let's stop encouraging tribalism and encourage one another to resist it gently till it's corrected nice one 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 10:57am On May 26, 2016 |
Lordguap51: That one concern u She wanted advise I gave her one U call it nonsense 3 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by tammie24: 10:57am On May 26, 2016 |
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