I know of a lot of guys who say, "I know
this girl who's beautiful and smart and
attractive. She and I are great friends, we have
everything in common, and we get along
perfectly,  but she says that she's just not
attracted to me, "

    Have you ever noticed that:

1) The most attractive and interesting women seem
to be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?

2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more
she often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?

    What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be
"nice" to girls?

    Here's the deal: Women aren't usually
romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are
attracted to men who are funny, confident, and
mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're
not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to
learn how to attract women with your personality.

    And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.

I think it works both ways, Guys dont want to be with a "nice" girl, they want a freaky girl,

As for your comment, some may say that nice guys are boring and predictable but as for me, boring and predictable can be good because a bad boy will mess you up,

@ebonyeyes
It works both ways true. Though not all guys do. I for one, don't. A freaky girl will always be devious and what's the use of that, except if i want to be devious too?

I could kiss you for the last line. May ur eyes always be ebony . Am not saying am boring or predictable, but i do have my moments . What others may call boring and predictable sometimes actually translates to level-headed and focused.

I guess it goes both ways like some posters have said. . .most girls prefer to date a happening guy; a guy they feel knows it all; they see the quiet and nice guy as someone who doesn't know what's up.

Unfortunately for them, most of these happening guys turn out to be chronic womanizers who probably have no reasonable plans for them other than using them and breaking their hearts

I still agree with the first poster that being nice isn't the key to a girls heart.

booooo nice guys r boring!!! they talk about history n rules, go bad guys!!!

For the right woman, a bad boy can change his game and be the nicest innocent thing on earth, do u ever consider that?

ejeba:

I know of a lot of guys who say, "I know
this girl who's beautiful and smart and
attractive. She and I are great friends, we have
everything in common, and we get along
perfectly, but she says that she's just not
attracted to me, "

Have you ever noticed that:

1) The most attractive and interesting women seem
to be attracted to men who don't treat them very
well?

2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more
she often seems to act like "just a friend" to
you?

What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be
"nice" to girls?

Here's the deal: Women aren't usually
romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are
attracted to men who are funny, confident, and
mysterious[b]. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're
not 6'4" tall and model-handsome, then you have to
learn how to attract women with your personality.[/b]
And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.

Its because a lot of woman are caught up in negative attraction cycles,  its physcological.  Sometimes it because they have slept with the guy and developed feelings of attachment for him and they are hoping he will change.  Its also a bit of a competition, trying to win him over and he will change.  Eventually you realise men don't change for women they only change when they have to and its usually not due to a woman but something else in their life external events.  They then endure a heap of abuse till the change takes place hoping the man will change.  Often he doesn't thats why women have to be aware that negative behaviour traits shouldnt be attractive to them and if they are they need to look inside to understand work on that and deal with it or they will continue to be attracted to losers.  

Its mainly due to low self esteem not understanding themselves or not examining what they are attracted to.  As women mature they usually deal with these destructive attractions once a bad one has ruined their life a couple of times.  Then they usually find someone nicer and settle down with them.  Its really a maturity thing women in their late 20's and thirties have usually gone beyond that phase of life where they are attracted to such negative people.

Once a man hits me or cheats on me my attraction to him turns off instantly.  Its a natural thing now and thats how it should be.  If I love someone that doesn't make it right for the person to abuse me.  It is never right or acceptable for a man to abuse a woman.

Wait till you are in your thirties you will be really popular when they are picking who they are going to marry. Coz noone wants a life of hell and headaches.

yoohoo u go sweatipie , nice aint gone wok for us honey, u hafta be bad u no, some flashing here n there if u no wat i mean *wink* u have to be reall dirty n fun, grrr!!

babyme:

yoohoo u go sweatipie , nice aint gone wok for us honey, u hafta be bad u no, some flashing here n there if u no wat i mean *wink* u have to be reall dirty n fun, grrr!!

and a bit nice

Because they wanted to be hurt by the bad ones, and later runs to those nice ones to clean their tears for them, lol

well may be they scared of heart break

What do you wanna do with a nice guy? Long stories, no swagz, same thing different days, dulling, chain down

I have laughed at two or three 'nice guy' friends, who keep falling in love and got their collective hearts broken. One girl actually did it to two of them. Imagine!!! Not as if they even 'touched' anything. Kai! One of my favorite saying is we are like predators, we see a weakness and we exploit it!

Girls break nice guys heart!

Guys ditch nice

being too nice is a problem, being bad is also a problem. then what should we do ? you cant just be stuck in the middle that isnt possible at all. you either good or bad you cant be in between

I would never run away from a nice man. A nice man would always be honest, always communicate with you, all the time even when there are problems and just to see how your days been. Be faithful, soft, loving, caring and giving. Wow I would stay with him forever if I loved and fancied him.

VGA:

being too nice is a problem, being bad is also a problem. then what should we do ? you cant just be stuck in the middle that isnt possible at all. you either good or bad you cant be in between

yea, true talk!

girls don't really like nice guys.am an example. all i get from them is let's just be friends, so am begining to cut the friendship thing down, and of learning to tell lies now. guess i was too soft for their liking.

Because girls love jerks.The abusive and deceitful you are the higher your chances.Use to nice but now i don't even have any boy or girl's time.All i care about is me.No one is worth the stress

I completely agree with the poster, it's easy to be nice, it's not easy to have a personality that draws people to you.

The best catches tend to be really confident, not cocky, and not jerks like pc_guru implies, any guy who is funny, charming and mysterious has got it all.

Women and men are humans, it's not interesting to just be polite and keep to yourself, you have to 'draw' people to you, otherwise they won't notice you. Now you can draw them to you in a positive way; by having a really interesting personality, or in a negative way; being a jerk and an egotistic person.

