Later dey will say it is only igbo people dat are demanding. Buh wait o, is he marrying the whole girls in d village biko nu?

Shym3xx:


Lool.

What has love got to do with getting robbed and hustled by poor people who are pim.ping their daughter? When the guy buys the girl now and decides to have dominion over his possession, including smacking her when she gets out of line - I'm sure you're going to join the crowd that would label him abusive. And suddenly have amnesia about how he paid for his property.

And don't give me the culture excuse cos 90% of the items there are western items and they have nothing to do with African culture. A lot of these people are just lazy rogues who pim.p their daughters for food. It's shameful.

Remember, neither the parents nor the lady in question wrote the list..

Usually, if a guy have concerns about the list, he could talk to the potential inlaws... Most times, what happens is that the inlaws tell the guy not to worry about this or that for them... And for the "umunna" i.e " kinsmen" do what your pocket can afford but make sure bride price is one of them, then tell the kinsmen you will come back later, anaghi anucha nwanyi anucha" - they no dey marry woman finish ( for lack of a better translation)

Lastly, that you managed to pay those lists or not is NEVER a ground to mistreat someone, because you fufilled the obligation does not make the lady your slave or property

That guy is not ready for marriage

A better person will come for the gal she shld be patient

This guy has not seen list oh walai

He is so cheap

Am a guy..... Dat whole list 300k will cover it

Is it a bad rhing to leave a lastin impression among ur in laws lubbish

Dem no wan go market for d nxt 32yrs abi?

Any idiot dat try's dis wit me will nt see his daughter n grand children 4 d nxt twenty yrs! Infact i wil impregnate her mak i see wetin go hapen crase pple every wer

See as I'm speechless.

They want to cease the opportunity of the wedding to open a provision store with what I am seeing on that list.
So dowry is paid to fathet and mother? Thats a first for me there.

That guy should not just dump that lady...he should relocate from his current residence, break his sim card and change the colour of his vehicle at the same time. The fiances people are monitoring spirits.

THEM WAN OPEN STORE FOR THE GUY HEAD

Ohun oju nwa

See as e be like our budget.

kuku kill me now





Meanwhile, You can only find such in South East and South South of Nigeria...

ForeverYoung197:




Not that big if this girl is marrying a tycoon's son

Hmmmmm the family are hungry family Haba 200k, 400k I don't blame some men that don't want there in laws to come to their house after paying this huge list.....

The #8 items on Mother's List got me curious.

Is it that they are anticipating that their daughter will be neglected or be receiving blows on a regular basis...

Could it have happened that the mother was neglected and received blows on behalf of the daughter while nursing her...

joanana:



first of all, i will not agree with the list. I will fight them with everything i ve got until i achieve my aim. The price on theit list (dad n mum) must be reduced.

Yes, i will help my hubby eg 60% 40% besides its our wedding .... not his or mine but our wedding

Hehe,

torqque7:
Mtcheeeeww poverty stricken family,trying to hama from the poor guy..abeg give them back their daughter women are not in short supply..No be only 400k for fathers dowry and 200k for mother..na 1 million each..what a load of crap..like I said poverty stricken family

Chai, what if this gal is on Nairaland? You don finish dia family.

Haute:
Wow! This is why I like Layla129 's dad.

lmaoo, oh please

Jacko01:
That guy is not ready for marriage

A better person will come for the gal she shld be patient

This guy has not seen list oh walai

He is so cheap

Am a guy..... Dat whole list 300k will cover it

Is it a bad rhing to leave a lastin impression among ur in laws lubbish

you no see father dowry 400k,mother dowry 200k

NovusHomo:

It's so stewpid, isn't it

Pathetic

Wizzyblack3:

Chai, what if this gal is on Nairaland? You don finish dia family.

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Lol..but you check am now baba the family wan use the guy start life for themselves..the girl too is to blame because she suppose don see the list before it was handed to the gentleman so she is just as guilty as her parents..

