napa:
We've been married for five years and he has cheated all through these years. He keeps late nights without any tangible reason. He travels in and out of Nigeria for the purpose of meeting different women, he chats dirty with different women. He calls random women at home e.t.c. He is also very quick to apologise and promise to turn a new leaf anytime I confront him with evidences.
The issue here is I'm getting really fed up of his kind of life style, I feel he is taking me for granted and just playing on my emotions because he knows there is nothing I can do after his apologies. He too relaxed with me and feels he can do anything and get away with it. I work and he does too but he knows I live a triangular kind of life. From work back home then to church, I'm more of a homely person. I'm beginning to think it's my fault for him not getting on his toes. I don't intend reporting him to any of his family members because he won't be chastised.

I need candid and matured advice please.

Toks2008:


It's better one remains single because marriage is more than a feeling but a vivid decision to stay in there except for life threatening reasons such as physical assault.

By the way I just checked your dp..are you the one there?

Lexusgs:

Spice spicy known by all...........

ItsQuinn:
Cheating is natural and normal, please learn to accept that fact and ignore his actions, when he realize that you don't give a fvck about what he does, or he sees that what he does doesn't hurt you anymore, he will be forced to change. Tell him to go for stds tests, when you guys want to make love, use condoms for your own protection until you know he's clean

5minsmadness:


Ah! The "bitter people" have not yet woken up. They will soon come with rude, self righteous and obnoxious comments that will make you hate your husband so much and then finally give you advice on how to divorce him "before you die of AIDS". People that will tell you they wont take such nonsense from thier man meanwhile they are suffering worse. I hope you can sift the good advice from the bad and dont let bitterness cloud your heart.

My advice.

He is a serial cheat. He is addicted to sex. I still thinknit would be better you involve an elderly person that knows the both of you. Someone he respects. Let that person advice and chastise him. Secondly help him stop this bad habit. Begin by telling him you are afraid he will catch sexually transmitted diseases outside. Insist on using a condom until he cleans up his act. Let him go for checkups at the hospital.

What way does he meet these girls? Facebook? Whatsapp? Tell him to stop communications with them. He should delete their numbers in your prescence. If he wont listen to you, let the elderly person demand that he does this. Avoiding contact with the girls will reduce his chances of having sex with them.

Insist he comes home early. What kind of work does he do? Start calling him from 8pm that there is an errand you want him to run. Disturb his phone. Bring up important issues he has to address in thr house. There is no fuel, milk for the kids has finished, you need recharge card urgently to call your mom/his mom/relative in the UK, something that will make him not to be at peace wherever he is until he gets home. These are little tricks other lades use.

Also, pray for him. Pray for your marriage. I knw right now its not looking easy and you are hurting and emotionally tired and frustrated but there's light at the end of the tunnel. With God all things are possible. You can pray for him and get others to join you in prayer. You dont need to tell them what it is. You can say it is a special request.

Do you have kids? What is your sex life like?

Will add more later. Rushing to work.


All the best.

veave:
Do not divorce your husband. Does he beat you? If no. Get condoms, then start loving yourself More. Movies, beach, fellowship, weddings, girls night out, children's dinner date. Etc

Lexusgs:

You what they say about serving spice to someone that doesn't like misspice? The person never forgets the misspicy experience........

ItsQuinn:
Cheating is natural and normal, please learn to accept that fact and ignore his actions, when he realize that you don't give a fvck about what he does, or he sees that what he does doesn't hurt you anymore, he will be forced to change. Tell him to go for stds tests, when you guys want to make love, use condoms for your own protection until you know he's clean

Lexusgs:


Oya I have left you o, b4 I discover say this misspicy, no be the big hot pepper, but those tiny small hot pepper.........

LOL


can you chew any of the pepper

napa:
@5minsmadness, there are no kids yet, sex life is ok and both of us know I'm good looking because he knows i still get constant compliments for my good looks. I sincerely don't know what the issue is. I just feel he wants to explore and satisfy some fantasies but I'm getting emotionally hurt. I pity myself most times. It's only my mom that knows what is happening and she's been praying with me. I'm a woman of few words, i hardly discuss my affairs with people.
@veave, no he doesn't beat me. There's no reason why he would do that. Our marriage is really somehow (i don't know if that's how other marriages are). I rarely ask him for money because i work in a well paid organisation, i don't disturb him for nothing. All i want is care and love, nothing more.

