jagugu88li:


Chai,see plan

m'Lady all you've said is true but the practical side is almost impossible. This here is what I call polite imprisonment and I have to do it to myself

Hard because just seeing the person spoils the mood, I'm sure you know how that feels. But thanks darl

lolzzz.....

I spoke based on my personality and temperament. It's not impossible for me.

   

Do whatever you think is best.

All the best dear.

jagugu88li:


Honestly that wouldn't work for both me and my dad. Without giving you a lot of family history, we are the only family left. Anyway..I hate the idea of being subtly kicked out but a stranger.



She still had interest in guys here age, that's how I see it. Then acts out



My friend? Yeah I hear you. I'm trying to do all these but really its easier said that done. Time will tell bro, time will. Nothing is as annoying as waking up to seeing the d***l

Adaobi12:
I feel your pain. i have been there before.

Your best bet is to move out.
I moved to my maternal home, holidays, weekends, breaks are all spent at my maternal home.
she wasn't my agemate, just a couple of years older. but she sees me as a threat. I just didnt want her wahala.

In all, try your best to give her some space. Avoid unecessary confrontations

sisisioge:
Talk to her in the most amicable way you could and hence try to keep to yourself in the house. Lock your room. Get locks for your wardrobe. Become very grown up without seeming rude...just carve a space for yourself in the already crowded House. Since your mates are already getting married, its time to start acting the grown woman you are. May God help you. Thank God she's not already plotting to throw you out...we both know mother in-laws are devil's cousins.


By the way, I meant no insults with the mates marrying thing....my mates are great grand parents now

Adaobi12:
I feel your pain. i have been there before.

DukeNija:

Chai Chai Chai if only our fathers will be less self centered and consider the impact of their dickcisions on their family.

Decibel:

jagugu88li:


Dear am sorry pls

Rukkydelta:
Becareful my dear this kind of step-mum's are the type that can snatch their stepdaughter's boyfriend, fiance or husband.. So if you're in a relationship presently don't allow any form of communication between her and your man

chines4:

Common you can't snatch who don't want to be snatched my dear. let her have an open mind in the relationship

Rukkydelta:

Ok

jashar:

hmmmm.....

The way I would react would be this

1. I won't bother getting close to her.  
Not being rude or anything, just keep my distance.

2. I will do the chores I need to do in the house.
For peace sake.

3. I won't talk to my father when she's there.
He can tell her about our discussion later. if he wants to.

4. I will tell her I don't feel comfortable sharing clothes.
I really don't I break out in rashes when this happens.

5. I will look for ways to keep busy even if I'm at home.

6. Next time she asks about a boy that called or something,
I will tell her it none of her business. After all, she's my age and married. 

7. When my friends come visiting, 
I will take them to my room or restrict them to a particular area of the house.
I will later explain to them that things have changed. 

Adesina12:


....Meanwhile there is plenty sweet popcorn to refresh your mind with cold cold drinks of any kind

jagugu88li:


Danke! Make I enter yua crib make I chop small

Adesina12:


Dear friend,

I am just reading this today and I am burning deep inside and spitting fire.

I hope you are out of this predicament at moment but if not the above quote is the best for you exception of the followings:

4. Don't make any comment that will break the wall of relationship between you and dad....so don't talk about advise in 4 just try a way to shield your non shareable belongings away from her especially your clothes; and

6. Same as in 4, just try to post her and tell her when it is time to discuss it with her you will open up to her.....this you will keep on telling her till you finally part your way with her.

My addition to the above advise.......

This situation you find yourself is to get you prepare for the future ......you are bng prepared for the road and not road bng prepared for you

In your relationship/friendship with her you will learn a lot from it if you take the friendship option instead of enemy within ....but don't discuss your personal and private life with her except your father and should be in private may be when she is out or you are out with your dad

Do the house chore to the best of your capacity...it is part of bng prepare for the future....remember you will soon be alone wit your sweetheart

[b]Don't leave alone or with any man until you are ready to say I do ...instead look for a relative or friend that can accommodate you or travel out during your holiday or rather stay back in school if the environment is friendly like OAU (many student stay in their hostel during holiday)....that is where is school

[/b]Be extra careful and vigilant .......it is well with you IJN

....Meanwhile there is plenty sweet popcorn to refresh your mind with cold cold drinks of any kind

jagugu88li:


Mine, current situation

Babacele:
how is step mum? hope you two now get along fine enough? Hitching to know.

jagugu88li:
Gone after 2 weeks of posting. Wasnt married so......

Babacele:
u or she?

jagugu88li:
Me? No. I have my own place but my big man stays by himself so I am home when I am in the country. She left....