eyinjuege:


Just a genuine question, do you think your mother poisoned your mind against your dad? Either subtly or even overtly?

I've always believed children always know the parent that shows them love, and I don't believe they can be poisoned against their fathers by their mothers as people generally believe. They see what's going on around them.

poisoned u say? Lol he wasn't even available to be poised against.

ItsQuinn:
hahahaha.....I understand ....dont worry with time your wounds will heal....you are a soldier after all

a naval to be precise

Nice ....I'm so happy for you...wish you all the best, i pray for more and more blessings to come your way

dirtyslap:
a naval to be precise

ItsQuinn:
Nice ....I'm so happy for you...wish you all the best, i pray for more and more blessings to come your way

thanks milady.

general111:
thanks man.u made a lot of sense.

Thanks man. All sense belongs to God and he gives to all. Na to use am be the main thing.

dirtyslap:
he can't win me back...he lost me long ago...he is d reason I become a military man...if he come to me, I swear down, I'm gunning him down.

dirtyslap even though it hurts but think twice, thrice before your decision. So many things may have influenced his decision (negatively). Please note that I am not in any way supporting your dad. Never. A man should never run away from his responsibilities. I will tell a story and invite you to the thread. One never knows the power of forgiveness until you need it my brother. Show him how much better you are compared to him.

@ ItsQuinn, you are not helping matters at all. Na wa for you ooo. I'm not saying you are a bad person, not at all. But you can help dirtyslap to heal his wounds. For crying out loud the man is wounded and you are adding insult to the injury. No be like that nah.

Actually I'm helping him heal his wounds my way

dfrost:


dirtyslap even though it hurts but think twice, thrice before your decision. So many things may have influenced his decision (negatively). Please note that I am not in any way supporting your dad. Never. A man should never run away from his responsibilities. I will tell a story and invite you to the thread. One never knows the power of forgiveness until you need it my brother. Show him how much better you are compared to him.

@ ItsQuinn, you are not helping matters at all. Na wa for you ooo. I'm not saying you are a bad person, not at all. But you can help dirtyslap to heal his wounds. For crying out loud the man is wounded and you are adding insult to the injury. No be like that nah.

ItsQuinn:
Actually I'm helping him heal his wounds my way

Haba sis. Not good enough your way nah. I'm not saying your way is bad but loving method is better off. We can persuade him to see his dad.

But you don't know what he's gone through and you simply can't understand

dfrost:


Haba sis. Not good enough your way nah. I'm not saying your way is bad but loving method is better off. We can persuade him to see his dad.

ItsQuinn:
But you don't know what he's gone through and you simply can't understand

That's like saying that a doctor that hasn't experienced appendicitis pain should not console or operate on the patient. Some of us don't tell our history on social media. You don't know my story. Let's leave for a convenient time.

Always remember: we don't know the power of forgiveness until we need it. Ciao.

You will be a father one day... how will you feel when your son came up with a strong word as hate toward you.... maybe if you say you do not feel comfortable with him being around, that will be understandable.... are you gonna tell we that as an African, u spot a boy of SS2, insulting your father, or harassing him, u will just pass and ignore the whole thing.... Bro HATE is a strong word and it is not something that u use carelessly...

Your mum has forgiven your dad.... I suggest you do the same....he might have regretted his action and to err is human and I believe you know what to forgive was.....

eyinjuege:
I guess it's a natural feeling. No one likes to see the people they love being hurt by others.
It should pass with time, hopefully..
Or you can talk to your dad and tell him you were disappointed in him when he raised his hands to beat your mum, though she's his wife. No need to shout or get agitated when talking to him. Just a statement said calmly. Don't bother to talk back at him, as you've already said your piece.

hmmmm.nice..thanks sir.

Richy4:
You will be a father one day... how will you feel when your son came up with a strong word as hate toward you.... maybe if you say you do not feel comfortable with him being around, that will be understandable.... are you gonna tell we that as an African, u spot a boy of SS2, insulting your father, or harassing him, u will just pass and ignore the whole thing.... Bro HATE is a strong word and it is not something that u use carelessly...

Your mum has forgiven your dad.... I suggest you do the same....he might have regretted his action and to err is human and I believe you know what to forgive was.....

I don't think you understand the full weight what I wrote up there.its not as if I hate him,I just don't feel free around him anymore.

[quote author=general111 post=49980146]I don't think you understand the full weight what I wrote up there.its not as if I hate him,I just don't feel free around him anymore.[/quote

I read it wonderfully well bro... maybe you should revisit your caption.

[quote author=Richy4 post=49980264][/quote]k.thanks anyway.

This world is funny, the same woman who gets punched in the face for over 25 years of marriage will be acting like she has been living in heaven on earth outwardly. If she shared her problem when these beatings started she may likely have found a solution to it.

OP, your dad may have problems with anger. It is wrong of him to beat your mother for any reason. Since you are an adult, I suggest you talk to him about the way you feel, and seek help for him. Learn to forgive but help your mum by getting help for your father, he might kill her one day if you don't

general111:
k.thanks anyway.

Sorry bro if I did not say what you wanted to hear... U are a man and you should know that there are different ways men react when they were heated up.....

Some walk away, some stay and have a shouting match, some beat up who ever it was that was upsetting them and regret it later....

Unfortunately your dad was among the poor third option.... I do not like that option.. but that does not make him a monster...He apologized to your mum... all u maybe need to tell him ie if you want will be that you will soon marry one day and what you were observing with their marriage will be what u might do in future....But that you were disappointed with what went down the other day.... Maybe u should let him know how that is making you feel..... Though this advise is kind of oyiboish.... but try and let it slide bro and be happy... Do not hate him.... he might love you too much in his heart that when he hear u talk about the hatred you got for him, it might break him...

Lol

Pidggin:
This world is funny, the same woman who gets punched in the face for over 25 years of marriage will be acting like she has been living in heaven on earth outwardly. If she shared her problem when these beatings started she may likely have found a solution to it.

OP, your dad may have problems with anger. It is wrong of him to beat your mother for any reason. Since you are an adult, I suggest you talk to him about the way you feel, and seek help for him. Learn to forgive but help your mum by getting help for your father, he might kill her one day if you don't

thanks a lot dear.but I have tried talking to him severally,he just doesn't listen to anybody..I have chooses to ignore him then.

Richy4:




Sorry bro if I did not say what you wanted to hear... U are a man and you should know that there are different ways men react when they were heated up.....

Some walk away, some stay and have a shouting match, some beat up who ever it was that was upsetting them and regret it later....

Unfortunately your dad was among the poor third option.... I do not like that option.. but that does not make him a monster...He apologized to your mum... all u maybe need to tell him ie if you want will be that you will soon marry one day and what you were observing with their marriage will be what u might do in future....But that you were disappointed with what went down the other day.... Maybe u should let him know how that is making you feel..... Though this advise is kind of oyiboish.... but try and let it slide bro and be happy... Do not hate him.... he might love you too much in his heart that when he hear u talk about the hatred you got for him, it might break him...

I can't help but say that you have spoken well sir.thanks a lot.