PinketteDawn:


No it doesn't. A thousand times 'No it doesn't guarantee a happy marriage'.

She may not have learned how to cook as a teenager because she had no one to teach her. She might have lost her mother at a very tender age. Her father, too busy looking for money to raise her, may not have bothered to teach her because he did not even know how to cook. Their cook did her job everyday and went home.

I can tell you that there are many women out there who are great cooks yet divorced. I am telling you this with certainty.

philip0906:
[size=13pt]A woman that does not know how to cook?? Wow!
What was she doing during her teenage and youthful years?? Such women only occupy space in their matrimonial homes
I can't imagine my wife not knowing how to cook afang soup garnished with 85 shredded ponmos a.k.a show boy topped with isi ewu and bent stock fish. Which kain wife be that? [/size]

wadetaw202:


If their cook did the cooking, then their house help would also do the washing and the sweeping and the fetching of water and virtually everything. Consequently, she would grow into a halfbaked and useless adult.

A lady who can't cook will also lack in other aspects of life that makes a woman useful in a marriage.

So, what manner of daughters do you expect such a woman to give birth to? Halfbaked daughters I'm certain!

Because women who can cook end up being divorced does not give excuse for a woman to be useless in the kitchen.

It is your choice anyway.

Pray that God will send a woman who can't cook to you as wife, so that you can learn from experience how useless such a woman can be.

zicoraads:

Of cos it doesn't guarantee a happy marriage, but it goes a long way in helping to. The probability that it does is greater than.

And your last paragraph, are you divorced?

PinketteDawn:


The probability is not in any way increased my dear. Lol

It all depends on what both partners want from each other.

And we are not discussing me here. My marital status is really not your concern.

johnwizey:
I can marry a lady that can't cook on a condition that she will be able to prepare 'amala, beans, pounded yam, jollof rice, eba, semo, efo riro' etc I can't cook hw will i marry another me Even my sis dat stays in the hostel does all the cooking when shez home.

LuvU2:
This cooking thing is serious o

I better perfect my skills asap.

zicoraads:

I think it does. See, I don't want to go into the sermon of how many marriages are packing up due to one reason or another. But as you mentioned earlier, a wife's knowledge of how to cook doesn't guarantee a happy marriage. Agreed!

But then, why don't we look it the present society of ours and ask why so many marriages are packing up? Why wasn't it so bad during the times of our parents and their parents before them? We have had to sacrifice some of the things that created a special bond between a man and his wife on the alter of 'civilization.' Forget western culture. An African man is still an African man. And nothing is truer than the saying, 'the way to a man's heart is through his stomach.'

I have been there before. That feeling of utmost satisfaction and fulfillment when you have finished eating a sumptuous meal. It's indescribable!

I totally agree that a woman that cooks for her husband is not totally insulated from a divorce or an unhappy marriage. But then, except we want to deceive ourselves, one that cooks good meals for her man would most likely have her man in a better place than the one who doesn't.

zicoraads:
Are you divorced?

repogirl:

What if she doesn't know how to cook but she is industrious, hardworking and a really caring woman who contributes financially to the family, would you still act the same way? I doubt it.

bee444:
Interviewing agberos who lacks social tolerance speaks volume of how mentally unbalance Nigerian mens are. Imagine denouncing who they love just because the woman can't cook?

What happened to teaching her with love, and sending her to catering school? Smh

PinketteDawn:




Why most marriages are packing up today is simply because of selfishness. Like it or not, times are changing. It is no longer the world of our parents or the of their parents before them. Civilisation has come and it is here to stay. We can never go back to that time. It won't be possible even if we try. Some things cannot remain as it were in the time of our parents. Western culture has nothing to do with this. Even oyibo men like their women to cook for them.

