When you start a new relationship, you can't do without your bf or GF. You can't stop thinking about the other person, and it feels amazing to know that he or she feels the same way.

Then something goes wrong

There are different reasons why people break up. Wants and needs change. You might get to know that your dream, passion, interest and feelings differs from that of the other person.

NOTE: Change is constant... Nothing remains forever.

Perhaps, you guys don't agree on same topics.. Your idea may be different from hishis. You may realise you don't love him/her enough...
You may have developed feelings for someone else, or feel you're not ready for a serious relationship. So, you're considering break up.

Be careful how you break up with your bf/GF... Because break up hurts (those of us who have been through one knows how painful it can be)

Before you break up, here are some things you must do. Things you should put into consideration.


1) Think about why you want to break up
Confusion is not allowed. Think things through first. Be sure of what you want and why you want it.
Although, your bf/GF might be hurt by your decision, it's okay to do what's best for you.

2)Confide in someone you trust

Try to talk through your feelings, seek advice from an experienced and mature person.

3) Put into consideration the other person's reaction. Choose your wordd wisely

Be careful with your words. Don't rush words or be in a haste to talk things through.

Note: he/she might be sad, surprised, hurt or relieved. Be ready to deal with any kind of reaction.

4) Do not be brutal with words, actions

Be honest.. Tell the other person why you need to move on with your life. Like what attracted you at first, and the reason behind your sudden change of mind


5) Do not break up over the phone...
You've seen much of each other.. So why should you act like a stranger all of a sudden.
Although, breaking up through calls and text may seem easy, but it's immaturity at its peak and it shouldn't be an option.


6) Do not say aweful things about him/her: Speak about him/her with respect. Your ex could become a friend, business partner or you might even rekindle a romance someday.

7) find a good time and place to talk..
Break ups are more than just planning what to say. You should also consider how you will say it, and also Listen to what the other person has to say.

And lastly.....


Do not alienate yourself from him/her. Bad today, may be good tomorrow.

..... Be firm , but soft


Watch what You say

Nonsense i think say people say na brain she take win, wetin come be this nonsense

judeefcc:
Nonsense i think say people say na brain she take win, wetin come be this nonsense

Jude stop this

I just get cracked up when I see O.P's mentioning moderators on their threads

What do you derive when ur thread makes FP

Okay let's take "Joy" for instance....you get happy...then what next after that?



#WakeUp

There is no way it won't hurt.

Uhmm

Nice one lanicky..

Talking of breaking up without the other person getting hurt, that's almost impossible, I mean you both shared something, affection and all, the thought losing him/her to another person...c'mon

Thing is, you only get over it after lil time, but be sure not to breakup with fights.

lanicky where have you been!

Breaking up shouldn't be an option...



It has to be done right, even if it takes you years to find that special person!

RoyalBlak007:
I just get cracked up when I see O.P's mentioning moderators on their threads

What do you derive when ur thread makes FP

Okay let's take "Joy" for instance....you get happy...then what next after that?



#WakeUp

very authentic question

dat sad cos most u girls say one tin and do anode
most girl dey leave without warning make u face pain and tears. u are a liar

Laveda:

Jude stop this

judeefcc:

I'm serious!

Laveda:

I'm serious!

sorry I don't know you ooooo

Wao


This is interesting

Nice one lanicky




Ipain come and see ooo

Op thanks for the enlightenment, i was even thinking on how am going to breakup with my current bae.

With these your tips, i'm good to go

judeefcc:
sorry I don't know you ooooo

Okay

Laveda:

Okay

yes

Most people can't understand breaking up and still being friends with someone you were once sexually involved with, it takes a great deal of maturity.

It's one of the hardest things to pull off in a relationship.

RoyalBlak007:


no harm intended...but
i see no reason why..i guess its cos it seems fallible to me...I might be wrong though

according to Bbmpin na poominism

llaveda...u n llanicky na amadioha go judge una
after tricking me to vote for her, she won..not even thank u from me

nsogbu adighi...anyi ga aru na mgbago

Boss yorubademon I see you viewing , wetin you think na

seen

dharay99:

break up without hurting one another? then
u both wernt truly in love in the first place...

no mind am

judeefcc:
Boss yorubademon I see you viewing , wetin you think na

it's rubbish, only kids use this method to end relationships. I am a yorubademon and I declare the thread invalid

Laveda:
Uhmm

Nice one lanicky..

Talking of breaking up without the other person getting hurt, that's almost impossible, I mean you both shared something, affection and all, the thought losing him/her to another person...c'mon

Thing is, you only get over it after lil. some time, but be sure not to break-up with fights.

Fixed

ishiamu:


Fixed