coolzeal:
11.. Keep waiting for Dangote son and you will end up with those wrinkled face looking desperate.

mizzbouqui:

Are you a lady? Was only referring to the ladies not men. Thanks anyway

coolzeal:
My bad. Naturally, it's impossible to seperate both sexes otherwise we did explode.. Do you believe in the feminist principles?

mizzbouqui:

Okay yes

coolzeal:


So theoretically if someone were to say that a man couldn't do something, just because they're male, and someone else steps in and says something along the lines of "no! This is why we need feminism!" Would that be correct? I'm just wondering because the definition of feminism is equality for both genders, but usually if someone says "this is why we need feminism" they're referring to inequality for women. Just wondering if you could say the same for men, if they're not being treated as equals (just because they're male) I'm sorry if this is a dumb question!....

ireneony:
Single and happy. .

mizzbouqui:
This is a shout out to all the women – whether you’re just entering the dating scene, or you’ve been there and back.

It can be tough to navigate the potentially treacherous waters of a relationship – balancing your needs against what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship, and the intrinsic feeling of failure you have if you aren’t successful or if your knight in shining armor is taking his sweet time arriving.

But, here’s some advice from those who have come before you – and are right there with you.

Here are 10 relationship tips for single women that will keep you real and keep you on the steady course to true happiness – with or without a relationship.

1. You Must Love Yourself Before You Can Love Someone Else

No one is going to complete a you that isn’t already whole. You must be in love with yourself before anyone else can be in love with you. Often, what motivates you to seek acceptance from others is really a desire to accept yourself – so, make yourself your own biggest source of self-esteem and others will be drawn to your sparkle!

2. Slow Your Roll!

A lot of those gooey couples claim that they knew on the first date that this was the person they are going to marry. Well, no matter how many times bae tells us that if he likes it, he better put a ring on it, try and keep this in mind: Not every date is a potential mate. One good date shouldn’t have you sending out the save the dates. This puts unrealistic expectations on both of you, and can cause you to obsess and come on too strong. Relax and get to the know the person – and stop imagining what your future kids are going to look like!

3. A Man Is Not A Lump Of Clay For You To Mold

It’s a cliche – a woman marries a man hoping he’ll change, a man marries a woman hoping she won’t. The truth is, don’t expect to change ANYONE – unless you’re a particularly good hypnotist. While you certainly have the right to express your opinion and suggest to your partner expectations you have, at the end of the day, the decision to make a change is entirely theirs.

4. Don’t Expect Different Results If You’re Repeating The Same Actions

It’s so easy to fall into a pattern – and, when we’ve been a loop for so long, we may come to think of that way of life as normal. Dating the same type of guy or repeating the same behavior in a relationship is bound to yield the same results. If you want a change, then do something differently.

5. Enjoy Yourself While You Can

Believe it or not, you’re most likely not going to be single forever – so, enjoy the time you have with yourself and use it productively. Work on your career, your physical, mental, and emotional well being, and getting yourself into a place where you can offer someone the best of you. But, have some fun too! There’s never going to be a better time to write that novel, take that French cooking class or book those luxury holidays that you’ve always wanted to.

6. Don’t Make Excuses For People Who Need To Be Excused From Your Life

There are two kinds of people who you don’t have time for – the ones who are dead weight and the pop-ins. The dead weights take your time and energy while giving you little or nothing in return – while the pop-ins come and go at their whim, leaving you wondering. It may be difficult to let go of these people, but once you do, we promise, you’ll feel lighter and more in control of your life.

7. Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend

It’s natural for a woman to want to show a man what a good wife she would make – and we’re instinctively nurturers. It’s fine to show caring and love to a man, but, be mindful of giving away too much of yourself too soon to someone who doesn’t deserve it.

8. Don’t Confuse Love With Lust

It’s important to make the distinction between what feels good to you and what’s good for you. The more quickly you give in to those hormonal desires, the more difficult this is going to be to discern. Don’t overlook future necessities just to satisfy your present desires and don’t confuse love with lust.

9. Things Take Time

Nothing happens overnight – and the more you desire it, the more frustration you will feel during the course of events. If you’re so hung up on where your Prince Charming is, you’re going to miss out on the excitement and freedom of being single. If you’re obsessing over when the ring is coming, you’re going to miss the romance and fun of that special dating period. If you’re desperate to have a child right away, you’re going to miss out on the honeymoon period that solidifies that marital bond. Things happen in their own time. Have a little faith that there’s a master plan, and you’re a part of it.

10. Don’t Panic When You Hit The Big “3-0”

There’s something about that age that makes us re-evaluate every life decision we’ve ever made. If you’re there, or even if you’re still getting there – it can be a time of frustration, anxiety, and depression if things aren’t looking like they did in your head. Don’t be the woman who is obsessed with trying to find a man or constantly sad about not having one, so, she finds herself desperate, settling and/or overwhelmed with sadness because she’s so consumed thinking about what isn’t instead of what is.

