Weddings are lots of fun but also a lot of work too – and they can be expensive, especially for those in the bridal party. So, before you commit yourself to a potentially time-consuming and expensive experience, it is wise to have a conversation with the bride about her expectations before you accept to be in her bridal party.
ou have been asked to be a bridesmaid and your mission, should you choose to accept it, will be one filled with joy, celebration and plenty of (hopefully happy) tears! However, while being a bridesmaid is undoubtedly a special honour, there are a few questions you really should ask before saying ‘yes!’

1. Will I have to pay for my dress?
Costs can become an issue if the bride selects an outfit which is very expensive – or something the bridesmaid won’t ever wear again, as this can result in some uncomfortable conversations. If you will be expected to pay for any bridesmaid-related gear – and you won’t be able to afford it – or don’t want to spend the money, politely decline. It can be awkward but it’s better than finding yourself lumped with a huge bill you can’t afford.

2. How much time am I expected to commit?

That depends on whether you’re a bridesmaid or a Maid of Honour – and what the bride needs done.
If your bride is having your dresses made then you may be required to attend multiple fittings, some of which may require travel. Some brides may request weekly or monthly gatherings with their bridesmaids, and this can be a dilemma for bridesmaids who live far away. Your bride may also have many events leading up to the wedding such as an engagement party, bridal shower, or any bridal party activities, day trips or pre-wedding getaways.
If you feel that you won’t have much spare time to commit then you may have to be honest with the bride and tell her, rather than accepting the role of bridesmaid only to then have to decline attending some of her events or activities. To save any future heartache or misunderstandings it may be best to ask the bride what her expectations are before you commit to being her bridesmaid.

3. Who else is in the bridal party?
This question may not apply to everyone, especially if you are related to the bride as you will know who her nearest and dearest are and, probably, like them. However, this may be worth asking if you know the bride is friends or acquaintances with certain people you don’t feel comfortable around or you don’t get along with.
Other fantastically awkward situations could include one of the groomsmen being an ex you don’t get along with or your current partner’s ex. Whatever the case, if you feel this applies to you it’s definitely worth asking the question before you find yourself spending all of the wedding events avoiding certain people.

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