Joavid:


in Africa, women must always make the sacrifices and compromises in marriage for it to work abi, while the man does as he pleases.

clap for ya sef. you don gather likes from male chauvinists like your self.

anetuno:


What a story! You know we are such hypocrites that people are applauding you. The principles involved in marriage are becoming more and more universal and I wonder why you think these observations made in this article are out of place in Nigeria because you think our own women should be ready to take all the abuse and mistreatment that nineteenth century wives endured from characters like you so that their marriage will succeed while the men will excuse themselves and continue to pull in a different direction.
You have to realize that Nigerian women are now getting the kind of education that their western counterparts get and are now more gainfully employed like their western counterparts so the issues of marital challenges are similar and make this piece relevant.
People like you have to shed the toga of 'I am an African man and my wife must obey whatever I say and has no right to make any input and if the marriage fails it is her fault and I can go ahead and take another wife'. This is twenty-first century and we must learn and share ideas that will make things work out for us. Your idea that Nigerian marriages should be cast in iron and it is the duty of the woman to make it work is fantastically outdated.
I will advise those that are liking your post to read through the entire piece and take whatever they may find useful and apply it in their marriage and relationship, this piece doesn't claim to be a manual of how to make marriages work.

Joavid:


in Africa, women must always make the sacrifices and compromises in marriage for it to work abi, while the man does as he pleases.

clap for ya sef. you don gather likes from male chauvinists like your self.

larion:


Baba! Did you have problems with your English comprehension teacher in primary skool?

Likely serious?

Did you read when I said the key to marriage is understanding. Can you point out where I said a woman to accept everything and a man should unleash all the terror.

Which principle of marriage is universal when there is still something called culture. Did you read when I said Tiwa should have know that Teebillz is a useless man and not lock the marriage in the first place.

Exactly where did I paint I am African man and my wife must obey or where did I picture taking another wife?

Did you read when I said the man provides 100% of every every and the wife just drop 30% max despite the fact that she balance well, how is this enslaving the woman.

I never painted a marriage of cast in iron and duty of the woman to make it work, what I painted was UNDERSTANDING.

You are talking like I am supporting the men, but did you read where I wrote that a Nigerian man will be a dunce for expecting 50% from his wife, with this statement I was telling the men to make there marriages work.

With the statement of Tuface and Peter and Teebillz, I was talking to the women to be understanding once they are in, cos it the women who go about running there mouth in most cases.

Did you read when I said Ade should not use Jack's template else his marriage will crash, is this not holding the men responsible or shey Ade na woman.

In the post, I held both men and women responsible, but you are not smart enough to read and comprehend, good luck since you have chosen to use a universal principle to guide your marriage when culture is still existing .

Its because of people like you who had issues with there English comprehension teacher in primary school I included this phrase " mark my words every body in the house understands...this should be the key to marriage survival....Understanding!"

But despite that, you couldn't mark my word and understand.....

Since your failed English summary in SS3 (that's if you are not even a jss2 kid at the moment) I will help you with the summary of my writeup:

1) Every marriage is unique and peculiar

2) Understanding is key

3) Watch your partner before marriage, of you can't take wat he/she does, don't lock the marriage.

These are the correct answers to the summary, your answer of marriages should be cast in iron and it is the duty of the woman to make it work and I am an African man, my wife must obey will score you zero in a summary test.

I know your type, you just wanna be a critic and u don't settle down to analyse and use your brain. I won't be surprise if you didn't read my post complete. You just jumped to answer and now you have scored 0/100

Now go do your corrections and be a good boy. FYI don't expect further reply from my....I have schooled you enough.

See you later...

Greatzeus:
Posts like these is another opportunity for bachelors and spinsters to learn and prepare and make necessary adjustments.
No.8 though must couples fight ?

larion:


Baba! Did you have problems with your English comprehension teacher in primary skool?

Likely serious?

Did you read when I said the key to marriage is understanding. Can you point out where I said a woman to accept everything and a man should unleash all the terror.

Which principle of marriage is universal when there is still something called culture. Did you read when I said Tiwa should have know that Teebillz is a useless man and not lock the marriage in the first place.