Live in the present. Life is short, so don’t spend a moment of it bemoaning how you think it should look rather than how it actually does. Instead, empower yourself – make good decisions for yourself, and find happiness with all the wonderful things in your world right now, because there are a lot of them!

mizzbouqui:
This is a shout out to all the women – whether you’re just entering the dating scene, or you’ve been there and back.

It can be tough to navigate the potentially treacherous waters of a relationship – balancing your needs against what it takes to maintain a healthy relationship, and the intrinsic feeling of failure you have if you aren’t successful or if your knight in shining armor is taking his sweet time arriving.

But, here’s some advice from those who have come before you – and are right there with you.

Here are 10 relationship tips for single women that will keep you real and keep you on the steady course to true happiness – with or without a relationship.

1. You Must Love Yourself Before You Can Love Someone Else

No one is going to complete a you that isn’t already whole. You must be in love with yourself before anyone else can be in love with you. Often, what motivates you to seek acceptance from others is really a desire to accept yourself – so, make yourself your own biggest source of self-esteem and others will be drawn to your sparkle!

2. Slow Your Roll!

A lot of those gooey couples claim that they knew on the first date that this was the person they are going to marry. Well, no matter how many times bae tells us that if he likes it, he better put a ring on it, try and keep this in mind: Not every date is a potential mate. One good date shouldn’t have you sending out the save the dates. This puts unrealistic expectations on both of you, and can cause you to obsess and come on too strong. Relax and get to the know the person – and stop imagining what your future kids are going to look like!

3. A Man Is Not A Lump Of Clay For You To Mold

It’s a cliche – a woman marries a man hoping he’ll change, a man marries a woman hoping she won’t. The truth is, don’t expect to change ANYONE – unless you’re a particularly good hypnotist. While you certainly have the right to express your opinion and suggest to your partner expectations you have, at the end of the day, the decision to make a change is entirely theirs.

4. Don’t Expect Different Results If You’re Repeating The Same Actions

It’s so easy to fall into a pattern – and, when we’ve been a loop for so long, we may come to think of that way of life as normal. Dating the same type of guy or repeating the same behavior in a relationship is bound to yield the same results. If you want a change, then do something differently.

5. Enjoy Yourself While You Can

Believe it or not, you’re most likely not going to be single forever – so, enjoy the time you have with yourself and use it productively. Work on your career, your physical, mental, and emotional well being, and getting yourself into a place where you can offer someone the best of you. But, have some fun too! There’s never going to be a better time to write that novel, take that French cooking class or book those luxury holidays that you’ve always wanted to.

6. Don’t Make Excuses For People Who Need To Be Excused From Your Life

There are two kinds of people who you don’t have time for – the ones who are dead weight and the pop-ins. The dead weights take your time and energy while giving you little or nothing in return – while the pop-ins come and go at their whim, leaving you wondering. It may be difficult to let go of these people, but once you do, we promise, you’ll feel lighter and more in control of your life.

7. Don’t Be A Wife To A Boyfriend

It’s natural for a woman to want to show a man what a good wife she would make – and we’re instinctively nurturers. It’s fine to show caring and love to a man, but, be mindful of giving away too much of yourself too soon to someone who doesn’t deserve it.

8. Don’t Confuse Love With Lust

It’s important to make the distinction between what feels good to you and what’s good for you. The more quickly you give in to those hormonal desires, the more difficult this is going to be to discern. Don’t overlook future necessities just to satisfy your present desires and don’t confuse love with lust.

9. Things Take Time

Nothing happens overnight – and the more you desire it, the more frustration you will feel during the course of events. If you’re so hung up on where your Prince Charming is, you’re going to miss out on the excitement and freedom of being single. If you’re obsessing over when the ring is coming, you’re going to miss the romance and fun of that special dating period. If you’re desperate to have a child right away, you’re going to miss out on the honeymoon period that solidifies that marital bond. Things happen in their own time. Have a little faith that there’s a master plan, and you’re a part of it.

10. Don’t Panic When You Hit The Big “3-0”

There’s something about that age that makes us re-evaluate every life decision we’ve ever made. If you’re there, or even if you’re still getting there – it can be a time of frustration, anxiety, and depression if things aren’t looking like they did in your head. Don’t be the woman who is obsessed with trying to find a man or constantly sad about not having one, so, she finds herself desperate, settling and/or overwhelmed with sadness because she’s so consumed thinking about what isn’t instead of what is.

Live in the present. Life is short, so don’t spend a moment of it bemoaning how you think it should look rather than how it actually does. Instead, empower yourself – make good decisions for yourself, and find happiness with all the wonderful things in your world right now, because there are a lot of them!

ireneony:
Single and happy. .

MrCork:



....y r u emcorragin WOmen to play had to get?

mizzbouqui:

There is nothing like playing hard to get there na, Its all about being single and happy and waiting patiently for the Mr Right

MrCork:



...it's womens like u that prevent us from chasin black women..
No wonder y we Londoners will choose white women over black woman any day...
Your wahalala too much!((real talk))

lanicky:
dukem, read through the writeup.. It will help your relationship.

Nice one Op.. More grease to your elbow.

lalasticlala.

ireneony:
Single and happy. .