Can you imagine,there is a part that stated ASORTED hot drinks for the dad,even her brothers too have a share on the list so Bros na poverty the cause that kind thing..if the babe is on Nairaland then even better,at least now she knows that her family wants to milk her man dry

ShitHead:
After women will claim gender equality...how can you be equal with the one who bought you? You are just an item acquired...

Exactly...the MEN in her family sold her.
Do you really think a woman compiled that list?
Even within the list, you see how the father is entitled to more than the mother of the girl is.
I'm definitely against this exploitation of our tradition and I'm also for gender equality.

Jacko01:
That guy is not ready for marriage

A better person will come for the gal she shld be patient

This guy has not seen list oh walai

He is so cheap

Am a guy..... Dat whole list 300k will cover it

Is it a bad rhing to leave a lastin impression among ur in laws lubbish

Which Yeye lasting impression?? Na buy the guy they buy her
So no need to impress them with how he treats her after all money has won them over...SMH

No. 21

torqque7:
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Lol..but you check am now baba the family wan use the guy start life for themselves..the girl too is to blame because she suppose don see the list before it was handed to the gentleman so she is just as guilty as her parents..

Can you imagine,there is a part that stated ASORTED hot drinks for the dad,even her brothers too have a share on the list so Bros na poverty the cause that kind thing..if the babe is on Nairaland then even better,at least now she knows that her family wants to milk her man dry

Lwkmd... That kind family ehn! To say na me, i go just summarize d long list, give them my own version that include a Column which indicate ''If i take your pikin do ritual, its not ur business o''

Blossom023:


E nomu e? What part of my post didn't you understand?

iono, press it for google naw

Dezolo:
aaah.. No naa. Iszit by force to hug again?

Dnt beg me if I change my mind oo

myners007:
The list is okay because a woman that is properly bred deserves more than what is contained in the list

I beg to differ. Nothing on that list is for the bride. it's all for her parents and siblings.
Marriage should not be a means to rip off anyone. imagine generator and 10 litres of fuel on the list....

myners007:
The list is okay because a woman that is properly bred deserves more than what is contained in the list

I beg to differ. Nothing on that list is for the bride. it's all for her parents and siblings.
Marriage should not be a means to rip off anyone. imagine generator and 10 litres of fuel on the list

delishpot:
That list is just official, you could probably discuss your pocket with the inlaws. Many would remove and reduce the cost.

i've been told the same by a friend of mine from owerri.
but still, I can't imagine having to negotiate some of those stuff with my future in-laws.
papa, let's make it I generator and five litres oo. and I can't afford wristwatch and cover shoe.
mama, you will manage 6 brazziere ooo.
I would die of shame before the meeting ends

Chisos

DivaFiva:

Exactly...the MEN in her family sold her.
Do you really think a woman compiled that list?
Even within the list, you see how the father is entitled to more than the mother of the girl is.
I'm definitely against this exploitation of our tradition and I'm also for gender equality.

Am assuming it has to be because the father was responsible for majority of the bills i guess, to be sincere being a feminist is almost not possible in Africa, can you sincerely say you will shun the bride price traditional and marry like that, am sure you wouldn't you might even cave to yout family.

Am yet to see a proper African Nigerian feminist not our half-assed feminist who decide to switch to and from when it suits them.

ShitHead:
After women will claim gender equality...how can you be equal with the one who bought you? You are just an item acquired...

The only problem i have is why is the bride to be not paying for the guy also??
Are guys raised for free or on credit ??

Guyman02:
modified!

OWU na bastard and thats why you fled because of ordinary list of items which can be negotiated with in-laws as it is not cast in stone.

Go back there confidently with an elder from your family and negotiate according to what you can afford, thats how its done, dont chicken out easily.

hmmm, negotiate...confidently. Is she some sought of consignment or something??
Na so single and unmarried babes and women go full that village o!

Father's item 29 shows it is Cross Rivers State but I really doubt the genuineness of this list.