5minsmadness:

Submission=respect.
Good food =good home = good environment.
Let me translate good food further.

Preparing the food for him =shows you are thinking about him, about his welfare.
Keeping the food waiting for him when he comes and its hot= shows you are thoughtful. You have given him immediate relief from outside wahala.
A hungry man is an angry man is a wise saying. A hungry man comes home and sees no food. He translates it to mean you are not caring, you cannot take care of him, you didnt think of him. His welfare is not important to you.
And the more you repeat this scenario for him the more infuriated he becomes. He may not voice it to you cos most men dont express thier feelings well but thats what he thinks.

I get your point sir. but im coming from the op's perspective.
he doesn't think food and submission is important.
and good food doesn't necessary translate to good home. what do you say about a good cook that nags.?!

PS; I do not think respect equates to submission.

5minsmadness:

There are men that have only one testicle.
You do not use the abnormal to judge the normal.
Am busy. Will respond later.

Short response is Ok. Everyone can't be the same, people react differently to displeasure.

Cc innovestor, rilokikey.
I didnt comment on your thread but i think u might find this interesting.

The one only thing that men want in marriage is submission

A wife that doesn't nag and happy kids. Finish

“men marry a woman hoping she will never change, and women marry a man hoping to change him.”

Just yesterday, I was pondering on the authenticity of this saying. I found it somewhat true, and came to the conclusion that this is the reason most marriages fail; stable behaviour men and unstable behaviour in women . I'm serious. This is the reason why many men, myself included, consider women psychotic. We can't understand how something that was cool just three months ago is now akin to a crime against humanity. Chinese!

Anyway, to the women asking about submission in the list, it's there already. You can't see it because you're not men. . Sorry.


BTW, the OP is super spot on.

Timbuktuo:
“men marry a woman hoping she will never change, and women marry a man hoping to change him.”
Just yesterday, I was pondering on the authenticity of this saying. I found it somewhat true, and came to the conclusion that this is the reason most marriages fail; stable behaviour men and unstable behaviour in women . I'm serious. This is the reason why many men, myself included, consider women psychotic. We can't understand how something that was cool just three months ago is now akin to a crime against humanity. Chinese!
Anyway, to the women asking about submission in the list, it's there already. You can't see it because you're not men. . Sorry.

Maybe they need to define what they mean by submission though.

Timbuktuo:
“men marry a woman hoping she will never change, and women marry a man hoping to change him.”

Just yesterday, I was pondering on the authenticity of this saying. I found it somewhat true, and came to the conclusion that this is the reason most marriages fail; stable behaviour men and unstable behaviour in women . I'm serious. This is the reason why many men, myself included, consider women psychotic. We can't understand how something that was cool just three months ago is now akin to a crime against humanity. Chinese!

Anyway, to the women asking about submission in the list, it's there already. You can't see it because you're not men. . Sorry.


BTW, the OP is super spot on.

I don't think so, seems to me like you think the point on criticising him equals submission.

freecocoa:
I don't think so, seems to me like you think the point on criticising him equals submission.

Ok, jokes aside, it isn't there. But, so what? Oh, i get it. Only Nigerian men are hung up on submission eh? Well, not all Nigerian men want submissive women and I can say, with authority, that more oyibo men are going back to the barbaric tradition of submissive wives. So...

Timbuktuo:


Ok, jokes aside, it isn't there. But, so what? Oh, i get it. Only Nigerian men are hung up on submission eh? Well, not all Nigerian men want submissive women and I can say, with authority, that more oyibo men are going back to the barbaric tradition of submissive wives. So...

You wish.

bukatyne:


Welcome to the thread

Women have always heard what men want/ how to be good wives on our side of the divide. Compare the amount of wives/women seminar to that of husbands/men.

This article was written from the POV of a western man/husband.

Wonder what a typical Nigerian's will be like? Perhaps chores, well kept home, obedience, good food, sex, etc.??


Modified to welcome you

One of the mistakes we make is we think Western men are different from other men especially African men.

Aside those that their relationships are defined by any belief or religion that subjugates women, men's interest world over in a woman is the same.

