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Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by 5minsmadness: 1:30am On Jul 02, 2016
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.


Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by Nobody: 1:37am On Jul 02, 2016
Very inspiring.

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by UndisputedBosom(m): 1:47am On Jul 02, 2016
In summary ladies use ur "Power Of A Woman" to checkmate ur partner grin

As simple as that....

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by 5minsmadness: 1:47am On Jul 02, 2016
Pandorabox:
Very inspiring.
Thanks .

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by echobee(f): 2:28am On Jul 02, 2016
True talk. Thanks ops

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by Nobody: 4:02am On Jul 02, 2016
Yea, that's the spirit. I'm not gonna fight husby, in fact I promise him the happiest home in this world.

But when the need arises for me to fight, i'm not going to nag, shout or scream.
Women have TWO powerful things to win anything. Only the wise I know it and I'm gonna use that to fight him smiley wink cheesy

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by mrwonlasewonie: 4:19am On Jul 02, 2016
Here we go again 5minsmadness .

You no dey taya

Go and wash my fridge and the zinc joor And please don't spill water on the floor. You hear me 5minsmadness.lastly make sure it's clean

The morning fresh and sponge is on the zinc.don't waste my morning fresh o.I bought it 400naira

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by mira4u: 5:39am On Jul 02, 2016
Very true. cheesy that's what I use to get anything I want from my hubby. I noticed if you use force men will never yield.

Women rule men and the world grin Q.E.D

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by Nobody: 6:13am On Jul 02, 2016
Op,tell them...grin

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by nnamdibig(m): 7:11am On Jul 02, 2016
5minsmadness:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.


Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.


Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.



Some of our ladies won't hear this.

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by 5minsmadness: 7:31am On Jul 02, 2016
mrwonlasewonie:
Here we go again 5minsmadness .

You no dey taya

Go and wash my fridge and the zinc joor And please don't spill water on the floor. You hear me 5minsmadness.lastly make sure it's clean

The morning fresh and sponge is on the zinc.don't waste my morning fresh o.I bought it 400naira

I love the glitterati on your nails grin
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by 5minsmadness: 7:33am On Jul 02, 2016
UndisputedBosom:
In summary ladies use ur "Power Of A Woman" to checkmate ur partner grin


As simple as that....

Very simple my brother.
Why be a woman and want to use the "power of a man"? grin

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by 5minsmadness: 7:34am On Jul 02, 2016
echobee:
True talk. Thanks ops
You're welcome dear
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by 5minsmadness: 7:36am On Jul 02, 2016
Nikita1:
Yea, that's the spirit. I'm not gonna fight husby, in fact I promise him the happiest home in this world.

But when the need arises for me to fight, i'm not going to nag, shout or scream.
Women have TWO powerful things to win anything. Only the wise I know it and I'm gonna use that to fight him smiley wink cheesy

Apparently I'm not wise cry what r d two things na, or is it shocked
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by Nobody: 10:38am On Jul 02, 2016
5minsmadness:


Apparently I'm not wise cry what r d two things na, or is it shocked
Are u a lady undecided

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by SWITANN(f): 4:22pm On Jul 02, 2016
yeah it totally works

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by EfemenaXY: 6:41pm On Jul 02, 2016
5minsmadness:
Indeed it is the age of equality. We hear it everyday on this family section how a woman should stand up to her husband and refuse to be oppressed (even if there was no oppression intended in the first place). Such talks make it look like marriage is a battlefield and there is no peace between the sexes. Some people even begin to wonder why they should get married at all when marriage apparently looks so miserable.

You're slowly but surely turning into a narcissist. And a misogynist.

Why do you automatically assume that if there's a problem in a union, it must be the woman's doing or better still, she has to take full responsibility for ironing things out? Why then is it called a union?


5minsmadness:
Well, I am here to say that marriage is only miserable to you as a woman if you want it to be! Men are natural born fighters , you can't start fighting your man as well in his own house. No man worth his salt will take it. Men were built to dominate. If you start wanting to dominate him in his own house that he paid rent for or built, insisting that he washes the plates or washes the clothes or sweeps the house or take care of the kids while u sleep all in the name of equality, you will make him set up a wall against you. He may outrightly defy you or he may sulk and do what you have ordered but be sure he is bitter about it and wondering when you became the man of the house. Soon enough if he cannot be a man indoors, he will start to look for how he can be one outside.

You use the wrong language and tone here:

~ Fighters. Who / what is the man born to fight? His wife? Society?

~ Dominate. Dominate who? The wife? Is she a foot mat / footstool to be 'dominated'?