A man who loves a woman unconditionally, won't see her shortcomings as an issue. She will also not see his shortcomings as an issue. If the way to man's heart is truly through his stomach, why do we have men who cheat on their 'perfect' wives who can churn out meals similar to those prepared by professional chefs sporting the Michelin awards? Why do we have women who can serve cordon bleu but are being constantly abused by their husbands? Why do we have women who are broken beyond repair because of the psychological torture they had to endure from their husbands despite the fact that they always aim to please in the kitchen? Does it mean that those men don't have stomachs?



Ermmm....No. Not at all.One who is loved by her husband unconditionally would most likely have her husband in a better place. The man will eat her crap and appreciate her for making an effort. He will gently urge her to improve. Enrol her in a catering school if possible so she can learn. We are not deceiving ourselves here. A Close family friend of mine has been married for over 30 years to her husband. I can tell you that that woman does not know how to cook. No matter the amount of ingredients she uses, her food always tastes bland. She has daughters who are married now and they cannot cook but they are with their husbands...Not divorced.

philip0906:
[size=13pt]A woman that does not know how to cook?? Wow!
What was she doing during her teenage and youthful years?? Such women only occupy space in their matrimonial homes
I can't imagine my wife not knowing how to cook afang soup garnished with 85 shredded ponmos a.k.a show boy topped with isi ewu and bent stock fish. Which kain wife be that? [/size]

blaayne:
I pity u..U wan dey dash kfc money abi

repogirl:
I noticed that they mostly interviewed sokpan boys who lack exposure but the few men who were older and possibly already married were more tolerant of the idea.

Yes, a woman should know how to cook but in the case where she doesn't, other factors should also determine the best action to take.

Does she want to learn?
Does she have other redeeming qualities about her?
Her personality, etc....

What if she doesn't know how to cook but she is industrious, hardworking and a really caring woman who contributes financially to the family, would you still act the same way? I doubt it.

raayah:


Can't a man also cook all the soups and stew for tge weekend?

repogirl:
I noticed that they mostly interviewed sokpan boys who lack exposure but the few men who were older and possibly already married were more tolerant of the idea.

Yes, a woman should know how to cook but in the case where she doesn't, other factors should also determine the best action to take.

Does she want to learn?
Does she have other redeeming qualities about her?
Her personality, etc....

What if she doesn't know how to cook but she is industrious, hardworking and a really caring woman who contributes financially to the family, would you still act the same way? I doubt it.

beautiful232:
But I can cook indomie nau

beautiful232:
But I can cook indomie nau

beautiful232:
But I can cook indomie nau

yomz1e:
So you don't trust your mum.... Guy you are wicked!

tintingz:
Does cooking guarantee happy marriage?.

Ginaz:
If cooking is a must then why marriage still breaking?

That's crap.

repogirl:
I noticed that they mostly interviewed sokpan boys who lack exposure but the few men who were older and possibly already married were more tolerant of the idea.

Yes, a woman should know how to cook but in the case where she doesn't, other factors should also determine the best action to take.

Does she want to learn?
Does she have other redeeming qualities about her?
Her personality, etc....

What if she doesn't know how to cook but she is industrious, hardworking and a really caring woman who contributes financially to the family, would you still act the same way? I doubt it.

Petroking:
Just look at your sentence.. You will not marry a Nigerian girl. You will marry from your village in Rivers state. If I was a girl from your village after seeing this sentence I won't agree to date you not to even have the idea of marriage. The girl from Rivers state is from which country Abeg my people Just Negodu

Petroking:
Just look at your sentence.. You will not marry a Nigerian girl. You will marry from your village in Rivers state. If I was a girl from your village after seeing this sentence I won't agree to date you not to even have the idea of marriage. The girl from Rivers state is from which country Abeg my people Just Negodu

beautiful232:
But I can cook indomie nau

jabojafa:
so if u marry today dt same day u go hire hus maid?

daretodiffer:
You don't need a wife to do that. A chef can always give you that

abbssx:
As long as she is willing to learn it's not the end of the world. One can always learn to Cook