[b]1. Stop putting in effort. This is what usually happens when you
get too comfortable with someone – you
simply stop trying. You stop
complimenting them and treating them
like they’re someone special. You stop
putting time and thought into birthdays, anniversaries, and romantic dates. You
stop trying to impress them or make
them feel good or show that you love
them. Relationships take work, so even if
just one person stops trying it will
inevitably crash and burn.
2. Take shots at each other. Have you ever watched House Hunters, or
Love It or List It, or any other HGTV show
that combines real estate and married
couples? Because a lot of the time those
couples are brutal to each other, but if
you don’t really pay attention you’ll miss it. They take the worst digs at one
another but since they’re laughing,
observers take it as a harmless joke. They
might tease how one settled for the
other, or how they should’ve married
rich, or one’s incapability to finish anything. They’re always belittling each
other or insulting each other in a form of
a joke. Taking shots at each other is a
horrible thing to do in any form of a
relationship. But you should never
humiliate your significant other, whether it’s only the two of you or in front of
people, just to put them down.
3. Lose your sense of self. In so many relationships, people lose
who they are. They pick up their
significant other’s tastes, hobbies,
interests, style, everything. It’s great to
be able to share what you love with
someone you love, but it’s another thing to forget who you are as an individual. If
you feel completely at a loss without the
other, you’re in trouble. No matter how in
love you may be with a person, you
should still always have yourself and
cherish your independence.
4. Cheat. Um, no explanation. This should be pretty
obvious.
5. Forget about your friends. We’ve all been there. You meet someone
new and you enter the puppy love stage
where you always want to see them,
talk to them, or be talking about them.
You forget about all of your other
priorities and responsibilities because you’re so caught up with this one person.
But you should never, ever forget about
your friends. Your friends were there
first. They stood by your side longer than
this person, and there’s a good chance
they’ll still be by your side long after they are gone. Always make time for the
other important people in your life. Don’t
be that person who breaks up with their
boyfriend and then is suddenly always
around. There should be a balance.
6. Compare them. Even if you’ve been in relationships
before, been in love before, bleeped tons
of people before, you should never
compare the person right in front of you
with anyone else. Don’t compare your
girlfriend to some hot girl at the bar, or your boyfriend to the jacked guy at the
gym. No one likes to feel like they’re in
competition with someone they don’t
even know. You’ll do nothing but make
them feel bad about themselves and then
they will resent you for it.
7. Forget about them. We all get sidetracked, we all have
friends and family we make time for, we
all have jobs that demand our attention.
We may be out at the bar with our
significant other but spend majority of
the time talking to other people. We might be out somewhere and forget to
answer their text. But nothing hurts more
in a relationship than being forgotten
about, and worse, ignored. Don’t be
completely unaware of their presence.
It’ll only make them that much more touchy when it comes to you talking to
other people. If you care about them, you
shouldn’t be forgetting that they’re there.
8. Dismiss any problems. Even worse is not taking problems
seriously with your bf/gf. If they voice a
concern, listen. Hear the issue from their
point of view and try to come up
together with a resolution. Don’t wave it
away and wait for it to blow over, because it’ll never actually go away. In
fact, those little problems that could’ve
been addressed and nipped in the bud
will just grow into a tangled, complicated
mess.
9. Put everything/everyone else first. When you love someone, that person is
usually (and should be) a priority in your
life. Just as you become an important
priority in theirs. You expect the
significance of one another to be
reciprocated. But it can be hard watching this important person put other things in
front of you. When they hear of
something exciting, they call their best
friend first. When they find a cool place
to go out, they tell their brother. When a
crazy story happens to them, they text it in their group chat. They choose their
friend’s house party over your sister’s
birthday party. You don’t want to just
feel important, you want to know you’re
important.
10. Snoop. We all do it. We peak at their phone
when it’s left open, we go through a
mysterious drawer when they leave the
room. But snooping can only lead to
problems. Either you’ll get caught, or
you’ll find something you don’t want to find. But one thing will always happen:
you will come across something that you
don’t understand so you misinterpret it,
your imagination runs wild, and it turns
into a fight that never should’ve
happened.
11. Try to change who they are. Either accept them or leave. That’s it. You
should never try to turn someone into
what they’re not just to fit the mold of
your ideal mate. That doesn’t exist. So
you just have to accept them or keep
walking.
12. Desensitize yourself to them. After a long time being with someone,
this can easily happen. You aren’t as
moved when they cry. You don’t feel bad
calling them horrible names. You take
shots below the belt during minor
arguments. You don’t care if they find out something that will upset them. Your
sensitivity for them and their feelings
dissipates. And that will never work well
in a relationship.
13. Bring up the past. This is a major NO-NO in an argument. In
a relationship, you should only be
focusing on the present. No matter how
brutal a fight might get, you should never
bring up an event from the past. You
have to leave it behind. If your boyfriend cheated on you, if your girlfriend did
something bleeped up that hurt you at one
point, you have absolutely no right to
bring it up again and use it as
ammunition. You have to leave the past
where it belongs. If you forgive them for something and you both decide to move
on, that means no bringing it back up, no
matter how well it might work in your
favor at the moment.
14. Holding a grudge/keeping score. Another thing similar to bringing up the
past is holding grudges against each
other. Someone in a couple might feel
justified to do something immoral just
because their boyfriend did something
similar before. Or they’ll refuse to do something super special for their
birthday just because the other didn’t do
it for them this year. There is no such
thing as keeping score in a relationship.
You cannot base your actions and
decisions on past occurrences.
15. Not support them. You should always have your partner’s
back, no matter what. You should never
shoot down their dreams or goals, no
matter how far-fetched they may be. You
should always be there for them, even if
they make a stupid decision, to help pick them up and dust them off after. You
shouldn’t mock them for being wrong.
You shouldn’t make them feel worse
about failing. You should always be their
rock, their unwavering support system,[/b]

