THE ISSUE OF RAPE, WITHIN THE CONFINES OF MARRIAGE (how wives are being raped by husbands)

Rape occurs when sexual intercourse or any other sexual activity is forced upon an individual without his/her consent. In marriage however, it is a form of domestic violence and sexual abuse, wherein sex is forced on one spouse by the other. As strange as it sounds, rape also occurs in marriage. Any sexual activity not consented by both parties, is rape. The prominent kind of rape in marriage however is wife rape.


Rape generally is perceived not to be present in marriage, being that a woman is supposed to consensually engage in sex with her husband, making rape unnecessary. This is why despite the fact that rape in marriage has become quite rampant, it is given little or no attention from Human right activists', Criminal Justice System and even the society at large. Infact, wife rape remains one of the prevalent, yet under-reported crimes in Nigeria.


Two of the best studies so far which have investigated the general existence of wife rape in representative samples of women ( Finkelhor & Yllo, 1985; Russell, 1990) have found that between 10-14% of women who have ever been married have been raped at least once by their partner.


For the purpose of this article, we shall examine some of the intriguing issues and questions surrounding wife rape which include : Reasons men rape their wives, Why Victims refuse to report such incidents, The characteristics of wife rapists, The effects of wife rape on the victim( physically and psychologically) & on the home; and finally, What to do in case you experience such.


WHY DO MEN RAPE THEIR WIVES?

This is one of the nagging questions concerning wife rape which has been given several conflicting answers. However some of the prominent reasons given for wife rape include: To see more, visit:
HOW WIFE’S ARE BEING RAPED BY HUSBANDS. http://www.familyflex.net/2016/09/how-wifes-are-being-raped-by-husbands.html

There is no such thing as rape in a marriage. It is the marital obligation of the wife to always give it to her husband.

How does a husband rape his wife, again?

I want to believe that should the wife refuse sex, then she must understand that husband will go somewhere else to look, which is an offense to the wife. Meaning that the wife must be able to cater for her husband's needs. Period

Husbands don't make it easy for their wives to be up for game at all times. My friend (a marriage counsellor) normally says "routine kills everything" meaning waiting for sundown to make love to your wife can be boring as time goes on. A man is not suppose to be loving when the the sun falls, change that routine a little. Kiss, pass compliments, joke around, watch tv, play cards etc. With these and many, your wife melts easily. By the time you go to bed, everything falls into place.

...my borrowed 2cents

I still need someone to clarify rape within married couples

Rape in marriage is what cheating women in amerika use to send their husbands to jail so they could move on with a fresh fling ,nonsense,

He wan go play outside, wahala.
He wan sex u inside house, wahala.

Really, what do you women want?