Contact17:


That is completely fine. You can still wear it out .

You know this reminds me of the first time I decided to start wearing abayas outside. By Allah, I had only one abaya and that was it. It wasn't a fancy abaya, and to be honest, it was way too long for me.
I remember the first few times I wore it outside, I felt 'awkward' and I almost tripped many times. I thought people were staring at me but it was only waswas from shaytan.
People might be the first time but they will get used to it and so would you.You know, when you don't compromise your faith, the world gets used it.But you need make a firm decision within yourself to make this change.
I ask Allah to make it easy for you sis

lexiconkabir:
Same experience i had when i started growing my beards(almost 7months now) i had so many negative remarks, even within myself i was having whispers from shaytan that i am no more attractive like i used to be, whenever such thoughts come, i will say "Alhamdulillah, less fitna" because i wont have to battle with girls, another thing that kept(and is still keeping) me going is the words of shaykh solih alfawzaan;

"Shaytan tempts the men to shave their beards and women to pluck their eyebrows"

Anyway, this is fp worthy .....salaam alaykum sister Mukina2 do the needful...

eherbal:
I had a similar challenge. My first critic was my wife. She kept on telling me how unattractive and old school I had become . I had female colleagues telling me to my face,that they won't talk to me till I shaved. Some even labelled me "boko haram". The stigma soon faded with time cuz of my stubborn resolute to keep with the programme . I developed a thick skin to critcism and snide remarks . Now my wife has accepted the beards,and my colleagues don't bully me anymore ,because of my resolve to be a better me for the sake of Allah and my faith. Still working on other areas to improve myself. Alhamdulillah.

Kudos contact17. Nice write up

lexiconkabir:


Wow! Thats great! If you dont mind me asking, Have you tried introducing the sunnah of the prophet to your household (wife and children)?

eherbal:
It's been an ongoing project in the family, with the wife not finding it easy ,but adjusting all the same. At times it's hard to jettison cultural values for religious ones. My kids are adopting quite well, Alhamdulillah .

zarinaAin:
Let me book space

snapscore:


Lol, the thread already made fb.

Just moving it to the top.

zarinaAin:


haba sis, I was about to balance well on my seat

Actually I booked the space to modify later. Wana share my Hijab experience also

zarinaAin:
I was a pashminite right from the start but I always knew it's not right. Then that inner voice will tell me when you get to 400level you can change then. I continue turning up to 300level.

Life as a pashminite was a deceit whenever I sit back and remember, then I say "I can't believe I did that"

First of all dressing up for school is like kitting up for war
1. Choosing the right color of pash to rhythm with your outfit
2.the style you want to turn the pash into the (you must have think about the style a day before)
3.the pash style and outfit must be compatible (if not remove and redo)
4.keeping the face shape and hair do in mind (always choked up in the neck and the ears is block, words echo in my ears)
5.trials and errors (we don't always get it right at once, you need to try for about 3 times while others are in class already)
6.pin it girl (you need about 3pin for this task and always be ready to pin your head and hair)
7 adjustment (making sure it falls in the right places, then you wish it should have been longer than that)
8.mirror girl(always looking at the car window to know it's still intact even if if the owner is there, lol)
9.panic time (when you meet people you know and you have a million questions in your head
10.be rest assured you are not going back home the way you came

During exam period, almost all the pashminite will starting using Hijab cos there's no time to be turning up and down

I normally convince my course mate (mssn exco in my department) to borrow me one. After the paper, I return

I found the way through her, all bcs she didn't gave up on me. I tot I was stubborn but she is always ready with the right word. She gave me my first personal khimar "she said at least just to stand in first of Allah during solat"

Then I found myself wearing it everywhere. I bought more when I had the means.

snapscore:


I had to search up the meaning of pashminitie. I agree with all your point especially regarding the pin and ensuring that it's fully covering. Lol I went through 4 too when I started covering. I actually use to tie it so tight that my face looked like square.

Your course mate is amazing!!

lexiconkabir:

what's pashminite?

snapscore:


My guess is regular scarf made of wool.

Like the scarf you tie not the already made hijab.

lexiconkabir:


oh! ok.....thanks.

zarinaAin:


You know we ladies like to classify everything

Pash - the scarf
Pashminite - a lady using scarf but you have the talent of turning it into different styles unlike tying it like dem deeper life gals

zarinaAin:


You know we ladies like to classify everything

Pash - the scarf
Pashminite - a lady using scarf but you have the talent of turning it into different styles unlike tying it like dem deeper life gals

snapscore:


I had to search up the meaning of pashminitie. I agree with all your point especially regarding the pin and ensuring that it's fully covering. Lol I went through 4 too when I started covering. I actually use to tie it so tight that my face looked like square.

Your course mate is amazing!!

snapscore:


See shading of life

Na me you dey call deeper life?

Just jk but that was funny "dem deeper life gals"

zarinaAin:


Lol, square face esp when you have a round face, double chin. My sister, the hustle is real

Wearing a scarf made me realize that sometimes, changing old habits can be difficult but a lot of it has to do with ones’ self. One’s own thoughts and mindset. I am not denying that society makes it difficult to make changes, but sometimes we just need to be confident and brave enough to take those steps. After all, Allah said in the Qur’an that whoever gives up something for his sake, he would compensate him with something better.

Why does it matter what people say?

People will talk regardless of what a person does! I was neither created to serve nor please people. I was created only to serve and please the one who created me.The one who sustains me, because on that day when the earth has been crushed and mountains have become like a mirage, nothing will save me except his mercy.

Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“And I (Allaah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone)”[al-Dhaariyaat 51:56].

It was reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “No one’s deeds will ever admit him to Paradise.”
They said, “Not even you, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “No, not even me, unless Allah showers me with His Mercy. So try to be near to perfection. And no one should wish for death; he is either doing good so he will do more of that, or he is doing wrong so he may repent.” [al-Bukhari, Muslim]