I'm from an average family of 3 children , he doesn't have any pressure from any members of my family and i definitely know it's not about the children that have not come, we've been on it from the first year of our marriage. This is really getting at me. I just felt like pouring out my mind.

doveda:
Creating may be normal and Naruto but when you keep doing it and you keep getting caught, it has become something else. He will not be forced to change. He doesn't give a damn

napa:
We've been married for five years and he has cheated all through these years. He keeps late nights without any tangible reason. He travels in and out of Nigeria for the purpose of meeting different women, he chats dirty with different women. He calls random women at home e.t.c. He is also very quick to apologise and promise to turn a new leaf anytime I confront him with evidences.
The issue here is I'm getting really fed up of his kind of life style, I feel he is taking me for granted and just playing on my emotions because he knows there is nothing I can do after his apologies. He too relaxed with me and feels he can do anything and get away with it. I work and he does too but he knows I live a triangular kind of life. From work back home then to church, I'm more of a homely person. I'm beginning to think it's my fault for him not getting on his toes. I don't intend reporting him to any of his family members because he won't be chastised.

I need candid and matured advice please.

jeff1607:



Wild or not, he chose you for areason, tap into it. if u like be hulk hogan, whatever he chooses to do, he will still do.

All I can say is be STRONG, take it that this is one of the hurdles in marriage and after this, it will make your bond stronger. Remind him not to sow his wild oats anyhow oooooo , you need it more than they do.

Amhappy:
Napa It's time to keep that husband of yours on his toes. I don't like that part you said you don't collect money from him shoo. Even if they pay you 3m as salary sef,you need to make demands abeg. How many houses do you have in Abuja? Don't tell me that contentment story abeg. Why Timpre get 48. It's because your man has a lot of free money that's why he travel outside the country just to shag. [b][/b]Milk him and invest it.

montezz:

Ahh! Smh. Ako Igbona n da yin laamu ma.

Iamfrank:
lol @op..... ur husband is just an example of me I swear, lemme tel u how my gf reacted cz am alwaz quick to apologize.....unfortunately ur husband is a player just like me.... (na only we know our weak point) try dis n it will work.....

one day my gf came to c me, so I was in d bathroom n I left my phone inside, immediately I came out my gf was holding my phone n was crying seriously, I already know y sh was crying, (lemme tel u sumtin, d tears of any good woman weakens ha man, no matter what) so I quickly wanna apologize saying it is dose women forcing demselves on me (Dats d lies we tel wen we r caught) sh just told me calmly to sit down n sh said sum words dat weakened me all day like "baby I love you so much, u r my king, u r my everything, I will worship d ground u walk on, sh went on n on without stopping n with d tears from ha eyes I almost cried. .... Dats how I stop..... Bt I wanna tel u sumtin, u r not giving ur husband d kind of s*x position he wants I am very sure abt dat, he mit not tell you but it a simple fact, Dats men for u, bcz he knows if he does u wudnt like it considering d type of woman u r (religious n decent)..... if you try dat step n it didn't work just pm me I will tell u of anoda easy step.....

LyfeJennings:


Ako igbona n da daddy e laamu
O ti ya were
Olohun
O ko tii mo ni

montezz:

Cry me a river. Eni o ni'ru eni,KO le mo iyi eni. Product of a gutter drunkard.

LyfeJennings:


E pain am
E pepper am
O Ka lara e
Ooobi

montezz:

Lol....e sha ma ko s'enu moto. E wo iwaju

LyfeJennings:


Lmao
Babe
Who U be sef
Make I toast

Iamfrank:
lol @op..... ur husband is just an example of me I swear, lemme tel u how my gf reacted cz am alwaz quick to apologize.....unfortunately ur husband is a player just like me.... (na only we know our weak point) try dis n it will work.....

one day my gf came to c me, so I was in d bathroom n I left my phone inside, immediately I came out my gf was holding my phone n was crying seriously, I already know y sh was crying, (lemme tel u sumtin, d tears of any good woman weakens ha man, no matter what) so I quickly wanna apologize saying it is dose women forcing demselves on me (Dats d lies we tel wen we r caught) sh just told me calmly to sit down n sh said sum words dat weakened me all day like "baby I love you so much, u r my king, u r my everything, I will worship d ground u walk on, sh went on n on without stopping n with d tears from ha eyes I almost cried. .... Dats how I stop..... Bt I wanna tel u sumtin, u r not giving ur husband d kind of s*x position he wants I am very sure abt dat, he mit not tell you but it a simple fact, Dats men for u, bcz he knows if he does u wudnt like it considering d type of woman u r (religious n decent)..... if you try dat step n it didn't work just pm me I will tell u of anoda easy step.....

byvan03:
Solutions will pop into your head when you are really fed up, I don't think you are yet.

EfemenaXY:


Why're you even commenting on this thread?