tpia.:

who is trying to get who pregnant exactly?

if you feel he's trying to get you pregnant so he can get his citizenship, why not sit each other down and have a heart to heart talk.

touchmeder:

Nawa ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. ure probably an american living there u should be the one telling us!

190:

and u dnt want him gettin u pregnant

well,


im here and can do berra if u ask mi
^{hw do we hook up}

TheSeeker:

A Nigerian trying to get you pregnant? I think he's as dumb as the dumbest man in the world, if he's not the dumbest. Getting you pregnant doesn't in any way get him citizenship unless you're both married. I'm not sure what he stands to get, but he can be able to stay in the US for as long as he wants to, either by upping his status or by renewing his visa which will cost him almost nothing. Generally, if he's looking to get citizenship or a resident permit, I don't think this is one of the requirements.

Why I say he's dumb is, if he's trying to get you pregnant for the sake of some citizenship papers, then I doubt he's a Nigerian at all - and if he is, he's the most stupid. I'm sure he knows that child support can wreck even the richest man in the world and there's no way he can escape that when y'all start having problems. It's either he goes to jail, goes bankrupt or he's bundled out the United States.

If he knows immigration rules, I don't think he's trying to get any sort of upgraded residential status in the States, rather I'd advise you talk to him and know what's up with him and I'm sure there lies your answer. If I were your man, and I have no undertone intention, yet, you think this of me, I'll break up immediately.

I'm tired of these lousy people trying to enlist any Nigerian that dates them as wanting citizenship at any discomfort in that relationship . . . why can't you all stick to your AAs and white men, and leave Nigerian men alone? Nonsense! Citizenship ko, heaven's candidacy ni.

TheSeeker:

A Nigerian trying to get you pregnant? I think he's as dumb as the dumbest man in the world, if he's not the dumbest. Getting you pregnant doesn't in any way get him citizenship unless you're both married. I'm not sure what he stands to get, but he can be able to stay in the US for as long as he wants to, either by upping his status or by renewing his visa which will cost him almost nothing. Generally, if he's looking to get citizenship or a resident permit, I don't think this is one of the requirements.

Why I say he's dumb is, if he's trying to get you pregnant for the sake of some citizenship papers, then I doubt he's a Nigerian at all - and if he is, he's the most stupid. I'm sure he knows that child support can wreck even the richest man in the world and there's no way he can escape that when y'all start having problems. It's either he goes to jail, goes bankrupt or he's bundled out the United States.

If he knows immigration rules, I don't think he's trying to get any sort of upgraded residential status in the States, rather I'd advise you talk to him and know what's up with him and I'm sure there lies your answer. If I were your man, and I have no undertone intention, yet, you think this of me, I'll break up immediately.

I'm tired of these lousy people trying to enlist any Nigerian that dates them as wanting citizenship at any discomfort in that relationship . . . why can't you all stick to your AAs and white men, and leave Nigerian men alone? Nonsense! Citizenship ko, heaven's candidacy ni. 

190:

@poster
yes i can be of assistance 2 u
wher u based!

mkiecihell:

Don't get upset, I'm not trying to offend anyone. It just seems that he's trying to be sneaky about getting me pregnant and I'm just trying to figure out why. If it were an american man I was be suspicious as well. of course his motives would be different. maybe this is just his way of trying to tie me down but I'm glad to know it's not for immigration purposes.

mkiecihell:

I was wondering this because I believe that the Nigerian man I'm with is trying to get me pregnant? I'm just wondering could there be an ulterior motive for this.

mkiecihell:


The nigerian guy I am seeing. I think he is trying to get me pregnant although he said the first time we had sex that he doesn't want kids, his actions speak differently.

$osisi:

This is the most stupid thread in this forum!
How can a Nigerian "be trying" to get you pregnant
are you not a willing participant in the act
How on earth does one try to get another pregnant
Are you a mentally handicapped person in a group home or are we dealing with a capable adult.

$osisi:


This is the most stupid thread in this forum!
How can a Nigerian "be trying" to get you pregnant
are you not a willing participant in the act
How on earth does one try to get another pregnant
Are you a mentally handicapped person in a group home or are we dealing with a capable adult.

$osisi:

what actions?
he bites holes into the condom or takes it off without your knowing?
what exactly is this Nigerian man doing?