Exactly where did I paint I am African man and my wife must obey or where did I picture taking another wife?

Did you read when I said the man provides 100% of every every and the wife just drop 30% max despite the fact that she balance well, how is this enslaving the woman.

I never painted a marriage of cast in iron and duty of the woman to make it work, what I painted was UNDERSTANDING.

You are talking like I am supporting the men, but did you read where I wrote that a Nigerian man will be a dunce for expecting 50% from his wife, with this statement I was telling the men to make there marriages work.

With the statement of Tuface and Peter and Teebillz, I was talking to the women to be understanding once they are in, cos it the women who go about running there mouth in most cases.

Did you read when I said Ade should not use Jack's template else his marriage will crash, is this not holding the men responsible or shey Ade na woman.

In the post, I held both men and women responsible, but you are not smart enough to read and comprehend, good luck since you have chosen to use a universal principle to guide your marriage when culture is still existing .

Its because of people like you who had issues with there English comprehension teacher in primary school I included this phrase " mark my words every body in the house understands...this should be the key to marriage survival....Understanding!"

But despite that, you couldn't mark my word and understand.....

Since your failed English summary in SS3 (that's if you are not even a jss2 kid at the moment) I will help you with the summary of my writeup:

1) Every marriage is unique and peculiar

2) Understanding is key

3) Watch your partner before marriage, of you can't take wat he/she does, don't lock the marriage.

These are the correct answers to the summary, your answer of marriages should be cast in iron and it is the duty of the woman to make it work and I am an African man, my wife must obey will score you zero in a summary test.

I know your type, you just wanna be a critic and u don't settle down to analyse and use your brain. I won't be surprise if you didn't read my post complete. You just jumped to answer and now you have scored 0/100

Now go do your corrections and be a good boy. FYI don't expect further reply from my....I have schooled you enough.

See you later...

anetuno:


All your posts are so incoherent and erratic that whatever sense you think you are making is nullified when you started out by claiming the piece is rubbish and crap. Why can't you just have the decency to read through the piece and make intelligent comments without rubbishing it. I am not going to continue to join issues with whatever you are going to post because you sound very toxic, negative and full of insults. You have not managed to show that you write good English because I could see blunders litter your post yet you are struggling to fault my English. Just get of this post if you have nothing useful to offer other than looking for cheap likes.

kulekaa:
face ur life n let Tiwa n T 2b tnk u

anetuno:


What a story! You know we are such hypocrites that people are applauding you. The principles involved in marriage are becoming more and more universal and I wonder why you think these observations made in this article are out of place in Nigeria because you think our own women should be ready to take all the abuse and mistreatment that nineteenth century wives endured from characters like you so that their marriage will succeed while the men will excuse themselves and continue to pull in a different direction.
You have to realize that Nigerian women are now getting the kind of education that their western counterparts get and are now more gainfully employed like their western counterparts so the issues of marital challenges are similar and make this piece relevant.
People like you have to shed the toga of 'I am an African man and my wife must obey whatever I say and has no right to make any input and if the marriage fails it is her fault and I can go ahead and take another wife'. This is twenty-first century and we must learn and share ideas that will make things work out for us. Your idea that Nigerian marriages should be cast in iron and it is the duty of the woman to make it work is fantastically outdated.
I will advise those that are liking your post to read through the entire piece and take whatever they may find useful and apply it in their marriage and relationship, this piece doesn't claim to be a manual of how to make marriages work.

Greatzeus:
Posts like these is another opportunity for bachelors and spinsters to learn and prepare and make necessary adjustments.
No.8 though must couples fight ?

Greatzeus:
Posts like these is another opportunity for bachelors and spinsters to learn and prepare and make necessary adjustments.
No.8 though must couples fight ?

JoeCutie:
To those who put all their hopes in marriage, thinking that marriage is the ultimate source of happiness, you might wanna have a rethink. If you always want and wait for someone to come and make you happy, then you're really not living...just existing. Find what makes you happy and do it to the letter. Be happy, that's the ultimate thing you owe yourself. And for the records, marriage hasn't always brought about that happiness. Going into marriage is like admitting to yourself that "Yes, I'm now ready to compromise (everything)". If you're not ready for marriage, do not get married. Do not get married because "all my mates are married". And for what's worth, love isn't the most ideal reason to get married. I, for one, will never marry for love. Why? Love alone is not enough.