Point of correction:

~ Not all men own the house or worse still, pay the rent. There are tons of families out there where the man does absolutely nothing and the buck is passed onto the wife who stoically carries on running that ship (a.k.a paying the bills) without so much of a mummer, covering his shame, while the outside world assumes this domineering, "fighter" of a man is captaining the ship.

~ Re: the underlined bit of your post, you're simply reaching. One'll be hard pressed to find a woman who does such. You're watching too many movies. You know very well that what really happens, the main bone of contention for many WORKING WOMEN with young kids, is the expectation that they go out and hustle like a man and contribute financially to the upkeep of the home, and yet on returning home after a hard day's graft, expected to tie wrapper and enter the kitchen to pound yam and cook fresh Egusi soup while the pot-bellied-football-watching hubby yells for her to take the kids away and demands she hurries up with serving his food (on her knees).

Re: the bit in green - seriously? Is that a threat? Meant to shake up the wife? Lol!! grin grin


5minsmadness:

Having said that, a woman is a human being as well and not a workhorse or slave. She needs help as well and men have an excessive amount of muscle to spare to help around the house , especially if you cannot afford a maid. So how do you as a woman seek help from your husband without sounding like a nagging frustrated loveless feminist?

Because if he uses half his brain and puts himself in her shoes and does the right thing - without having to be schooled like a two year old, then there wouldn't be a need to nag will there?

5minsmadness:
Simple. Use the gift that God gave you. Use the things that attracted your man to marry you in the first place. Use your womanliness, your feminine charms and grace! Use sweet words garnished with love and not commanding and off-putting tone that bristles with scorn. [s]Esther was able to play with the crown of the most dangerous man in Babylon, not because she felt entitled, neither because she felt the man was equal to her. No! Her feminine charms made him as meek as a lamb in her hands.[/s]

Mtcheeew!!

Because he is what? The beginning and the end of the woman's happiness?


5minsmadness:
Use your charm to handle your man and not your sharp tongue. Use your sweetness, quick wit,love and unsolicited kisses to get what you want from your king instead of declaring your rights like a country looking for every opportunity to secede. I assure you, you will get a lot more done by being a lady instead of a nag.

Peace.

And when he wants something done, how does he / how is he supposed to "cajole" / pamper his wife to do that? Without of course accusing her of lacking proper home training as per she should know what to do without having it spelt out to her?

Biko 5minsmadness, go 'n get married make we hear word. lipsrsealed

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by theEYe21(f): 7:03pm On Jul 02, 2016
UndisputedBosom:
In summary ladies use ur "Power Of A Woman" to checkmate ur partner grin


As simple as that....
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by cindybaby22(f): 8:29pm On Jul 02, 2016
HarkymTheOracle:
Op,tell them...grin
lol
this is not true
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by cindybaby22(f): 8:32pm On Jul 02, 2016
mira4u:
Very true. cheesy that's what I use to get anything I want from my hubby. I noticed if you use force men will never yield.

Women rule men and the world grin Q.E.D

lol cheesy
true... crying is even more powerful than force for a woman

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by cindybaby22(f): 8:34pm On Jul 02, 2016
Nikita1:
Are u a lady undecided
seems u want to beat the op cheesy
those guys are not smiling

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by Nobody: 8:41pm On Jul 02, 2016
cindybaby22:

seems u want to beat the op cheesy
those guys are not smiling
lol
I'm not beating anybody oo cheesy
Damnit! You are cute with nice 'fronty' wink
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by cindybaby22(f): 9:05pm On Jul 02, 2016
Nikita1:
lol
I'm not beating anybody oo cheesy
Damnit! You are cute with nice 'fronty' wink
bad girl cheesy
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by mrwonlasewonie: 9:06pm On Jul 02, 2016
5minsmadness:


I love the glitterati on your nails grin
thank you my darling grin
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by Ishilove: 9:09pm On Jul 02, 2016
Single folks giving marital advice. It reminds me of Catholic reverend fathers and sisters handling marriage counselling.

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got them.

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by mrwonlasewonie: 9:18pm On Jul 02, 2016
Mrs woman you get time o grin

After how many years on nl.is IT a little boy young to be your kid brother That you'll be arguing about the dynamics of marriage with

If you went to go and que in Lagos traffic for nothing it's more valuable expending your energy typing this because he won't understand and he'll still be justifying himself
EfemenaXY:


You're slowly but surely turning into a narcissist. And a misogynist.

Why do you automatically assume that if there's a problem in a union, it must be the woman's doing or better still, she has to take full responsibility for ironing things out? Why then is it called a union?




