I was forced to put this into writing after reading about the pain and fear of a Sister whose topic is presently on todays frontpage. legalspices @


what do you personally think is behind the current High rate of divorce , could it be because people are not getting married to thier choice of person ?

i will site three key examples to buttress my point.

1. Cases where the Person we truly Love doesnt love us in return : this mostly happen among our females , this society frowns at women declaring their interest in a man, such a lady silently hold those desires until the man in question is captured by another woman . she is then forced to consider the men with whom she has little interest . , of course it happens to males too. when the lady of their dreams reject them. most turn players and find it hard to Love again.

what can be said about the marriages of people in this category ? u get my point.

2. Cases where GENOTYPE destroys a strong Love : Genotype is important! Agree. I know some cases where two people who are really attracted to each other are confronted with the blow of genotype. they cried their eyes out . in this case, this set of people when they get married to another person still find it hard to love their partner like their former date

what can be said about the eventual marriage of this category ?


3. Cases where TRIBALISM destroys a Strong relationship : I felt so bad reading your pains and fear about your 6 year relationship@ legalspices... this set of people are set apart with the excuse of tribe, most ones that are fragile at heart might get into another relationship but the feelings will never be the same. it felt as though a part of them still remains with their former partner.

what can now be said about the eventual marriage of this set of people ? just marrying to please their parents ? to please the society ? while their heart is somewhere else?

ur candid views are needed brothers and sisters

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All the above are valid points, but not the real reasons. Which are....

Africa magic/ Telemundo. The new marriage standard setting organisations for 'wise' women.


You see, according to these august institutions, husbands nowadays are not living up to their minimum responsibility of providing for their loving wives; breakfast in Dubai, lunch after clothes shopping in Paris, and dinner in Milan (weekdays), while weekends should be at the very least, spent in Hawaii. All these while the children (exactly one handsome boy, one pretty girl, both super intelligent), are expected to maintain their own responsibility of not shitting in their Saville row pampers (or on the Italian terrazoed floor), or ever being inconsiderate enough to fall sick unnecessarily. Of course, with supervision only from an unpaid (but still ever grateful) housemaid, the children should always come top of their ivy league schools and become world reknowned neurosurgeons after two years of medical school (as an amusing hobby of course, not for money, which never fails to automatically replenish itself in the numerous local and overseas accounts).

When the present-day insensitive husbands and the present-day ungrateful children learn to fulfill their responsibilities cited above, then all couples can probably live happily ever after.

Ok, so there was a little exaggeration, but you get my point.

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A fvckable co.ck

I guess ppl don't take their wedding vows seriously anymore . They forget the bad times r part of the package.
We've got too many messed up ideas. All dem brodas watching porn nd discovering their wives can't do wat those ladies too. Next tin is "she doesn't satisfy me in bed". And all dem ladies finding likes on instagram. Virtual life ppl. Oma she ooo.
Also dey don't want to try to make things work.
They don't remember d reason they got married in the first place and probably some1 is doing all the work trying to make things better.
Above all they don't put God first again ooooo. I've learnt that u can't truly luv outside God. +we tend to put God in the bck seat everytime. He's not abstract you knw.

Abeg before u ppl attack me this is my opinion. I am entitled to it

Lack of honesty!
MARRIAGE is only a means of survival and a result is societal pressure to MARRY AND BORN!

Not necessary in this day and age.

People should try to get to know themselves FIRST, before seeking others for partnership.

I nor go try am again o!

Even if it involves crossing into heavenly everlasting! OR A BLOKOS OF GOLD!!!

Tufiaaaaaaakwa!!! This wan wey I dey so? I can't wait to gerrrrrrrrout!!!
MAMA GODIOH!!!Na beg I dey begggioh.
Da mi loun o!!!!

#pickupmycall#

Because the world is insane.

We have misplaced our priorities...
Material things have replaced values
We are more religious instead of being a believer....

We copy everything from the West, both good and bad stuff. Insanity is just the order of the day.

There's no more patience and tolerance any more....

Some couple no longer want to work on their differences... They want out on the slightest provocation...

though i do not believe that couples should stay on an abusive relationship.. but some divorce are something that good communication can solve...

KanwuliaExtra:
Lack of honesty!
MARRIAGE is only a means of survival and a result is societal pressure to MARRY AND BORN!

Not necessary in this day and age.

People should try to get to know themselves FIRST, before seeking others for partnership.

I nor go try am again o!

Even if it involves crossing into heavenly everlasting! OR A BLOKOS OF GOLD!!!

Tufiaaaaaaakwa!!! This wan wey I dey so? I can't wait to gerrrrrrrrout!!!
MAMA GODIOH!!!Na beg I dey begggioh.
Da mi loun o!!!!

#pickupmycall#

Lolsss....no be only blokos of gold ooo!u r very funny & ur dp sef another yawah dont worry God don pick up already

@ Farmerforlife

Farmerforlife:
All the above are valid points, but not the real reasons. Which are....


