sweetcocoa:
Again, you prove how messed up your mind, is, by assuming a son can be used as replacement for a husband, because a woman hugged her son.

gabicon:
I think the reason for mother in-law n wife debacle is that men could be such babies and they sometimes make foolish decisions, a mother is always there to curtail these excesses but she doesn't trust that a young wife will do same. A mother is the centre of her son's world and she is afraid of being thrown out but they loose the insight that the world is big enough for two. Life has taught me that the more you let go the more control you can have.

Benita27:
They don't take it to the extreme like is done here, and like i said earlier "they are more liberal".

Pidggin:


My mind is not messed up, the woman in question clung to her son like one should cling to a husband. Is it that you are not aware of some women substituting their husbands for sons? Why will a MIL who has her own husband to take care of move into her sons house leaving husband alone. Suit yourself.

Pidggin:


Lol, yes of course.

sweetcocoa:
My sister, I don't know your definition of "good wife" but if it involves being nice to please only your husband, neglecting his folks, then that's not a good wife o, unless your MIL kicked against your marriage for a particular reason, then she can't just maltreat you for no reason.

SC31:
she can,some people are just sadist..happened to my cousin till her husband died

Benita27:
I noticed 80% of our Nigerian mother in-laws threat their daughter in-laws badly unlike their foreign counterparts, and this trend is so common,once a man says he wants to take you to see his parents instead of excitement a certain fear creeps in.
personally i'm not scared of meeting the man's father because i assume father's trust their sons to have made the right choices, but for the mothers is not usually the same, was able to ask someone if she felt same and she confessed feeling worse.
Why are our Nigerian mother in-laws so mean?.
Need your contributions, and Ladies how do you feel when getting to meet them?.

Cc: Aderola15.
Talk2Bella.
IamNawty.
Laveda.

Gidi3020:
;DThe guy mama would be feeling jealous because, the new girl would now make mama to realise that her breast don turn slippers, without considering the fact that the guy s*cked mamas own years before.

sweetcocoa:
Comments like this leave me confused.

Why would a mother think someone else stole her baby's heart? Is she sleeping with him?

Menzy86:
Wit d quality of DIL's these days contaminated by a warped sense of gender equality, why won't MIL's b in constant battle wit them? E.g MOST 9ja babes these days think it is 'modern' or 'acceptable' not to know how to cook. Or to rule out d possibility of preparing a particular dish even if its ur husband's favourite and expect it to be ok by everyone.

cococandy:


All these comments make me sick. Like there's some kind of incestous connection between a woman and her son.

Eww

Gidi3020:


Take some chill pills, smells like your mother in-law is drastically dealing with your emotions, correct what you've done wrong before it gets rotten.

sweetcocoa:
Why can't he do dishes, is he not a human being who eats with dishes? Even if he doesn't use dishes sef, can't he be of help in the house?

sweetcocoa:
Why are you just looking at her? Isn't it possible what she wants your wife to do, will be healthy for your marriage? Don't people share tips anymore?

elfmann:

As u help in paying rent.

cococandy:

I'm honestly confused too.

Like the women have sexual relationships with their sons instead of a maternal one.

It's only emotionally imbalanced women that will have these problems. Because it's a clear case of not understanding that the role of his wife and that of yours as mother are different.

You will have problems with all the women he comes in contact with because they have come to steal your baby's.

Instead of enjoying your older adulthood with your husband on one remote island reminiscing your youth.

NevetsIbot:
Why won't I look at her ke?... You want me to talk back?.... You need to hear all she's saying... Mehn, no woman wuld marry me if mom lists half of it for her....... Her own don pass tips

sweetcocoa:
So what if I don't pay rent? I need to pay you to help?

sweetcocoa:
Perhaps you don't mind telling us some of those things, so we'll judge for ourselves that your mum is brewing trouble, please?

cococandy:

I'm honestly confused too.

Like the women have sexual relationships with their sons instead of a maternal one.

It's only emotionally imbalanced women that will have these problems. Because it's a clear case of not understanding that the role of his wife and that of yours as mother are different.

You will have problems with all the women he comes in contact with because they have come to steal your baby's.

Instead of enjoying your older adulthood with your husband on one remote island reminiscing your youth.

NevetsIbot:
nah.. Can't tell ya... It isn't wise.. I feel my wife is on this forum.. She could be watching

cococandy:


See one of them

elfmann:

That means..do ur role...u can not talk more or demand more when u are always receiving.
Folo foreign wives the whole distance...not u want a modern man but can't pitch in in anything.

elfmann:

You will still do the same, that's why it isn't going away.... Women hate women!

sweetcocoa:
I beg to differ.

It is more about being emotionally healthy than visiting one another, than what you term individualistic society, the US is a very individualistic society, yet this issue plays there and so is New Zealand, Australia and a bunch of other countries but MILs and DILs disagree there.

sweetcocoa:
Then I guess you can understand why it's fair, if I can't take your word for it, yea? Plus don't you think just by our exchange, you are already in trouble if your wife is on this forum?

Haha, very funny.

AreaFada2:


Have you had one before?

What you can say is that people are generally more independent and family units are not quite as close-knit. If a guy finished uni at age 21 and moves away to work 500km metres away and marries at the age of 35, he would have been independent from age 18 if he was on campus or from 21 if at home during uni. So parents might generally be less influential. But the idea of being more liberal becomes a fallacy when you have actually being in it. I just gave you an example.

I once dated another girl who was very nice. We went on holidays together and all that. Her mum knew my name and knew her daughter holidayed with me sometimes. But her daughter never told her I was a black man. Her daughter said no point telling as she hated the idea of any black person coming into her family.

Me too nor care. I had no plans to marry her. Later on when she sometimes talked about marriage, I had my ready excuse : her mum.
Marriage is hard enough when both families are in support let alone one side is against it ab initio.

Sure many blacks marry white ladies but all is not as sweet as it looks. I have been to several weddings between black friends and white ladies where the white family flatly boycotted the wedding.

Who nor go nor know.

Pidggin:


Lol she has a husband but see how she is leaning on her son as if he is her life support, when the boy gets married she will now be in competition with her daughter - in-law, then the guy wouldn't be able to chose. Most MILs have bad marriages, no love from a man, or maybe she's a widow or single mother who didn't remarry.

Women who lack intimacy in their lives end up being bad mother - in-laws who can never be pleased

Huh?