Sorry for this epistle but it worth it.....happy
reading.


HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

This may not be the best time for me to write on
this because of misinterpretations, but I can no
longer resist the push.


"Husband Scarcity"
has become one of the challenges faced by many
young girls today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a life
partner. And this calls for concern. Casting our
minds back to the time of our mothers and
grandmothers, was there really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there
were more men than women then, or there was an
adequate corresponding numbers of both genders.

I don't think so.

Maybe then, the women had values and were
prepared to build a home and not park into a built
home.

Then, once a young man comes of age and
can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out
in search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a future.

What am I really trying to say?

We created what we now see as "Husband
Scarcity" for ourselves.


Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl
to define her dream husband; you get things like
"he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a
house at least, and be presentable" and then she
adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so
worldly.


Then, check the number of girls around you and
the number of men that meet that standard, and
you will see the problem.

You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's
house and then go and start suffering with a man."



What a wonderful dream!
What if from the
beginning, you have everything you want and there
is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table
turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run
away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to
start small and end big, than start big and end
small.


The problem is that the description majority of
girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same.


When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the
man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the
man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49
others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity".


Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to
the face of our economy to find a man who is of
marriage age who possesses all those things these
ladies want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those in
Internet fraud is not enough to match all those
searching for already made husbands.

If you look
around, majority of the ladies of substance, of
good value and virtue, who are ready to build a
home with a man who has prospects, are married
and not complaining of husband scarcity.


The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change
your view of who a husband is: A husband is that
man God made and then saw that it may be
hard for him to really actualize his purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then
made the woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled .


MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION
PROGRAM . It is a mission of building the family of
God here on earth. For those who see marriage as
a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage.


Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH
WITH HIS DESTINY .


Where he is today, may only be a route to where
God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS
TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.

Join in alleviating
"husband scarcity".


Hey! PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.

I am not saying that you should pick anyone that
comes your way and talks of marriage,not all men
are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you
should stop setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond
the physical.


WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT
HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS
MADE UP OF .


And that which he is made of is, most times, not
seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be
seen.Marriage is a permanent thing.

Whatever is
seen is temporal and that which is not seen is
permanent.


Good day!


#Curbed....

Great write up @op,
I want to add that, although economic challenges is one of the major reason why we have HUSBAND SCARCITY today, but your points above validate why even those (GUYS ) who are relatively well to do financially finds it difficult to settle down.

The poor guys complain about no money
The rich ones don't know who genuinely love them and not for the money.

My pastor last Sunday called for a special closed door meeting with all matured eligible single ladies in the church who their guys don't want to take the next step forward.
I couldn't help myself but laugh.

I cant believe this, just one comment on one of the best Topic ever, if it all about celebrities and useless news, the mod and seun would have put this on FP.

Dear OP, you made alot of sense, may God open the eyes of these ladies of nowadays to see the truth.

Most times the reason for most divorce is because most ladies marry because of selffishness and not because of real love, they often want the best why they are not close to been the best.

I will advise any man that want rest of mind for himself should be careful who he marry, even if she marries you, doesnt mean she wont leave you when things arent going in the right way, once again @OP thumbs up to you, for this reasonable observation.

Nice one

Nigerian ladies don't like this

Good writeup and on point. May God help our ladies to have a better enlightenment about life and not all this fantasies that clouds their sense of reasoning. As for the young men, may they be able to make wise decisions as to the right woman to settle with. One that will stand by them tro thick and thin and not one that will walk in and out at will.

bayonino:
I cant believe this, just one comment on one of the best Topic ever, if it all about celebrities and useless news, the mod and seun would have put this on FP.

Dear OP, you made alot of sense, may God open the eyes of these ladies of nowadays to see the truth.

Most times the reason for most divorce is because most ladies marry because of selffishness and not because of real love, they often want the best why they are not close to been the best.

I will advise any man that want rest of mind for himself should be careful who he marry, even if she marries you, doesnt mean she wont leave you when things arent going in the right way, once again @OP thumbs up to you, for this reasonable observation.

Thanks man... I really appreciate ur comment

I concur