Africa magic/ Telemundo. The new marriage standard setting organisations for 'wise' women.


You see, according to these august institutions, husbands nowadays are not living up to their minimum responsibility of providing for their loving wives; breakfast in Dubai, lunch after clothes shopping in Paris, and dinner in Milan (weekdays), while weekends should be at the very least, spent in Hawaii. All these while the children (exactly one handsome boy, one pretty girl, both super intelligent), are expected to maintain their own responsibility of not shitting in their Saville row pampers (or on the Italian terrazoed floor), or ever being inconsiderate enough to fall sick unnecessarily. Of course, with supervision only from an unpaid (but still ever grateful) housemaid, the children should always come top of their ivy league schools and become world reknowned neurosurgeons after two years of medical school (as an amusing hobby of course, not for money, which never fails to automatically replenish itself in the numerous local and overseas accounts).

When the present-day insensitive husbands and the present-day ungrateful children learn to fulfill their responsibilities cited above, then all couples can probably live happily ever after.

Ok, so there was a little exaggeration, but you get my point.

Brilliant! Some of this series and episodes on Africa Magic/ Telemundo and Romantic Novels have actually set a wrapped view of marriage responsibilities in the mind of many , and sorry to say most especially women . this is [size=24] Ruining Marriages too [/size]


thanks for your contribution. many might see this and changed their mindset or attitude if they have been affected by this kind of mentality.

TELEMONDO,ZEEWORLD,AFRICAN MAGIC has really dealt a big blow to our marriage institution.It has fed our ladies with some unrealistic expectations on how to go about their marriage.It has really encouraged the female folks to disregard our value system,rendered most of them morally bankrupt.

western influence and woman empowerment

Alexgeneration:
TELEMONDO,ZEEWORLD,AFRICAN MAGIC has really dealt a big blow to our marriage institution.It has fed our ladies with some unrealistic expectations on how to go about their marriage.It has really encouraged the female folks to disregard our value system,rendered most of them morally bankrupt.

Every father and husband MUST ban those channels and desperate housewives series etc.

Topic like this has to be treated with wisdom and experience.

I will be enumerating some points on this from time to time.

1. Fear of God....Its a pity we don't have this among our youth anymore, we are all going to church n mosque just to show up, dance and donate but neglected what God said about marriage. Those few that have fear of God and married such are enjoying their marriage cos Iron sharpen iron.

2. Understanding Purpose of Marriage....ask some about to wed couple why they want to marry, you will be surprised with their responses.....If the purpose is not properly defined abusive will set in.

3. Proper Investigation about your partner.....lot of people dont bother about this anymore, d fact that you meet her in d church does not mean she will be a good wife, the fact that he is a choir master does not mean he will be a good husband....praying 5days daily does not mean your home will settle. Proper investigation is needed before saying yet. You don't need to rush into d marriage no matter d level of pressure, do ur investigation without any sentiment. How well do you know ur partner? How about his or her family background? His/her past record? Have u been to his/her family house? Have u ever visited him/her in d office? Are you always going to his / her house unannounced? Have u ever seen her witot makeup? Men! Have you find out if her boobs are natural or artificial (foam bra) same her heaps? Not necessary to have sex to find out, but go there early in d Morin unannounced.

Gender equality syndrome.......this is what we emulated from,Western world witot looking at d effect of this own them before adopting it. What did God say about this? He said husband is d head but today our women want to be sharing same right with men, we had forgotten that this is Africa not Europe or America.....out DNA cannot be changed, their law over their gave women right to do n undo but here d man will just walk away....effect of gender equality has really damaged lot of home world wide and I bet you it will not work perfectly in Africa and dont forget instead of it to work, it will continue causing damages cos its violation of God's rule. The more you are proving You have same right as ur husband, d more d man is loosing interest in such woman.....dont forget that some are outside there who will give him more respect.

Issue of Money in the Marriage.....This is a sensitive issue that causes serious problem in a home....Lot of men get frustrated wen they dont have money to keep their family especially wen d helper (wife) decided not to support f man financially....this is one of d topic that need to be properly addressed before saying I do...Ladies dont like such discussion they want man yo be d only one that will carry all.....in that case if d man os not meeting up, he will see such woman as cankerworm in his life.....some women are spending their money on their own family instead of helping d man with some bills.....at d same time some men are always depending on their wife money, they keep borrowing until the wife is drained financially, some will stop making effort cos they belief there wife is there to drop d money....some men will prefer spending their money with girl friends and some friends witot taking care of their home, some will even collect from their wife to spend on their concubine.... all sort of this collapses marriage. Any relationship where one partner find it difficult to assist each other, such cannot stand test of marriage. The reason why some ladies are still single is because they always depend on their boy friend, some will even say how can I spend for a guy? Any day d guy see another lady who offer helping hands is d day d guy will leave u. If your boy friend too is always demanding from you cos he knew you have money, u shd know,such is not a good husband to be with..

To be continued