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Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Heavance(m): 12:57am On Jul 13, 2016 |
These people choosing haven't faced what's up yet, its easier for them to shout marriage...... when the hardship of naija, or the challenge of life handles you, you will realize you must choose the two (meaning you must find a way to balance it) A good marriage, leaving your career will make you spite your partner in frustration. A good career without a good marriage will make leaving work so sad during the closing time. For the men, choosing their career over marriage will still make the marriage work somehow, (when there is money, your wife will call you daddy o) But to the woman, she is faced with the challenge of multi tasking, she must balance it up, which is challenging, and could drive her crazy. Those of you choosing marriage, shey na garri them go dey chop only, with the troubled economy? even couples working are not finding it easy, talk less of just the husband alone working 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Seventeen(f): 1:14am On Jul 13, 2016 |
Cutehector:bros u didn't need to specify.. Naturally only women are expected to have that option. "Choose ur career or ur duties as a wife." The man who gives up his career for a 'good marriage', wetin eem family go de chop? Shebi na 'happiness'? Am not bashishg ur thread oo. Just making my own 'heartest of heart' contributions (like my daughter will say). 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by cococandy(f): 3:23am On Jul 13, 2016 |
babyfaceafrica:'meninist' and misogynists will choose career too I guess. Or it only applies to women because we are the ones who aren't supposed to have a life outside marriage? Dane. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by cococandy(f): 3:26am On Jul 13, 2016 |
Nothing tough in this question. Gonna have both. It takes two to tango. 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by DollyParton1(f): 3:36am On Jul 13, 2016 |
GoodBoi1:Where does it take only 5 years to raise a kid? 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by DedeNkem: 4:27am On Jul 13, 2016 |
If you want happiness, do both. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Cutehector(m): 6:17am On Jul 13, 2016 |
Seventeen:alryt dear, I understand now. Also respect ur decision as well. Some men where choosing good marriage, some career, the ladies didn't bash dem lool., either ways, they were happy at their choice. Lwkmd. Dats dat. Please can u vote for falconey in the upcoming mr nairaland voting competition? |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by uzolexis(f): 6:21am On Jul 13, 2016 |
GoodBoi1: but why can't you do both, raise your kids and pursue your career. It's possible you know, if you have an understanding and supportive husband, raising kids should be a joint effort of the couple not the woman alone. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by smogup: 6:33am On Jul 13, 2016 |
eph12:See Jamb question o 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by GoodBoi1(m): 7:13am On Jul 13, 2016 |
uzolexis: T3Amo: DollyParton1:The idea is that in 5 years you can wean 2-3 children off breast milk then fully focus on your career. One way or another you will still have to sacrifice something. |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by uzolexis(f): 7:18am On Jul 13, 2016 |
GoodBoi1:of course there has to be sacrifice but it should be from both parties in the marriage not the woman alone, the woman does not have to sacrifice her career. Together with her husband they can plan a schedule that works for the family...you see raising kids is the responsiblity of both of them. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Nobody: 7:46am On Jul 13, 2016 |
naijamakossa: YOU'RE NOT IN TOUCH WITH THE QUESTION 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by dasanchez1(m): 7:53am On Jul 13, 2016 |
eph12: I'm fine boss..... nice ideology gan 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by dasanchez1(m): 7:54am On Jul 13, 2016 |
ginajet: Lol... No problem 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by hebenezher(m): 8:14am On Jul 13, 2016 |
PushPlay:lmao |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by eph12(m): 9:01am On Jul 13, 2016 |
smogup:Shebi u no be olodo na. You want to make money and not bother about family. You and who go come enjoy the money? Friends? |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by dasparrow: 9:37am On Jul 13, 2016 |
Teagirl: Precisely! @Post My mom who is a widow did both and today after much hard work she owns real estate properties and is a school proprietress as well. We her children are all grown up now and working as well. It is not wise for a woman to quit her job because should her husband suddenly die, she is toast. No wonder you see so many wretched looking widows all around Nigeria because they depended so much on their husbands' finances and when the husband suddenly departed this world, they had to pick up the pieces of their lives and find a way to fend for all the children they bore. Its better a lady becomes a teacher than just sit at home doing nothing. If my mother could balance both family (4 kids) and career successfully back in the day, then I see no reason why women in this generation can't. Nigerian-bred men on average don't live long anyway so financially rely on them at your own risk. Average life expectancy in Nigeria according to the UN is 52 years. That is really low so relying totally on another human being for your finances is not really smart. |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by datigbogirl: 9:45am On Jul 13, 2016 |
kennygee: What would other parts of the world choose? |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by naijamakossa(m): 9:55am On Jul 13, 2016 |
carmag:master I answered the question indirectly ok |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by mamawin(f): 9:56am On Jul 13, 2016 |
PushPlay:are you saying Mr. Cutehector is too intelligent to use abbreviation like most of us? I find it rather funny, because it's just meant to save time. my opinion anyways |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Cutehector(m): 10:10am On Jul 13, 2016 |
mamawin:u shouldn't have replied him. I"ve dealt with him in my way |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Adaeze003(f): 10:15am On Jul 13, 2016 |
They said choose between your career and a happy marriage and some people are choosing between their happy marriage and future wife's career... Lord save us. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Acidosis(m): 10:26am On Jul 13, 2016 |
cococandy: Will you marry a man who chooses marriage, and rejects career? |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by smogup: 10:29am On Jul 13, 2016 |
eph12:You have an African mentality. Must everybody get married? Moreover I still have parents and other siblings. |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by rosieluv(f): 10:37am On Jul 13, 2016 |
dasanchez1:hehehehehehe nice one tho 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Acidosis(m): 10:38am On Jul 13, 2016 |
My family is number 1. Clients will come and go, but family remains. The day you're fired or retired from your workplace (e.g. a Bank), you'd henceforth be treated as a commoner or better still, a common customer. In fact, by the time you go back to your ex- workplace a year after retirement, you'd hardly see any face that knows you, or ready to give you a warm treatment. Reason is not farfetched, the organisation does not belong to you; all the effort you've put in has been paid with cash. However, pre- or post- retirement, your family remains! I will choose family over and over again. To crown it all, I MUST own a big family business where my wife and children can walk in and out at will. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by eph12(m): 11:15am On Jul 13, 2016 |
smogup:African mentality okwaya? Me that used to say I don't mind if I just get a baby mama to give me one or two kids shikena. Meaning that my kids will enjoy my money. But you say u will pack your money and give your siblings that will be married and have their own kids. Awwww you will be the best uncle in the world |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by mamawin(f): 1:10pm On Jul 13, 2016 |
Cutehector:okay. just curious |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by PresVA: 1:22pm On Jul 13, 2016 |
You can always find a balance. You can have both But if I must choose, then my family/marriage because I can't have a good career when I don't have peace in my marriage. .. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by cococandy(f): 2:21pm On Jul 13, 2016 |
Acidosis:There's no rejecting any. Just like me, he has to believe he can have it all. Marriage and career. The marriage has to be as important to him as it is to him. It takes two to tango. 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by cococandy(f): 2:22pm On Jul 13, 2016 |
Adaeze003:I noticed 1 Like |
Re: Would You Choose A Good Marriage Over Career? by Acidosis(m): 3:09pm On Jul 13, 2016 |
cococandy: Alright, nice |
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