larabae13:
bae I'll really advice you to love yourself, cos ur bf isn't worthy of u at all u shld be proud of ur curves nd lushness itz nuffin to be ashamed of....some guyz really love girls dat are lush.....u dnt av to please anybody be ursef nd dnt let anyone bring down ur self esteem....buh incase u still need to lose weight,u can squeeze lotta limes into a bottled water nd drink it early in the morning b4 u eat....it really helps. Even sam smith can testify

Ajewealth123:
come

depressedgurl:
Thank you very much. Its not about losing weight for my boyfriend but for myself. I know there are men who like women like me. Fat or slim that was not really an issue for me but I am not looking for a man. I just want to be myself again and do things I like and try not to let people get to me too much. I guess am kinda soft at heart so I take things deep.

BrideOfDracula:


Now this is where the logic of your story is flawed. The idea of speaking to a professional doesn't sit well with you because you already know & they don't care. So what's the point of this thread? How many here genuinely care?

I think if you're seriously mentally ill & not just attention seeking, you should seek a doctor. Depression is nothing to take lightly

larabae13:
ok oo buh take things easy...try d things I told u do nd holla at me if it works.

depressedgurl:
I will definitely do that. Thanks for the kind words

Estharfabian:
I forgot to Add ''perverse"...

Ajewealth123:
you can give that to your entire generation and yet to come generation bastard son of a thousand father. If you quote me again, may amadioha in conjunction with sango and obatala strike your whole generation dead oloriburuku somebody. Initially, did I mention you? Why can't u mind your fucking biz? Quote again idiot

depressedgurl:

The reason it doesn't sir well with me is firstly in real life I am not the type of person to speak in front of someone about my feelings etc. I am quiet reserved too so it would not work out with speaking to a professional. Secondly I know why am depressed. Usually you would seek a professional to talk to find the under root cause of depression. Thirdly a psychiatrist is very expensive and this thread is free.

BrideOfDracula:


No, psychiatrists aren't hypnotists, so most people usually have an idea of what their issues are (they may not know what it's called but that's what the doctor is for, to put a label on the symptoms). I agree that they're expensive so why not go to at least one or two appointments just to get a formal diagnosis & a subscription for your medication? Because once you know your dosage, maybe your illness will be much easier to handle. That way you'll be making healing from the inside out. Your binge eating or whatever is the cause of your so called weight gain, will not stop until you've taken care of what needs to be taken care of.

Don't they provide free mental health care where you live? Or go to support groups, you don't pay a dime for those.

depressedgurl:
Hi all.
I don't even know where to start from. I have been suffering from depression since my teen years and its been off and on. Sometimes it gets better and sometimes it gets worse and this has also been the reason for my weight fluctuation as I am an emotional eater.

So this is the fattest I have been and I feel so ugly and don't really want to go anywhere anymore because people always make comments about my weight and this makes me feel very bad. A person knows when they haive gained weight and when they are fat. People don't need to keep rubbing it on their faces.

Anyways my boyfriend loves really slim women. He does not like a women fat. When am with him and he thinks am not watching I see how he looks at other slim women. All his ex gf have been slim and were ever slimmer than I was when we first met. I just feel so unloved and don't feel much support. I am trying to lose weight even if it means the quick way like pills etc as am tired of feeling this way.

I tend to gain weight more on the down part my butt, hips and thighs and then my top. I would really appreciate if anyone could recommend something they have used that really worked?

P.s please don't bash me or insult me. It took a lot to post these pics and I know I am fat so that is not the issue.

depressedgurl:


Who said pyschiatrists are hypnotist? anyways thanks but am seeking other options more suitable for me.

BrideOfDracula:


You said people go to psychiatrists, usually when they want to know the source of their depression & I'm disagreeing with you. That's either a hypnotist or maybe even a psychic See, not everyone is clueless about these things hence your story is...meh.

Whatever rocks your boat. Because like the "doc", I also don't care.

Debbywills:
The real question you should ask yourself is "Do I really want to be slim, or am just trying to impress my Boyfriend and the public"?
Seriously, this is the highest level of Inferiority complex.
You wanna get slimmer for a guy that might wake up one morning and tell you its over, and you'll get to meet another guy who will love you bold and thick, then you'll run around again, looking for pills to build up your body?

There's no need to be depressed, there are some persons that love you just the way you are.

depressedgurl:

Thanks for your response. Like I said earlier that I have been depressed since I was young and I have been having weight issues as well so this is not just because of my bf. I also stated that I want to lose weight for myself mostly and not just for my boyfriend. We have dated for 6 years and planning to get married so I know he loves me and that's not the point. I just wish he was more supportive with my whole weight issue is just one of the reason I am depressed and not the only reason. Its easy for you tosay there is no reason yp be depressed because you are not in my position nor know how I feel or am going through.

V0lv0:


I couldn't help but respond to this. Psychiatrist do help people to know their source of depression and thereafter will come up with the most suitable treatment. Secondly a hypnotist is is usually used for people who for example have a suppressed memory and they help you remember or if you have a bad habit that you want to get rid of something along those lines and a psychic is similar. So it would be utterly pointless for her to go to such people when she knows why she is depressed. It seems the only clueless one is you.

Leave the gal alone if you don't care and try and at least research what you are saying before you come across dumber than you are.

Vixkyydera:
I though depressed girls are mostly slim

V0lv0:
@ BrideofDracula as a medical doctor and one who has dealt with psychologist and psychiatrist I actually do know what I am talking about and I will rather base my opinion and knowledge from my experiences.

They do try and find out the underlying causes that's why they have sessions to enable them to determine the appropriate solution as you correctly mentioned medication is not only used to treat depression.

She mentioned earlier that's she knows why she is depressed and this has been going on since childhood. She also mentioned that's she seeked medical help from a Dr who prescribed her with medication. Generally for those who do not feel seeking counseling will be beneficial to them. They go on medication and try different drugs and if that still fails then counselling will be suggested as an alternative. Its actually always better to first see a Dr as depression can be a symptom of other diseases such as hyperthyroidism which causes weight gain and depression. @ op have you checked your thyroid? If not I suggest that you do.

Anyways I am not going to debate with you further on this. We can merely agree to disagree in this case

BrideOfDracula:


You said people go to psychiatrists, usually when they want to know the source of their depression & I'm disagreeing with you. That's either a hypnotist or maybe even a psychic See, not everyone is clueless about these things hence your story is...meh.

Whatever rocks your boat. Because like the "doc", I also don't care.

depressedgurl:
hypnotist or psychic I think we are both on different pages but to be honest just like you don't care I also don't care about your opinion. I am doing what I feel is best for myself.

Debbywills:


I don't need to be in your shoes before I understand you. I know its sickening but with time you'll trim down, always involve yourself in menial exercises, like jogging, Tummy bending, and so on. I think you should also watch our diet, you'll be able to have the shape you want.
Gracious Sunday!