courtneysr:

I was currently in a relationship with a Nigerian and he decided to end it because I was white and wished to start a career as a politician in Nigeria. I have searched the internet and couldn't find much ( but I am not to internet Savoy when trying o find things) on interracial marriages in Nigeria. If it is common, OK, or just plain wrong. Especially in a position as high as politicans, Please if anybody knows anything let me know.

Thanks

chic2pimp:

I don't know why but this post not only looks dodgy but it also sounds effy. . Just my 2cents worth.

Jakumo:

To qualify as an honorary Nigerian politician, you will be required to enlist as the 17th wife of a geriatric Nigerian from the Hausa tribe, whereopun you will assume the status of a FIRST LADY as soon the old fart rigs his way into political power. Once in that exalted position, you will be entitled to loot the state treasury to your heart's content, under a variety of "pet programs" that will all bear names relating to the aleviation of poverty, YOUR poverty, that is.
Good luck and don't forget to forward my consultancy fee as soon as you get your paws in the cookie jar.

courtneysr:

I was currently in a relationship with a Nigerian and he decided to end it because I was white and wished to start a career as a politician in Nigeria. I have searched the internet and couldn't find much ( but I am not to internet Savoy when trying o find things) on interracial marriages in Nigeria. If it is common, OK, or just plain wrong. Especially in a position as high as politicans, Please if anybody knows anything let me know.

Thanks

Jakumo:

To qualify as an honorary Nigerian politician, you will be required to enlist as the 17th wife of a geriatric Nigerian from the Hausa tribe, whereopun you will assume the status of a FIRST LADY as soon the old fart rigs his way into political power. Once in that exalted position, you will be entitled to loot the state treasury to your heart's content, under a variety of "pet programs" that will all bear names relating to the aleviation of poverty, YOUR poverty, that is.

Good luck and don't forget to forward my consultancy fee as soon as you get your paws in the cookie jar.

SeanT21:

dream on.

sugabelly: @poster: To be perfectly honest, Nigeria is a country where ethnicity and blood are tied to the land. What this means is: You are either Nigerian by blood or you are not. And if you're not Nigerian by blood you can't do anything in Nigeria other than just be a normal every day person. You can't be a traditional ruler, you can't be a politician or hold office. If I'm reading your question correctly, it was your boyfriend/husband who wanted to start a political career. If this is the case, then yes, he probably (and correctly I might add) assumed that your whiteness would be detrimental to his political career. Why? Because politics in Nigeria is inextricably tied to ethnicity and tribe. A politician CANNOT represent an area of the country to which he does not belong. And  belonging or being from an area of the country means ethnically and genetically originating from that area by blood, DNA, and culture. So of course, you can see how you would add an awkward element to the equation.

That and the fact that Nigeria only gained independence from Britain only 49 years ago. Any white people attempting to either take any kind of office or associate themselves directly with any kind of political office in Nigeria would most likely be viewed as veiled neo-colonists at worst and insulting at best.

Interracial marriages exist in Nigeria and are not seriously frowned upon but they are still rare/uncommon. Most Nigerian parents would prefer for their children to marry another Nigerian of the same tribe at best and another Nigerian of a complementary tribe at worst.  This does not mean that interracial couples are harrassed or anything. However, such marriages are not common, and they NEVER exist at high political levels,  ever. It would be political suicide.


I know this is your relationship and it must make you feel sad, but I do hope you now understand the situation a bit better. I am not trying to be harsh, I am just trying to give you an honest answer. If the person you're in a relationship with is a normal person, or even a very successful/wealthy business person then you're good to go. But once you start dating people that are from royal families, heirs to empires, or have political careers, then if I were you, I would not realistically expect the relationship to go anywhere. The realistic expectation would be that such a person would sooner or later marry another Nigerian (usually one that has been carefully selected and specially groomed to the expectations of the family).

sugabelly: @poster: To be perfectly honest, Nigeria is a country where ethnicity and blood are tied to the land. What this means is: You are either Nigerian by blood or you are not. And if you're not Nigerian by blood you can't do anything in Nigeria other than just be a normal every day person. You can't be a traditional ruler, you can't be a politician or hold office. If I'm reading your question correctly, it was your boyfriend/husband who wanted to start a political career. If this is the case, then yes, he probably (and correctly I might add) assumed that your whiteness would be detrimental to his political career. Why? Because politics in Nigeria is inextricably tied to ethnicity and tribe. A politician CANNOT represent an area of the country to which he does not belong. And  belonging or being from an area of the country means ethnically and genetically originating from that area by blood, DNA, and culture. So of course, you can see how you would add an awkward element to the equation.

That and the fact that Nigeria only gained independence from Britain only 49 years ago. Any white people attempting to either take any kind of office or associate themselves directly with any kind of political office in Nigeria would most likely be viewed as veiled neo-colonists at worst and insulting at best.

Interracial marriages exist in Nigeria and are not seriously frowned upon but they are still rare/uncommon. Most Nigerian parents would prefer for their children to marry another Nigerian of the same tribe at best and another Nigerian of a complementary tribe at worst.  This does not mean that interracial couples are harrassed or anything. However, such marriages are not common, and they NEVER exist at high political levels,  ever. It would be political suicide.


I know this is your relationship and it must make you feel sad, but I do hope you now understand the situation a bit better. I am not trying to be harsh, I am just trying to give you an honest answer. If the person you're in a relationship with is a normal person, or even a very successful/wealthy business person then you're good to go. But once you start dating people that are from royal families, heirs to empires, or have political careers, then if I were you, I would not realistically expect the relationship to go anywhere. The realistic expectation would be that such a person would sooner or later marry another Nigerian (usually one that has been carefully selected and specially groomed to the expectations of the family).

sugabelly: @poster: To be perfectly honest, Nigeria is a country where ethnicity and blood are tied to the land. What this means is: You are either Nigerian by blood or you are not. And if you're not Nigerian by blood you can't do anything in Nigeria other than just be a normal every day person. You can't be a traditional ruler, you can't be a politician or hold office. If I'm reading your question correctly, it was your boyfriend/husband who wanted to start a political career. If this is the case, then yes, he probably (and correctly I might add) assumed that your whiteness would be detrimental to his political career. Why? Because politics in Nigeria is inextricably tied to ethnicity and tribe. A politician CANNOT represent an area of the country to which he does not belong. And  belonging or being from an area of the country means ethnically and genetically originating from that area by blood, DNA, and culture. So of course, you can see how you would add an awkward element to the equation.

That and the fact that Nigeria only gained independence from Britain only 49 years ago. Any white people attempting to either take any kind of office or associate themselves directly with any kind of political office in Nigeria would most likely be viewed as veiled neo-colonists at worst and insulting at best.

Interracial marriages exist in Nigeria and are not seriously frowned upon but they are still rare/uncommon. Most Nigerian parents would prefer for their children to marry another Nigerian of the same tribe at best and another Nigerian of a complementary tribe at worst.  This does not mean that interracial couples are harrassed or anything. However, such marriages are not common, and they NEVER exist at high political levels,  ever. It would be political suicide.


I know this is your relationship and it must make you feel sad, but I do hope you now understand the situation a bit better. I am not trying to be harsh, I am just trying to give you an honest answer. If the person you're in a relationship with is a normal person, or even a very successful/wealthy business person then you're good to go. But once you start dating people that are from royal families, heirs to empires, or have political careers, then if I were you, I would not realistically expect the relationship to go anywhere. The realistic expectation would be that such a person would sooner or later marry another Nigerian (usually one that has been carefully selected and specially groomed to the expectations of the family).