TheSeeker:

I thought I was being unreasonably upset about this. . . . we're not even enough yet for our powerful and ever chic Nigerian girls, but we always get all these misconceptions each time something goes wrong in our relationships with them. I see she can't tell us what he exactly did. I want to assume you have nothing to hide, neither are you lying. We don't know either you nor him; say what ever it is that he did and we can be sure of what you're saying. To me, this sounds like a hoax - you don't seem like you've got anything on him.

TheSeeker:

I thought I was being unreasonably upset about this. . . . we're not even enough yet for our powerful and ever chic Nigerian girls, but we always get all these misconceptions each time something goes wrong in our relationships with them. I see she can't tell us what he exactly did. I want to assume you have nothing to hide, neither are you lying. We don't know either you nor him; say what ever it is that he did and we can be sure of what you're saying. To me, this sounds like a hoax - you don't seem like you've got anything on him.

mkiecihell:


No, I have nothing to hide I just didn't want to sound graphic. But we agreed he would pull out and he didn't. when he finished he pretended to ejaculate in the sheets but he had actually already ejaculated inside me. I asked where he ejaculated at and he said the sheets. I checked when he got up and the sheets were dry and I umm wasn't. I told him that I knew he didn't ejcaulate in the sheets and he lied about it. I said that i would go to get the morning after pill so that I won't get preggo and he told me it was a waste of money. Anyway a week later he told me that he did ejaculate inside of me and i asked him why he lied and he said that never lied.

$osisi:

and you've never heard of condoms?
never seen one?
ever heard of HIV and AIDS?
You sound like a 12 year old
I shouldn't even be having this conversation.

mkiecihell:

Of course I've heard of all of the above. Maybe I am being foolish but I've known this man for 3 years and I've been tested since becoming sexually active with him. I do trust that he will not bring me back an STD. As for birth control I just avoid having sex during my fertile periods.

$osisi:

Please if you don't mind my asking,how old might you be?

mkiecihell:

Of course I've heard of all of the above. Maybe I am being foolish but I've known this man for 3 years and I've been tested since becoming sexually active with him. I do trust that he will not bring me back an STD.  As for birth control I just avoid having sex during my fertile periods.

mkiecihell:


No, I have nothing to hide I just didn't want to sound graphic. But we agreed he would pull out and he didn't. when he finished he pretended to ejaculate in the sheets but he had actually already ejaculated inside me. I asked where he ejaculated at and he said the sheets. I checked when he got up and the sheets were dry and I umm wasn't. I told him that I knew he didn't ejcaulate in the sheets and he lied about it. I said that i would go to get the morning after pill so that I won't get preggo and he told me it was a waste of money. Anyway a week later he told me that he did ejaculate inside of me and i asked him why he lied and he said that never lied.

mkiecihell:

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$osisi:

The individual signed on to nairaland today and starts a thread 2 hours later.
I bet you this is a man and most likely an old forumite who wants to spice up his life by taking on another persona.
There are many crazy people here and this is one of them.
I've not been wrong too many times with my guesses

TheSeeker:

I don't mean to be insulting but listen to yourself? Do you make sense at all? You talk as if you're a 5th grader. First of all, you've known him for three years but you don't know what kind of man he is? What are you? You're just so stupidly unbelievable. You had the effrontery to have sex with him without condoms and you're asking him to do what, ejaculate on the sheets?

Well, what you said he did is nothing new. I have in the past had sex with girls (who I had tested) without condoms, they'd tell me not to pour it in there but I eventually did and when they ask me, I lied about it or simply keep quiet; I did say a couple of times that I didn't because I think she'd know already and asking me is like pretense or just wanting to know what I'd say. Seriously, that didn't make me a liar and I can't categorize that as a lie. And what's the meaning of having sex without a condom when you know he shouldn't offload into you?

Your accusation and observation hold no water - it makes not even the least of senses.  Look, stop all these misconceptions and concentrate on your relationship if at all it means anything to you and stop talking to those dumb and foolish friends of yours who think they know anything when they can hardly spell their names let alone knowing what goes on in the world of immigration.

mkiecihell:


SO when you were having unprotected sex these women did pregnancy not enter your mind? I assume when you "poured" inside of her you were prepared to be a father correct? I'm just saying that he says he does not want kids but he doesn't act like it.

$osisi:


My first advice will be to ask you to abstain till; marriage
The second will be tell you that the rhythm and withdrawal methods have very high failure rates ,unless you want to add abortions as part of your contraceptive method. (which would be dumb)
A word is enough for the wise