In an era where divorce is the order of the day, a couple - a very old one - are seen here doing their thing: married, living and loving. If you really wanna get married, stay married and happy, and grow old with your partner, be ready to tolerate and compromise. Imagine a divorce free generation...it begins with you (not your partner).

Greatzeus:
Posts like these is another opportunity for bachelors and spinsters to learn and prepare and make necessary adjustments.
No.8 though must couples fight ?

priscaoge:
9. They have Edible Catering outside their marriage

Clone2020:
Number 8 and number 1 contradict each other. How can you say it's bad to give silent treatment and bickering then you say it's also good to fight??

larion:
Rubbish!

Unacceptable crap.

Just look at d post, California, Florida, New York, Illinois.... Bla bla.

One reason why Nigerians marriages don't last is because they use oyinbo man template.

This is why I call the above rubbish.

Example, even in south Africa here, the rule is wife brings 50%, husband brings 50%, either for rent, or food or children's school fees.

But in Nigeria, Husband brings 100%, its when the wife balance well that she can contribute her own, max 30% in most cases. Now imagine a naija man vexing for his naija wife because she didn't drop 50% for the money to buy milk and junior's school fees......is that marriage not destined to fail.

Nonsense! In oyinbo man land, some wife are permitted to have s*x with other men as long as she informs her husband before the did is done nd so also the husband ca romance other women as long as he informs the wife....Point number 6 above, maybe this can be called respecting each others love language.... But a wife expecting to be screwed by another man while telling his husband in naija is destined to see trouble.

Career before family..... Crap! If that is what is gonna put food on the table and everybody in the house understands then so be it.....mark my words every body in the house understands...this should be the key to marriage survival....Understanding!

Annie idibia and Lola okoye understands the kind of husband they have , to God be the glory...their marriages are still waxing strong. Tiwa savage refused to understand that she will keep working and Teebillz will keep spending and not contributing, she refused to understand that Teebillz will still be chasing others, I'm not saying it's good, but she should have known before locking the marriage .....what has happened today, the marriage is out of the window.

Are you telling me Peter okoye or 2 face has not done some on the silly things Teebillz did? Did we hear noise outside? There was a picture of Tuface kissing Pero after his wedding with Annie, bloggers so much posted that pixs, but did there marriage fail? NO!

I can go on and on....but bottom line is let's try to sieve wat we consume, every marriage is unique, what works in jacks marriage might not work in Ade's marriage.

But wen Ade is trying to use jacks own template as his own, then Ade is looking for trouble. Most marriages crash because some couples have been painting this idea from what they read in novels and watch on TV, paloma and Diego, gardeners daughter and telemundo.

After painting this sweet picture in their heads, they go into their weddings looking for the "happily ever after" which in most cases is not existing.....and once dey go through episode 3 season 5 of their marriages, they start thinking divorce.......

At OP, una nor fit just come dey copy everything for internet dump for nairaland.... Imagine California, Illinois and Florida in your post, to people in Lagos, Enugu and kano reading on Nairaland..... No be trouble una dey find.

Some stupid girls and boys who are married and have been coping with their spouse's tight schedule at work will read point 4 and wires will spark and start thinking of how to fight their spouse for putting career before family....forgetting that in this unique naija economy that might be the only way to put good food on the table. Whereas, the oyinbo man in Florida has most things done well by the govt already and doesn't need to overwork.

Just use your head and think ahead....each marriage is peculiar ......

KenModi:


This comment got me cracking.

TeeBillz wld no reply you hi or hello when or if you guys meet..

yazz09:


you are wrong. silent treatment is not and can never be healthy in a marriage. while silent treatment is equivalent to ignoring your spouse, fighting is opening up your frustration to your spouse thereby making him/her know how you feel. fighting in a marriage is not Mortal Kombat kind of fighting, but making your point known and striving to resolving the issue b4 sunset.

Greatzeus:
Posts like these is another opportunity for bachelors and spinsters to learn and prepare and make necessary adjustments.
No.8 though must couples fight ?