In some quarters, guys will say you do not woo a girl in this current time.

And certainly, events have shown that this true.

I was busy professing love, speaking how much I want this girl and want her to be mine BUT all I get was rejection, or indifference.

After while I switch to flirting mode and all seem well with her.

Another girl whom I kinda have a respect for have been acting same way as well. She wouldn't want to admit outrightly or accept when the question is ask. She would prefer I do not even ask her to date me but to just flow along.

Mind you, if I choose this route, I can easily bolt out--after all, "we were not dating" or "I never asked you out"

Compared to case whereby the relationship is defined from the onset.

So I ask: Do modern day Nigerian lady prefer not to wooed? Do they prefer undefined relationship to a defined one, a case that seem like flirting?

woo of course, if you don't say out your intentions, you get zoned

Kakamorufu:
woo of course, if you don't say out your intentions, you get zoned

I beg to disagree bro. Many girls have been forked by guys who never wooed them and I am sure many guys here can attest to it.

groomed:
I beg to disagree bro. Many girls have been forked by guys who never wooed them and I sure many guys here can attest to it.

i can attest to that as well, buh am talking for relationship sake, not for fuvck sake

Kakamorufu:
i can attest to that as well, buh am talking for relationship sake, not for fuvck sake

Well, as you can see, the scenario in the OP was never for fvck sake but relationship sake bro. The second girl won't even say a word but wouldn't decline we spending time together like visiting places in other states etc.

IMO it is not the best, but what can I do if that is how she wants it?

Op, what you said is true because it's what i currently experience too. it has always been a fail for me whenever i try to woo a girl with all seriousness..

Nice discussion.

That's what I hate most undefined relationship is not my thing

FTbomb:
Op, what you said is true because it's what i currently experience too. it has always been a fail for me whenever i try to woo a girl with all seriousness..

switch to flirting, flattering, nice words and nice treatment. Trust me, it works! Most girls prefer it that way than "I will cross the ocean for you", " I will fight bokoharam because of you" or " I will behead your enemies"

It is sad.

groomed:
Well, as you can see, the scenario in the OP was never for fvck sake but relationship sake bro. The second girl won't even say a word but wouldn't decline we spending time together like visiting places in other states etc.

IMO it is not the best, but what can I do if that is how she wants it?

keep following it the way she wants it then

mhiztee15:
That's what I hate most undefined relationship is not my thing

I wish it was always the way you want it but many of your sisters prefer it as I have stated here. I, too, prefer to define the course of a relationship but what do you expect a guy to do if such definition is not appreciated but a non-defined one? It therefore forces a guy to stop wooing and just start acting like they are dating.

Kakamorufu:
keep following it the way she wants it then

Sure bro. No time for emotional reasoning.

.e reading this, i think i now understand well. Some ladies like flirting and sweet names than wooing. I think i need to apply this to dis lady am disturbing now. Toasting o jawo mo, flirting ti take over

Kakamorufu:
.e reading this, i think i now understand well. Some ladies like flirting and sweet names than wooing. I think i need to apply this to dis lady am disturbing now. Toasting o jawo mo, flirting ti take over

don't over do it. Be nice to her, apply some "gentleman-ness", take her out with you but NEVER spend more than you can afford to lose and above all, use your brain. It's just like using sweet to trick a kid

groomed:
Sure bro. No time for emotional reasoning.

am telling you. I will apply it too. Cos i av one am telling all those sweet shiiit

groomed:
don't over do it. Be nice to her, apply some "gentleman-ness", take her out with you but NEVER spend more than you can afford to lose and above all, use your brain. It's just like using sweet to trick a kid

all has been duly noted. Muchas gracias

groomed:
I beg to disagree bro. Many girls have been forked by guys who never wooed them and I sure many guys here can attest to it.

u garrit bro.infact I no sabi woo lady again cos I don forget my lines,I jst follow wit d vibe and I f**k dem hoes

adedammy007:
u garrit bro.infact I no sabi woo lady again cos I don forget my lines,I jst follow wit d vibe and I f**k dem hoes

na so.

groomed:
na so.

Really? i thought u were smart? smone just implied we are all hoes and what he does is just to fvck us. And u are very okay with that

No wonder i prefer controversial threads to all these shallow droppings.

LuveU2:
Really? i thought u were smart? smone just implied we are all hoes and what he does is just to fvck us. And u are very okay with that

No wonder i prefer controversial threads to all these shallow droppings.

I am sorry if you feel insulted to my reply over there. I have never called any girl a hoe and will never do such in my life, except she clearly ply her trade at a brothel. I didn't even see that part when I replied until you mentioned it. Apologies to you and hope that is accepted?

groomed:
I am sorry if you feel insulted to my reply over there. I have never called any girl a hoe and will never do such in my life, except she clearly ply her trade at a brothel. I didn't even see that part when I replied until you mentioned it. Apologies to you and hope that is accepted?

accepted

LuveU2:
accepted

groomed:

werey

Another thing you just showed us is "always tell women what they want to hear"

0luwajuwon:
werey

Another thing you just showed us is "always tell women what they want to hear"

*lip sealed* that is a product of your imaginations

Watch how these girls avoid this thread


Dem go read and do a 'Usain Bolt'

groomed:
*lip sealed* that is a product of your imaginations

Realy... OK ooo...

0luwajuwon:
Realy... OK ooo...

yeah...

STFUareyouG0d:
Watch how these girls avoid this thread


Dem go read and do a 'Usain Bolt'

It's the psyche bro

groomed:
It's the psyche bro

Don't mind them

STFUareyouG0d:
Don't mind them

na so bro.

It's here and there. For some ladies especially the Sanguine and Choleric and Yorubas would actually want to hear it from you, as in you have to formally ask them out, if possible write an application letter to that effect so they could archive it. Else when a better and bolder guy comes along, they would leave you without looking back,afterall you never made ur intentions known.
Some others esp the melancholy and phlegmatics would just flow along if they see you as a serious guy who meets their specs.
Again it boils down to how you 'stand' as a guy and what ur bringing to the table, are you indispensable to her needs?

Very true