Victorakats:
They say that when a child talks, you will know his age. Your message was insensitive, suppressive and intimidating for a lady who will spend the rest of her life with you.
She will accommodate your penis and your personality.
She will put her life on the line for your generation unborn.
And she will sacrifice her life to serve you and the best way to introduce your mother to her is by giving her orders that if she disrespects your mother, you will divorce her.
What happens if your mother abuses her?
How do you hope to protect her from the vicious abuse of some of your family members who doesn't like her for all the good reasons?
How do you hope to provide enabling environment to make sure that there's no room for disrespect?
Obviously you need to work on your perception of marriage and wife so that you will enjoy your marriage.
In conclusion, you don't even respect your partner, you need to learn how to communicate with your partner. You failed this!
Thanks!
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flyca:
OP, if she is your girlfriend, I will be surprised that woman is still with you. You made it sound like she has a trophy being married to you.
Hia!

Threat go full that house o.
Serve me dinner at 8 or I divorce you.
Greet me every morning or I divorce you.
Make the bed or I divorce you.

Sweet marriage

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

daretodiffer:
What is so special about your mum? You guys act like you folks always respect your mother in laws too

I hope you also told your mama the same thing because your wife deserve respect as much as she does. In fact every human being deserve respect-:\

Muafrika2:

That will work for those who desire peace. But am I the only person who has experienced people who just fight you for the heck of it?

Joavid:


it's either you're a mama's boy or you think she's going to disrespect your mum.

whichever it is, it's best you don't get married until you find a lady you won't threaten with such statements and grow up to be a man.

Rheetaa:
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And she's the fowl you bought from the market, abi? Two become one in marriage and the mantle's for real men, dear.

Gassa007:

Sometimes the way you talk is something else,you just want to be noticed maybe cos of your moniker.You just open your mouth"What's so special about your mum".Just negodu....

doveda:
Maybe I want to be noticed, maybe I am not so dvmb to expect others to revere my mum the way I do hence the reason why she must respect others if she wants them to respect her and vice versa

You should thank me for making you think instead of following others with their blind sentiments


cc koldkash

KoldKash:


Never say it in any form for fear of what?

You don't know what some mothers have been through to raise their children.all mothers are not the same,some mothers are super-they paid a very steep price to raise the husband you marry.and no sensible son will give away her mother to be insulted and scorned just to prove he loves his wife-because that's what some wives yearn for-to turn a child away from the mother.until that is achieved,they don't feel loved or cherished.

KoldKash:


All in all,it boils down to you.if you hold your mum at a low esteem you don't expect others to do any better.

KingEbukasBlog:


Hmmm ... Women find it hard to get along with their mothers-in-law ... Why ?

nathdim:
As for me the only person I trust in these life and in the next life is my mum
So no woman no matter how beautiful she is would ever try to downgrade her not even my siblings can try it
So if she likes she better dance to the tune of her music or she leaves

doveda:
Bla bla bla

Do you know what my mum have done to make me what I am today? You think say na only you your mama dey sacrifice for? Also, because your mother had to sell pure mother and my mum doesn't, do not make your mother greater than mine. My mother is special to me just as yours is special to you. My siblings are the o my ones who can rule on that not YOU!

Therefore no one should come and expect me to laugh while his mother terrorises me on top say she sacrificed for her son. No woman in her right sense should disrespect her mother in law unless she is mad.
However if mother in law cannot respect herself and husband cannot handle his own mother, they should brace themselves for whatever comes to them. That aside, it would take a woman who doesnt respect her son to attack his wife. Such men should blame themselves rather than the women in their lives

doveda:
If I hold my mum in high esteem, and she goes out and disrespect others including my hubby. Na here I go sit down dey watch. My relationship with her is my relationship with her. She is mother and no one else's!. If at all, she is LIKE a mother to others like my husband for example. And LIKE a mother does not make a mother!

Quit being sentimental. Your mother is your mother and not mine! And she can never be my mother! It is a fact you don't need emotions to understand it!