Nawa o

Lord knows I didn't read this

Not tonight ma'am! I actually trickishly avoided babes frustrating whines and fervent lectures to come alive here this cool evening... WHR is MrsPhyno?

[size=32pt]sai baba[/size]

modify this na, use ur enter key.....

I really have no idea abt it... Maybe Jix u can summarize it for me.. But only if u have time to read

Mrsefan.... what is your problem?

its done

bitchcrafts:
Not tonight ma'am! I actually trickishly avoided babes frustrating whines and fervent lectures to come alive here this cool evening... WHR is MrsPhyno?

lol but you have to tell me who you are first

Na wa o e too long

MrsPhyno:

lol but you have to tell me who you are first

Yikes!My lof idol is here!!! It's Sabr... I havent been breathing fine without u

bitchcrafts:
Yikes!My lof idol is here!!! It's Sabr... I havent been breathing fine without u

I knew it was you. Wow yay!

How are you munchkin. Enjoying the economy?

MrsPhyno:

I knew it was you. Wow yay!

How are you munchkin. Enjoying the economy?

lol. See this funny geh. There is no economy anywhere. He don die and dey don bury am. Na wetin u fit do for urself to remain alive remain.

bitchcrafts:
lol. See this funny geh. There is no economy anywhere. He don die and dey don bury am. Na wetin u fit do for urself to remain alive remain.

Just wanted to get you to say it lol. Don't worry, God will see u thru to another Election Day my pikin. How's school (or am I not allowed to ask on NL)

MrsPhyno:

Just wanted to get you to say it lol. Don't worry, God will see u thru to another Election Day my pikin. How's school (or am I not allowed to ask on NL)

You dont stop teasing upandan lol. I can see youre now fully interested in the "politrickin" of fatherland judging by your posts. Good luck oh.

bitchcrafts:
You dont stop teasing upandan lol. I can see youre now fully interested in the "politrickin" of fatherland judging by your posts. Good luck oh.

lol it's a vacuum it sucks u in.
Romanceland is like the ghost of Christmas past na, being here makes me emotional

MrsPhyno:

lol it's a vacuum it sucks u in.
Romanceland is like the ghost of Christmas past na, being here makes me emotional

I can relate, in that it was the magnet that drew me in too lol. But the obscenities, casualities and display of lunacy their doesnt compensate the fractal enlightenment that it could present ,so im out. Yes, but romance still brings to my soul solace, and most times ,thats all I need. Are u done with school?