Fedayeen02:
so you have lost that love letter who will write another one for me



Jux negodu

Hehehehehehehe

Wats ur work nau? U 'll write anoda #biggrin

pweetychyka:


Thanks for ur comprehensive explanation!

Its very well appreciated n Noted

No worries, my mum told me about this tradition a few years ago. I found it quite interesting. I can understand given what a woman marrying a women signifies to many of us but they just created an acceptable tradition to them in response to matters outside of their control. The fact that no one is looked down upon or rejected because of it is actually quite mature of the people I think. The relationship is not sexual between the women but more of a contractual understanding.



Now there are some other so called traditions that need to be done away with pronto though.

pweetychyka:


Hehehehehehehe

Wats ur work nau? U 'll write anoda #biggrin

I'm not Obj the letter writer but i will write another cos of your low cut

londoner:


No worries, my mum told me about this tradition a few years ago. I found it quite interesting. I can understand given what a woman marrying a women signifies to many of us but they just created an acceptable tradition to them in response to matters outside of their control. The fact that no one is looked down upon or rejected because of it is actually quite mature of the people I think. The relationship is not sexual between the women but more of a contractual understanding.



Now there are some other so called traditions that need to be done away with pronto though.

Nice one!

Your mum has really done a good job!
Thanks to her

age2richee:
First to comment, lol it's very weird and interesting. Why not just adopt a child?

True, I agree that adoption as well as female inheritance needs to be accepted much more. However, can I ask you something?

Do you generally feel that a woman should not have a surrogate to carry a child who will belong to her and her husband? Why do people go through fertility treatment and artificial insemination at all right?

Why don't they ALL simply adopt? That option is open to all women and men worldwide but they still don't simply go down that route.

Because we can't have our cake and eat it nuances are created. If we are going to continue to legitimise a man and woman through offspring and have inheritance be the sole affairs of the male members of the family then traditions like these are practiced and safeguarded until we think a little differently in these matters. Life happens in the midst of all the rules we seem to hold dear, so after all the hard work as a man, brother, husband and father can enrich others that did not lift a finger as if you did it all for their benefit. Even when you had a son but he died before you. This burden visits every generation with this same responsibility to have a male child, because if a man's son inherits he also needs to have a done to inherit from him......and so it goes on and on especially as tradition supercedes the concept a legal will.

I know the barbaric tradition could only come from the SE region.

focus7:
I know the barbaric tradition could only come from the SE region.

Would you mind explaining what is barbaric about it though?

pweetychyka:


Nice one!

Your mum has really done a good job!
Thanks to her

Awww thanks

Fedayeen02:
tell me plz

Apparently, it is uncivilized and primitive behaviour.

Kobicove:


How is it barbaric?

Do you even know the meaning of the word "Barbaric"?

Apparently, it is uncivilized and primitive behaviour

ceemere:
Trash trash trash, atleast not in my own part of mbaise. Infact its not done anywhere in Mbaise. Mvmv OP just dey compile script for her new yeye movie. Mtchewww

You don't know because you are not conversant with your culture. it is an acceptable norm all over Igbo land.

pweetychyka:


Hehehehehehehe

Wats ur work nau? U 'll write anoda #biggrin

can we chat offline?

Bimpe29:

Apparently, it is uncivilized and primitive behaviour.

barbarism is when someone hacks a person to death in the name of religion. Continue in your muslim faith

Fedayeen02:
can we chat offline?

Its okay!
Hope I 've not committed any offence?

pweetychyka:


Its okay!

Hope I 've not committed any offence?

No

pweetychyka:


Its okay!

Hope I 've not committed any offence?

which offense kwa

It happens in most places including mine especially in olden days. everybody is now claiming...

pweetychyka:


Its okay!

Hope I 've not committed any offence?

my internet is messing up

Big fool. Male LovePeddler! that's what you are. Oprah slept with countless men??

The tomato epidemic must've rot your brain. Lower human!

Festivalofholi:
Yeah, after she has slept with countless men ba? Ur a sex object, deal with it.

Millerz:
Big fool. Male LovePeddler! that's what you are. Oprah slept with countless men??

The tomato epidemic must've rot your brain. Lower human!

Yeah, dats wot u all women r meant for. Objects we can dump our spe.rm on, nothing else.

pweetychyka:


Hehehehehehehe

Wats ur work nau? U 'll write anoda #biggrin

add me 7fb

Well, not everyone is going to understand or agree with the concept, but that's fine it's not their practice which is fine but the pressure to have a male child and heir is something that virtually all Nigerian tribes have. Others find their own way to 'address' the issue when it presents itself. It could be getting another woman pregnant behind the wife's back, getting a second wife which the first accepts or just pressuring the first wife out of the narrative and her husband's home.

