afanide:
@op, do you engage in pre-intimacy before sex? Or you just jump on her and start the game?

Women like pre-intimacy so much and when this is lacking, issues like these come up.

What are her excuses? From there we would know how to channel our comments....

We can't just jump into conclusion at this point......

Ginaz:
Men and sex sha, o.p you need to understand that women don't usually have the urge like men always do 24/7.

When a woman is not on her heat period or isn't just in the mood, nothing can entice her. Maybe she's having low libido, your marriage is still young to worry over sex issues.

As for the cooking stuff, she has to change. I hope I won't have that habit cos I'm almost like her in the cooking aspects. I sabi do late tinx

adviseseeker:
If three times a week is too much they you should in all honesty not get married.

The real annoying thing is the way the NO is said. And as for the food, what's not acceptable is not.

Ginaz:


Maybe she has some internal issues with you, have you tried talking with her?

yekparikpa:
You'll see our young boys bragging "when i get married, my wife dare not do dis blah blah blah..i'll beat her thoroughly et al" My brother getting married is not easy, staying married is even tougher. As a married man myself I'll advice you try as much as you can to tolerate certain things. God help you!

shortgun:
Maybe you are too soft with her.
it's time you take control of your house, women are like babies sometimes you need a little force to make them do the right thing.

You don't have to beg for what is rightly yours... stop been a gentleman.
Threaten her with infidelity...tell her you can easily get any woman of your choice.

thorpido:
You say you have a 5mth old baby right?Your wife is still nursing so hormones are still working in her that affects sexual urges.Moreover,women don't always want sex.FACT
There's nothing wrong with wanting sex 3 times a week but only few women want it that much.You're the one who might have to make adjustments here.The fact that you married a woman as a man does not mean she has to be a light switch that puts on a bulb anytime it is pressed.

You say you're not working.You having too much time makes you think of sex all the time.Perhaps you need to channel some energy into doing other things.I'll suggest a gym.

If your wife doesn't prepare breakfast early enough,perhaps you should do it yourself.In marriage you should help each other and also lighten each other's burden.

How romantic are you
Are you only romantic when you want to have sex or you don't know how to put her in the mood even before you ask for it

Forget about her having peeps around to take care of the baby, do you help her with the baby at all

Just TALK and act like a MAN. Help her in the kitchen too. Even gisting with her in the kitchen is another way of helping. I did not say you should wash plates(not bad if you do too because you are helpmates).

cococandy:
OP first of all she does own her body. So yes you should see it that way. Not that I encourage rudeness if any.

And a 5month old baby? Dude make your own damn breakfast! Do you wake up the feed and nurse the child at night? Do you know how stressful it is to nurse a baby through the night only for the moment you want to rest, for someone else to start demanding attention to their own needs too.
I can't begin tell you how insensitive it is for you to even complain that your breakfast is late. Yea she doesn't work. Why don't you switch places with her for a week and see how easy her job is.

At 5 months postnatum, you should be bringing her breakfast in bed. Or at least not bother her to make it for you except she wants to.

For the sex thing, I still think you're the problem. If you consider 3 times a week for a woman who just had a baby as too little (when regular couples sometimes don't even get it that much,) then no wonder she's reacting the way she is. How many times did you want it before? 3 times a day? Maybe you should go back to your job so you have time for other things in your life than bugging your postnatal wife for daily sex.

I know I sound harsh but sorry I can't get over how insensitive you sound.

Read thorpido's post more. It's a kinder version of mine. Bye:

cococandy:
Very wise

adviseseeker:
I don't get 3 times a week not that I am complaining three times a week is too much.

So because you nurse a baby overnight you wake up 10am? How about going to bed on time too? I work most times 16 hours per day shall I give that as an excuse for not feeding the family too?

shortgun:

I know many of you won't like it but that's the truth.
since the bird has learned to fly without perching the hunter should also learn to shoot without missing.

Men like the OP is reason why women like that exists.
I blame him in all of this cos he has done all the don'ts in marriage and he is paying d consequences.
When a woman knows that there is nothing about you she doesn't know you are done for.

Nothing interests her about you anymore, there are no tasks for her, you are not giving her any challenges, there are no surprises, she knows how much you are worth, she knows where u r every minute of d day, she know how you think ...... you become boring to you

Women naturally are made to nurture.....when you become a perfect man....she will lose interest.

debbydee:
Hmmm

Op my little advice for you is that you take it easy with her. Like you said she put to bed not too long ago and that she is nursing a baby. Firstly nursing a baby is not an easy task either boy or girl. As a woman ages the urge for sex reduces not to talk of one who has given birth. For now give her all the support she needs and assist her in caring for the baby when its time for sex prepare her. Make it more romantic and fun filled not just monotonous. You can also go on a get away leave your baby behind and enjoy your self.

As regards breakfast i will suggest you discuss this with her or better still take it upon yourself.