It's up to smart women to tell the difference.

Jerks are a turn-off, I mean even good-looking guys who walk around as if they are God's gift to women are a turn-off too!!

i_am_model:

girls don't really like nice guys.am an example. all i get from them is let's just be friends, so am begining to cut the friendship thing down, and of learning to tell lies now. guess i was too soft for their liking.

Or you were too focused on being nice, that you didn't really exhibit any real personality. I know several nice guys, the ones that really attract are the funny, caring, honest ones. Being nice doesn't mean you have to be bland or take the crap people give you. You have to be able to stand up for yourself.

Why bother changing the way you are naturally so that you can attract girls, you say you hate the way they 'lie' about their preference but really what guarantees that every nice guy will be liked by girls, much like people here are stating that bad guys are prefered, equally there will be some players out there who girls just can't stand.

It depends on your goals, if you're thinking about flings, or a long-term fulfilling relationship, why change the way you behave for anybody?? Wouldn't you want to attract your kind of girl, not have to put on a bad-boy pretend for the whole of the relationship??

Cmon, No girl wants to av a p*ssy 4 a bf n dat's wat most nice guys are. They can't make decisions on their own and they worship ha lyk she's helen of troy. I believe i can be nice and be a man at dsame time. U don't av to give in to all ha demands.

Guys, please be nice. Don't afraid to be as nice as you can be. Any woman that doesn't like you because of your niceness simply doesn't deserve you. If a girl wants to get beaten to pulp, let her join the UFC.

Assertiveness? A girl that's able to make proper decisions on her own doesn't have to seek out "assertive" guys. Any girl seeking out "ass-hat-ive" guys doesn't trust her own judgment.
Adventure? Women, if you want adventure, jump in a beach and try swimming through it. A brave man is a man who know when to run and what to run from. If your brave husband fights lions for adventure, he is nothing but an ego-driven maniac.

Any man who stops being nice because he wants a specific girl would never be happy, even if he gets the girl.

There is nothing like too nice, be as nice as you can be.

n-guage:

Guys, please be nice. Don't afraid to be as nice as you can be. Any woman that doesn't like you because of your niceness simply doesn't deserve you. If a girl wants to get beaten to pulp, let her join the UFC.

Assertiveness? A girl that's able to make proper decisions on her own doesn't have to seek out "assertive" guys. Any girl seeking out "ass-hat-ive" guys doesn't trust her own judgment.
Adventure? Women, if you want adventure, jump in a beach and try swimming through it. A brave man is a man who know when to run and what to run from. If your brave husband fights lions for adventure, he is nothing but an ego-driven maniac.

Any man who stops being nice because he wants a specific girl would never be happy, even if he gets the girl.

There is nothing like too nice, be as nice as you can be.

hahaha, yeah right, r u telln that to guys who suffer from havent been laid in a while disease(himym)good luck cos they dont wanna die in a room full of DUDES , they want us so they gatta please us mister, if not gud luck being NICE dont trip over ure balls wen u dont get non tho

babyme:

hahaha, yeah right, r u telln that to guys who suffer from havent been laid in a while disease(himym)good luck cos they dont wanna die in a room full of DUDES , they want us so they gatta please us mister, if not gud luck being NICE dont trip over ure balls wen u dont get non tho

WOW! So you get laid? Getting laid must be like heaven!

n-guage:

WOW! So you get laid? Getting laid must be like heaven!

uhuh you know it hmm ure no nice guy huh?? here u r 'advicing" dudes to be nice wen your a nasty little fella

Why do you think I'm not a nice guy? I'm nice and I still want to be nicer. I want to give away my jacket to the homeless on cold days. That's nice and if any woman doesn't like that, she needs to re-examine her ideals.

n-guage:

Why do you think I'm not a nice guy? I'm nice and I still want to be nicer. I want to give away my jacket to the homeless on cold days. That's nice and if any woman doesn't like that, she needs to re-examine her ideals.

you wanna give . . .hmm showoff!!! they homeless guy has enuf!!he just wants a home, dont know why people degrading them!

Are you angry because I am calling them "homeless" or because I am not giving them homes? I can only give out what I have to give, so I can't give out homes. If you're angry because I am showing off by giving, I don't show off. What's there to show off about? I don't deserve a medal for being nice.

You may have a lot of questions and I'll answer them all. Ask.

@poster they run because the guys are nice

I would say they dont want to fall in love so fast so they waste time with others and when d time comes they actually fall 4 d one they do not expect,
and i would also say women always take themselves as special species of nature, so they try not to make the misguided mistakes their friends or acquaintance make. They feel d nice one are opposite of how they behave, thereby calling them heart_breakerz

I think the question here should be why women run from boring guys. . .

because my definition of a nice guy is a man who respects, loves and treats you well. . .and you can't tell me no woman with a sane mind doesn't want this. . .

So to answer the question I rephrased. . .because boring guys bore you to the point of death. . .most women want a man who's funny, entertaining, charming,loving, easy going and someone you can share a lot of things with. . .

And from experience a nice guy can be all these too. . . So women do not run from nice guys but they run from boring guys. . .

I don't understand what you mean by nice guy but as for me. I have dated 3 girls in my life, I am still spending 3 yrs with the 3rd, I am nice because I care about my girl,give her everything she want ,make her feel like a queen, dance for her and sit her down watching be dancing, she knew I love alanta dance and second, I get upset if she didn't listen to my words, I club, take acholic and Bleep club girls. she told me I'm nice and desperate at the same time because she knew I used to Bleep around before but  though she thought I have stop but no, she fear me no be small but she says I am a very nice guy because I don't even spend on her alone,I extend it to my friends also while i don't care if I get broke but to be honest. I enjoy caring like I enjoy shayo too