This my topic is solely describing very matured men and women. By mature i am talking of young guys who have an apartment of theirs and not those still living with their parents or a relative. By ladies, i mean those who earn their own money either by working 9-5pm or doing a business of theirs and not those who rely on a man or multiple men to survive.

Now as much as men like to pamper their ladies a lot refrain because of the following reasons:

* When a man is a good cook and he wants to pamper you by preparing a very delicious meal for you by showcasing his cookings skills. He finds it most degrading and insulting when you turn it to a habit to instruct him to cook for you when you are heading down to his place. As much as men know how to cook even probably more than their partners, they appreciate women who takes charge of the kitchen always.


* From time to time responsible men want to send recharge cards to their partner without her asking. But it becomes annoying when you start turning "lack of credit" as an excuse to keep tab on him or always informing him you are short of credit. Let him send you recharge card when he deems fit and not by you always demanding.

* Don't always try to go through his drawers and closets in order to get evidence of him cheating. We know you ladies are natural born snoopers. But please snope on him without his knowledge. Don't go about searching his properties while he is there. He might not talk but it is a big insult to him and shows you don't trust him.

* Please! Please!! and Please!!! Ladies, NEVER EVER start what you know you can't continue. If you know washing of clothes or ironing isn't your thing, don't go about pretending on the first day you spend the night at his place or when you come visiting. Be truth to men. No one expect you to be a robot that loves every house chore. Don't do things and pretend it is okay with you only to start grumbling later on as you guys get stronger.

* Don't always expect your guy to go drop you off. There's absolutely nothing wrong if you insist on taking public transport or a cab back home instead of alwarwanting him to take you home. Also, don't always expect transport fare from him when you are going back home.

* Stop telling him of the latest fashion or gadgets that just came out. A good partner tries to encourage her man to invest and save. The best of women are those who make their man more financially strong than how they met them.

* Never blackmail a man to marrying you by getting pregnant for him or emotionally traumatising him. Allow a man propose because he his convinced you are the woman he wants to spend the rest of his life with. If he marries you due to your blackmail, he will eventually make that marriage a living hell for you.

No man or woman can ever be 100% Perfect. But our ability to recognize our faults and keep striving to get better is what we eventually make us and our psrtners happy and feel blessed.

Op I know if mature men that are still living in their fathers house...

Thoniameek:
Op I know if mature men that are still living in their fathers house...

True. It doesn't stop them from being matured. But majority of women will only take a man who is utmost independent as someone serious and ready to marry.

Ask4Info:


True. It doesn't stop them from being matured. But majority of women will only take a man who is utmost independent as someone serious and ready to marry.

I get where you're coming from

Well.... Their loss

Thoniameek:


I get where you're coming from

Well.... Their loss

Not all of them planned it that way. While financial insufficiency is the cause of some, others might just be scared of the responsibilities ahead. Paying bills is no small work House rent, light, water, gas, waste, gas, internet, and many more).

I always advice ladies never to look down on a single man who isn't yet financially stable but has taken the bold step to get a place of his own. That's a good sign of a man who has plans for his life.

still living with your parent doesn't mean you are independent. you could even be the one paying for most of the bills

AfricanApple:
still living with your parent doesn't mean you are independent. you could even be the one paying for most of the bills

So so true. But it restricts a man's decision making. I.e. you can't bring a lady to the house at will not to talk of her sleeping over as it will appear highly disrespectful. Also it will limit the young man and his lady from really getting to know each other.

Even though this thread is an indirect way to bash women, I TOTALLY AGREE WITH EVERY STATEMENT.

Especially the point that relates to forming hardworking lady in doing chores when in reality you hate it..... you human ! dem no send u message.


OP.... * THUMBS UP*

Maychang:
Even though this thread is an indirect way to bash women, I TOTALLY AGREE WITH EVERY STATEMENT.

Especially the point that relates to forming hardworking lady in doing chores when in reality you hate it..... you human ! dem no send u message.


OP.... * THUMBS UP*

Truth is there was absolutely no iota of intention to bash the females.

These are "little" things mature ladies do that make the READY bachelors have a rethink on proposing to a lady.

This makes a whole lot of sense...

nice topic

Oliviaarims:
This makes a whole lot of sense...

Thanks dear, i am happy the ladies aren't seeing it as a bashing thread so let no one come here and condemn them or generalize.

gabi101:
nice topic

Thanks sir.

Ask4Info:


Thanks dear, i am happy the ladies aren't seeing it as a bashing thread so let no one come here and condemn them or generalize.

It doesn't actually matter if they do. Each man to his own understanding. What matters most is that you've put across really pertinent points.

Hmmm

all correct but how the habit of begging 4 recharge card won stop I don't know! d one dt pains me d most is bae insisting I must drop her off! kai

Living with your parent, does it include BQ?

I saw her and this op the other time

Ask4Info:


So so true. But it restricts a man's decision making. I.e. yiu can't bring a lady to the house at will not to talk of her sleeping over as it will appear highly disrespectful. Also it will limit the young man and his lady from really getting to know each other.

I think that depends on the family. A cousin of mine stayed with his parents, brings his girlfriend, she spent weekends etc. they are married now and still lives there. everyone has their kitchen. no troubles.
instead of going for rents, he would rather built his own before he packs

plus you mustn't go to a guys house to know him better

AfricanApple:
I think that depends on the family. A cousin of mine stayed with his parents, brings his girlfriend, she spent weekends etc. they are married now and still lives there. everyone has their kitchen. no troubles.
instead of going for rents, he would rather built his own before he packs

plus you mustn't go to a guys house to know him better

You are so onpoint. However, as a newly wedded coiple, staying a little away from family living in the same house) is better. There won't be interference from any angle whatsoever.

Going to a guy's house will make you observe somethings faster than normal. I.e. His hygiene, spending traits, social life, things that entertains him, i.e. things he reads or watches, etc. These are things he can't hide for too long even if he initial hid or curtailed them initially.

Good job OP

jephito:
Good job OP

Thanks Sir.

Nice one there! No controversies....

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Thoniameek:
Op I know if mature men that are still living in their fathers house...

I 'Liked' & 'Shared'....and i'm as well 'Quoting' you.Is there anything more i can do-apart from reporting you?. #Nice Comment#

Indirect bashing

jezuzboi:
Nice one there! No controversies....

True no controversies. We just hope they lear and correct their wsys.

arosunshine:
OP you are so so on point.

Oya waiter one glass of henessey with ice for OP

Thanks Boss!