The view of a Western man about a woman is not different from that of a Nigerian and a Westerner does not treat his wife any better than a Nigerian.

bellong:

One of the mistakes we make is we think Western men are different from other men especially African men.

Aside those that their relationships are defined by any belief or religion that subjugates women, men's interest world over in a woman is the same.

The view of a Western man about a woman is not different from that of a Nigerian and a Westerner does not treat his wife any better than a Nigerian.

Blasphemy!!! You risk a trip to the guillotine

freecocoa:
You wish.

Wish what?

Timbuktuo:


Wish what?

That it be true, what you said about white men going back to the tradition of submissive wives.

freecocoa:
That it be true, what you said about white men going back to the tradition of submissive wives.

Well, you can find out for yourself. Seek, and you shall...

Timbuktuo:


Well, you can find out for yourself. Seek, and you shall...

There's nothing to seek is the point boo.

freecocoa:
There's nothing to seek is the point boo.

Alright, boo.

Timbuktuo:


Blasphemy!!! You risk a trip to the guillotine

A convincing counter will have to disprove the statement.

Timbuktuo:


Alright, boo.

freecocoa:

Abi na. I done hear you. I'm trying to find my inner chi

bellong:




A convincing counter will have to disprove the statement.

Convincing counter? You are wrong. It is known

Timbuktuo:


Abi na. I done hear you. I'm trying to find my inner chi

That's wonderful, you are doing great so far, I hope you are practicing tai chi? Helps you get there quicker.

freecocoa:
That's wonderful, you are doing great so far, I hope you are practicing tai chi? Helps you get there quicker.

For where? This one na food chi o. Before i chop finish, I done forget wetin I wan type.

Timbuktuo:


For where? This one na food chi o. Before i chop finish, I done forget wetin I wan type.

You too like food.

freecocoa:


You too like food.

Like mad. Which is why I'm particular about marrying a woman who can cook

Timbuktuo:


Like mad. Which is why I'm particular about marrying a woman who can cook

Okay o, go for an akwa-ibomite, I hear they are great at that.

freecocoa:
Okay o, go for an akwa-ibomite, I hear they are great at that.

I already have that covered I'm afraid. But I did date an Oron chick once. Pretty solid in the kitchen.

@ bukatyne,
Varies from man to man
The internet warriors may prefer submission to s ex
Some prefer peaceful homes
Some well cooked meal
Some would prefer s ex from morning till night and not bothered by cooking skills
Some with one testicle will prefer to be called Chief above anythingelse.
Depends on the man.

Don't really care about what men want these days though .Maybe you should create a more interesting one about what women want let's see if the recalcitrant offenders will pick a thing or two.

Cheerio

only two things I need
sex and
kids. that's all
the rest can be sourced from outside, food, financial support, emotional support bla bla bla. just sex and kids finish

A DUMMY HOE that kisses azzzze and eats cold shyte from his rancid butt 24/7!

Someone they can CHEAT to kingdom come, while being eternally grateful to answer that almighty MRS. NOBODY!

Meanwhile, na the women pay their own "goat" prices o!

Ego stroking till she QUENCH!

Timbuktuo:


I already have that covered I'm afraid. But I did date an Oron chick once. Pretty solid in the kitchen.

That's good for you my friend, may your days be filled with delicious chows.

For those with their heads screwed on tight.. 1.Good food
2. Regular sex
3. Respect

4. And some SOB of dem like to live on their spouses' hard earned cash on top all aforementioned too morafockers I call those ..

The quality of good Naija men are getting brittle by the hr , lord help upcoming generation.

5minsmadness:


Good food =good home = good environment.
Let me translate good food further.

Preparing the food for him =shows you are thinking about him, about his welfare.
Keeping the food waiting for him when he comes and its hot= shows you are thoughtful. You have given him immediate relief from outside wahala.
A hungry man is an angry man is a wise saying. A hungry man comes home and sees no food. He translates it to mean you are not caring, you cannot take care of him, you didnt think of him. His welfare is not important to you.
And the more you repeat this scenario for him the more infuriated he becomes. He may not voice it to you cos most men dont express thier feelings well but thats what he thinks.

Men just love food. They prefer home cooked than a five star restaurant meal any day. I don't get it