You simply don't get it. I am not standing on the zenith of Mount everest and beckoning on the world to respect my mother because she is my mother,no. My case is that the one woman who desires to become a part of me must respect who I respect.my wife and children are to be a unit of my brother family,not a separate entity altogether like a lone wolf. And I can tell a woman who is a separatist in less than 6months.

And if you can't see your hubby's mum as your own mum then,you can't accord her the respect fit for a mother.

Saying your mother is a mother and nothing else speaks volume as touching how you relate with your own mother.so with that epiphany,it's easy to understand why you can care less who treats her how and why another person's mother might be of ltitle or no value to you.

For some of us though,we have come a long way with the old woman and we forever feel indebted to them.

HaneefahRN:




The way some guys talk ehn, you would think na only them their mothers matter to or suffered for. The wives fell from heaven to come and be everyone's toy, they can treat anyhow . And yeah, you must be always cool headed and the perfect robot.

doveda:
Don't mind them, instead of them to be ashamed that the women in their lives cannot pretend to get on with each other. They are here chatting shit. If you think your wife doesn't deserve to be respected, you better marry your own mother. You won't be the first to do that

gsley:
Na mouth u they make, if she say she no they do now u go go carry all yr family come beg her,

doveda:
If I hold my mum in high or low esteem, and she goes out and disrespect others including my hubby. Na here I go sit down dey watch. My relationship with her is my relationship with her. She is mother and no one else's!. If at all, she is LIKE a mother to others like my husband And LIKE a mother does not make her his mother!

Quit being sentimental. Your mother is your mother and not mine! And she can never be my mother! It is a fact you don't need emotions to understand it!

HaneefahRN:


Lolz. Abi o. Yeye.
It's immaturity, this OP for example will most likely not be able to keep a balance in his home. They are the ones that will be using their own hands to attract disorder in the home then start trying to pin the blame on the scape goat of the family, the wife.

doveda:
It is the wife, she is the only person that has a lot to lose na so she must act like a robot

doveda:
Sentiments again


She is my mother! I don't need to explain to you how wonderful she has been to you or anyone else because she is my mother not yours!!! Stop trying to bring how I treat my mother into question, this is not about me. It is about the lack of that relationship between my mum and others. I cannot and will not force others to treat my mother AS THEIR rmother. That relationship does not extend to anyone else except my siblings. The joys of motherhood etc flows from I to her and vice versa. No one is obligated to treat her as their mother except my siblings. If at all you will treat her LIKE she is your mother but she can never be your mother .

My husband mother is like a mother to me, she can never be my mother. There are things my mum will do that I will just angry or react to and she will understand or she woumd react to and we will understand because if that special relationship BETWEEN US. If it were mother in law, she may never forgive and forget and I may never forget and forgive too. I will always see her as like my mither. It would require more effort to treat her LIKE I would treat my mother, in fact I can't I treat her like I would treat my mother insime if not most cases because she wouldn't understand and will read meaning to it.

Think like a human being and not with sentiments. Your mother is forever your mother and she can never be mine. Don't force her on anyone Biko

KoldKash:


You may never get this.and it's okay for you since you are a woman.but for me,my mother remains an integral part of me(and no one or nothing can ever change that) and must be so admitted by any woman who is serious about us sharing our lives with each other.and there is no other way to deal with this because at the first sign of discomfort around my mother I am on my way out of your life-and that peacefully. It's not sentiment,it's a lifestyle. I hate separatist's.

KoldKash:


You may never get this.and it's okay for you since you are a woman.but for me,my mother remains an integral part of me(and no one or nothing can ever change that) and must be so admitted by any woman who is serious about us sharing our lives with each other.and there is no other way to deal with this because at the first sign of discomfort around my mother I am on my way out of your life-and that peacefully. It's not sentiment,it's a lifestyle. I hate separatist's.

Sphinx02:
I recently told my lady this but she felt it wz harsh.Is it? Anyways d mssg has been received loud and clear.

doveda:
What will you do your siblings if they disrespected THEIR mother? The least you could do is to talk to them and if they don't stop, you disown them . You can't beat them up lest you end up in court for assault.

You seem to forget that she does belong to you and your siblings NOT just you.



You guys will be making mouth there