Maybe the issue here is that the woman is married to the wife rather than the husband taking a second wife? After all we are all used to that scenario and with a woman unable to have kids or not having a son, maybe people would 'sympathise' with the mans 'plight'.

I for one have no real issue with surrogate mother, adoptive mothers or contractual agreements between women about bearing a child for someone else or given a child for adoption to a women who is either unable to have children or who has no surviving male son in Igbolands current cultural context. What needs to change are the rules of inheritance but then they come from other entrenched rules about the root family and the married family where the female is concerned. It all has knock on effects which I doubt we are prepared to face.

Fedayeen02:
barbarism is when someone hacks a person to death in the name of religion. Continue in your muslim faith

I understand ur sentiment better, even though d subject matter has no connection with religion.

Chai! Chai!! Chai!!!
This is most important piece of information I have ever read in this year.
No wonder majority of Igbos are either Robbers, Kidnappers, Drug traffickers/dealers, rapist, 419ers, Baby factory, Gold diggers, Scammers Prostitutes or Militants/Terrorist.
What do u expect from Children born out of wedlock?

Warning: never have sex with ipob prostitute or else...

ishiamu:


the later

Ok.

Tribal bigots everywhere! Is this culture not better than a particular tribe that are popular for promiscuity and high divorce rates?

Bookmarked for future reference.

uzor2:
It is a common practice in Igbo land for an older woman to marry a younger woman either for the husband or to bear children for her. It is not only in mbaise but in majority of the igbo land. It is equal to adoption of babies.

or Baby Factory...
Rabish...

AxeurdaddyIX:


Keep Quiet. Whether Yoruba or Igbo or whatever. What's bad is bad. Let's be honest to ourselves.

Bros..I'm neither igbo nor yoruba
But I'd like to correct ur notion of GOOD/BAD
Nothin in life has its genric name as GOOD or BAD

It's our perception dat determines these moral entities..
This is an evidence of ur cognitive ability..
If u were asked today..wah propounded the basis of ur labelling this or dat "GOOD/BAD"..
If u r intellectual as I'd like to imagine u r..u wud hesitate for few seconds at such a questn..
Yea..u shud..coz it shud dawn on u dat u dint bring ur basis of good/bad directly from the womb..
Some factors basically impressioned dis upon u b4 ur cognitive abilities began to play a better part in shapin ur world-view..
These factors includes religion, peer-groups, native customs(exemplary from the thread's topic)..
U r bein told and taught what and what not to bliv is GOOD/BAD at a certain age b4 u began reasoning independently..
Erstwhile..each and evri1 of us stil buys these ideas that av been imbibed in us from one or two of the aforementioned factors..which makes us rebuke somtinz as gud or bad later in life.

Plz be discretional enuf not to always outrageously rebuke tinz or ppl's way of life as this or dat(more like u tryna abuse the "evri1 has a right to their opinion" cliche)
Remember..some tinz u call gud r bad to some opposing others..
It's juz a matter of perception nd moral acceptance..
This, sir, is the essence of religion, customs etc..."a smart way of concatenating/fusing worldviews"..so the issue of moral acceptance wud be narrowed down to sects rather than the individual..
U knw..if thr r 100 folks in 1room made up of ppl wit 100differing moral standards and worldviews;
unity, tolerance and moral acceptance of each other wud be a serious issue..
Buh if these 100 folks are made into two religious divisions with only two differing worldviews based strictly on religion(in dis case, whr ur religious standards supercedes ur personal standard)..tolerance is cheaper dis way for the sake of harmonious co-habitation..

Coolgent:
Chai! Chai!! Chai!!!
This is most important piece of information I have ever read in this year.
No wonder majority of Igbos are either Robbers, Kidnappers, Drug traffickers/dealers, rapist, 419ers, Baby factory, Gold diggers, Scammers Prostitutes or Militants/Terrorist.
What do u expect from Children born out of wedlock?

Warning: never have sex with ipob prostitute or else...

Lolz..wat does being born in/out of wedlock have to do with determining a person's character?...
I fear naijans sha..
More like u wud debate dat pastor's children wud be d best behaved...smh

Bimpe29:

Apparently, it is uncivilized and primitive behaviour.

Aunty scholar..so wahz ur definition of civilized and contemporary behaviour?..

The concept of polyandry and/or wide acceptance of "homosexuality" ..??(Amongst gross others)

Coz we both knw it's d same guys who intellectually empowered u to call dese cultural acts "uncivilized and primitive" dat pioneered a wide acceptance of "polyandry" and "homosexuality" in Africa

That practice is becoming obsolete, with the advent of modern legal system, I can choose to will my properties to anyone in event of my passing, male child or not. I don't know about Mbaise tho, am not from there.