adewumiopeyemi:
WILL U SPEND ON ME DERE I LOVE U...

johnson232:

i like this....

keep it up..

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

halfricanadian:


Na i av helped guys in d past

Givin out my money for investment to get him fone nd wears nd i never harmed him cos of d fact i spent

Wen i do anytin i put God into it cos he sees even in d hidden nd pays every man according to his or her deeds

brightalo1010:
The op is saying this because of her last encounter with the guy that dumped her,Now is clearer to me why she created the thread.it means after spending on the guy,and the same guy suddenly made it bigger now and dumped her.feeling sorry for u Benita27 better change your character rather than creating thread.

Benita27:
I created this thread to prove to you that not every man will want a girl to be spending on them.

Hope you've learned frm ur fellow men, than picking the one that favours you.

halfricanadian:


You will provide the money

Den i will now spend on u

ehix89:
There is no single route in achieving a smooth relationship my dear, different tricks works for different folks that's why I really do not fancy relationship advice, what works for Mr. A might just be what killed Mr. B relationship

naijaboiy:


[b]SIGH!

It seems you don't understand the meaning of the word "support" in a relationship. Now I'm going to try my best to explain to you and if you still choose to be ignorant then GOODLUCK to you.

First of all no man is looking for a woman to spend on him in a relationship. I don't know what "spending" may mean to you but the context I mean is that the financial burden of the relationship rests on the man and not the woman.

But then again, it doesn't mean that the lady will just be at the receiving end all the time. A woman should also be able to take care of some things in the relationship. This shouldn't only happen when the man is broke but at other times, especially crucial times.

That is what to support means and I'm honestly shocked to see that you're strongly against it and you preach about it.

I AM NOT LOOKING FOR A WOMAN TO SPEND ON ME NEITHER AM I LOOKING FOR A WOMAN THAT WILL NOT SUPPORT ME.

It is always better when everything is done fifty-fifty. This is what is done in saner climes. That way no one can come to claim bragging rights in the relationship. You can leave when you want to. But the moment you allow a man provide everything for you and you don't contribute nothing then you are nothing but a liability that can be kicked out at any point in time when you fück up.

Please and please if you didn't understand my post no need to reply cos I wouldn't want to engage you in another back and forth again.

Have a wonderful night rest.[/b]

agarawu23:
Only "few" naija babe will spend on a guy..
They have that dull mentality that their bf must spend and must alws be the one to spend.

stephenmorris:
confam

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men.

brightalo1010:

No be true I talk bruh?

brightalo1010:
The op is saying this because of her last encounter with the guy that dumped her,Now is clearer to me why she created the thread.it means after spending on the guy,and the same guy suddenly made it bigger now and dumped her.feeling sorry for u Benita27 better change your character rather than creating thread.

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Benita27:
Never develop the habit of spending on a guy you're dating, there's no harm in helping them when they're in need, What real men want is a faithful lady, not one that spends on them.

To some spending on them reduces their self worth, even in marriages when a lady is the bread winner of the family, the men are not so happy, so why should your boyfriend be happy when you're the one doing virtually everything for him?, when such a relationship crashes, he has nothing to lose but you.

Imagine if all you do is:pay his school fees, pay rents, cook for him with your money whenever you visit, change his wardrobe, when there's no guarantee he will even marry you, neither are you his sugar mummy, is he handicap?. He will take all these and still cheat on you, and dump you when the need arise.

We ladies are naturally emotional, while the male counterparts are naturally logical, when he dumps you suicide is inevitable, he's likely to move on sooner that you.

He asked you out, you didn't ask him, why should you two go on a date, and you're the one buying everything, while he's collecting?.

Spending on a guy is not healthy, even your parents will frown at it.

Expecting the ladies you date to spend on you is like patronising a prostitute and asking her to pay you.

We're not in India where women marry men. I will spend on him if he spends on me.

halfricanadian:


You will provide the money

Den i will now spend on u

adewumiopeyemi:

JustHere2Observ:
I dont understand, so because he asked you out you should just be collecting? You won't surprise him with gifts or pay for dinner once in a while? This is why guys keep shading ladies on this forum, you present yourselves as leeches.

Benita27:
And you think you men have a second thought when you want to kick a woman out?.

mizzbouqui:
To be sincere I will be proud if I do all those things for my guy, that's why I can't date talkless of love someone I'm richer than but that doesn't mean I won't surprise him once in a while