You use the wrong language and tone here:

~ Fighters. Who / what is the man born to fight? His wife? Society?

~ Dominate. Dominate who? The wife? Is she a foot mat / footstool to be 'dominated'?

Point of correction:

~ Not all men own the house or worse still, pay the rent. There are tons of families out there where the man does absolutely nothing and the buck is passed onto the wife who stoically carries on running that ship (a.k.a paying the bills) without so much of a mummer, covering his shame, while the outside world assumes this domineering, "fighter" of a man is captaining the ship.

~ Re: the underlined bit of your post, you're simply reaching. One'll be hard pressed to find a woman who does such. You're watching too many movies. You know very well that what really happens, the main bone of contention for many WORKING WOMEN with young kids, is the expectation that they go out and hustle like a man and contribute financially to the upkeep of the home, and yet on returning home after a hard day's graft, expected to tie wrapper and enter the kitchen to pound yam and cook fresh Egusi soup while the pot-bellied-football-watching hubby yells for her to take the kids away and demands she hurries up with serving his food (on her knees).

Re: the bit in green - seriously? Is that a threat? Meant to shake up the wife? Lol!! grin grin




Because if he uses half his brain and puts himself in her shoes and does the right thing - without having to be schooled like a two year old, then there wouldn't be a need to nag will there?



Mtcheeew!!

Because he is what? The beginning and the end of the woman's happiness?




And when he wants something done, how does he / how is he supposed to "cajole" / pamper his wife into to that? Without of course accusing her of lacking proper home training as per she should know what to do without having it spelt out to her?

Biko 5minsmadness, go 'n get married make we hear word. lipsrsealed

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by mrwonlasewonie: 9:20pm On Jul 02, 2016
Ishilove:
Single folks giving marital advice. It reminds me of Catholic reverend fathers and sisters handling marriage counselling.

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got them.
yeah. Just like people who haven't built a wall giving engineers advise grin
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by EfemenaXY: 9:23pm On Jul 02, 2016
mrwonlasewonie:
Mrs woman you get time o grin

After how many years on nl.is IT a little boy young to be your kid brother That you'll be arguing about the dynamics of marriage with

If you went to go and que in Lagos traffic for nothing it's more valuable expending your energy typing this because he won't understand and he'll still be justifying himself

Oh, I know that.

But my post is also to let other young impressionable ladies out there know that there is more to a marriage / a real man than what Mr 5minutesmadness is painting it out to be.

Free thoughts, free speech, and free movement (independence) are here to stay, whether Mr 5minsmadness likes it or not. No one should be made to think being married entails living in a shoe box.

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by aureen: 9:34pm On Jul 02, 2016
Ladies my advice to you is to take marital advice from a person that is speaking under the influence of the HOLY SPIRIT never agree to become a scapegoat in the hands of an imperfect person.

A word is enough for the wise.

If there is conflict between husband and wife, instead of assuming that the wife is the cause of the problem, why engaged in false accusation which is a SIN AGAINST GOD, I WOULD ADVICE YOU TO ASK THE HOLY SPIRIT TO TELL YOU WHAT THE PROBLEM IS AND HE WILL SURELY REVEAL IT TO YOU EXCEPT YOU ARE UNABLE TO HEAR HIM BECAUSE OF YOUR SIN THEN YOU SHOULD ASK FOR FORGIVENESS OF SINS YOU THINK ARE MINOR FOR ALL SINS ARE EQUAL BEFORE GOD.

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by Nobody: 9:39pm On Jul 02, 2016
cindybaby22:

bad girl cheesy
I love dem big cheesy nd God gave me 'medium' cry
Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by ShaqFu: 9:45pm On Jul 02, 2016
Ishilove:
Single folks giving marital advice. It reminds me of Catholic reverend fathers and sisters handling marriage counselling.

Opinions are like ass holes. Everyone's got them.
What's wrong with single folks giving marital advice? As long as they're of age, I see nothing wrong with it.

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Re: Wives, Stop Fighting Your Men. Use Your Feminine Wiles To Get What You Want! by mrwonlasewonie: 9:45pm On Jul 02, 2016
Well That's true sha smiley smiley
EfemenaXY:


Oh, I know that.

But my post is also to let other young impressionable ladies out there know that there is more to a marriage / a real man than what Mr 5minutesmadness is painting it out to be.

Free thoughts, free speech, and free movement (independence) are here to stay, whether Mr 5minsmadness likes it or not. No one should be made to think being married entails living in a shoe box.

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