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Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 9:06pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
sisisioge: Lol @ baddo U be correct babe, sisisioge. ... Unlike other women screaming like wild untamed crickets ontop my ears.. They never know how far My dear back to the matter, both couples are at fault.. Sincerely I don't support either the woman or the husband studying abroad and leaving the other here.. Why not study here in Nigeria? It's not easy been faithful for one year and more without se3x... Hey,! From my end is not easy.. Have tried it before and I failed woefully. There is no long distance relationship for me.. That's one of my closing input to what the op is talking about. Wild crickets oya ooo... Make una quote me And let's continue this bashing of words till we get tired. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Kythu(m): 9:13pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Gaggi: op does the wife beat her in acticities in the other room? |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by MsSantaClaus(f): 11:28pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
The issue is that whether the wife is here or abroad, the guy will still cheat! What about all the men cheating in their homes while the wife is there? What is their excuse?? No woman should give up her dreams just to make sure a husband doesn't cheat, is he a child or a man? If I was the wife I would want to know, there are too many unpleasant diseases flying around and i'm sure she wants to stay alive for her kids and to fulfill her ambition after all her hard work. Please talk to your friend firmly , but if he doesn't change his ways, maybe you should find a way to make her aware so she can protect herself , since the hubby chooses to put his family at risk. As for people saying he should mind his business, why are we humans like this Cant we be our brothers or sisters keeper for once? AIDS is all too real to take that stance. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by nwamehn: 3:38am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Bollinger: U and other married people in the family section ar actually the people op needs to seek advice from in this type of situation and not these young boys and girls who know nothing about marriage. Though I'm very concerned about the man being infected and thus transferring it to the woman, but I believe op needs more of the advice from married people like u and not young boys and girls. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 8:18am On Nov 15, 2016 |
AuroraB: (Modified- face palm, SMH) |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Phunkyposh(f): 8:38am On Nov 15, 2016 |
MizzD: Very thoughtful of you ..i really Wonder if people borrow their brains out and think from their Anus. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by AuroraB(f): 11:21am On Nov 15, 2016 |
merahki:It's in red just like everyone else's but the gender is not indicated. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 12:32pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
ElsonMorali: Actually sir, I want to korrect you , Sex is food...this is not joking sturfs |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by ElsonMorali: 12:42pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
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Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by IRobot7(m): 12:46pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
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Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 6:20pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Amelian, there is nothing wrong with your decision to entirely focus on your family once you have a family of your own. I totally get that and I consider it a smart decision provided that this is what will make you happy in the short and long run. I thought it would be needless to say that people's preferences differ but since you asked why a woman - married or not - would decide to do her Master's Degree abroad, I will tell you. For the same reason that you decided to focus on your family 100%. It is her personal preference. You have discovered that your fulfillment is in the kitchen, the living room and the oda room , let others have it their own way too. You would not want to be criticized for the choices you have made so let others make theirs. I know what you want to say now. Let them do whatever they want and deal with the consequences - in this context - a husband who sleeps and emotionally bonds with someone else. Yeah, that's true. We all have to come to terms with the consequences of our decisions. We sleep as we make our beds. However, there are men out there who support their wives in the pursuit of their dreams and who love their ambition and determination to achieve whatever goal they set for themselves. It may come as a surprise to you but some men cannot be with a woman whose life entirely revolves around her family so to each their own. My question to you is: How can anyone expect a wife to give up on her dream for her husband forever but not expect the husband to give up on his sexual gratification for his wife for two years? And if this is too much to ask of some husbands, is it also too much to ask them to protect themselves instead of being grossly negligent by jeopardizing their family's life? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 7:42pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Mindfulness: Smiles, well said dear... Anyone jare Am tired.. Honestly my day was very stressful and am really tired.. Whichever one they want.. Please do as u wish Or whosoever wishes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 7:48pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Amelian: Then have a nice, quiet and relaxing evening. I hope you can answer my questions when you feel refreshed and replenished again: How can anyone expect a wife to give up on her dream for her husband forever but not expect the husband to give up on his sexual gratification for his wife for two years? And if this is too much to ask of some husbands, is it also too much to ask them to protect themselves instead of being grossly negligent by jeopardizing their family's life? 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 8:03pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
[b][/b] Mindfulness: Thanks dear. God bless you.. The thing is every one has dreams and aspirations to pursue. Some women want 2 further their degree and go further in their career in a space of 2years,thereby expecting their husbands to be celibate for 2years. Well if their husbands agree with them? Why not? It's an agreement between the couples. But personally for me, I cannot be celibate for 2years, not even for 1year and not even for 6months.. 3months sef, I try. That's why I can't have a spouse abroad while I remain in Nigeria. It won't work.. The 2nd year am filing for divorce if we are not in the same country, the same state and living in the same house. How much more if I were a man? My wife must have discussed such delicate issue with me before we get married. Everybody has their limits when it comes to wants and sacrificing for the other in the aspect of companionship and se3x. So If the husband agrees with his wife. So be it.. He should stay celibate like his wife too. It's all about communication and agreements. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 8:06pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Amelian: It is good you know what you want and go for it. This is the attitude of a winner. Stay blessed too. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 8:16pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Mindfulness: You too. Much my dear Thanks 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 8:36pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Amelian: |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 8:42pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Mindfulness: It musn't necessarily be two years of absence. Surely the woman should be able to visit home during school breaks and holidays. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 8:48pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: I was thinking the same and decided not to mention it because two years is nothing in comparison to a lifetime. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 9:12pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Mindfulness: Yup. Besides, I hail your diplomacy. Amëlian or whatever she calls herself represents everything that no woman should be, and is one of the reasons why male chauvinism is having a field day. When a woman doesn't know her worth or considers herself inferior, it is only then she can even think to choose marriage over self-betterment. Such women have been groomed since childhood to aspire toward marriage. They are usually trophy wives and it has been indoctrinated in them that when a man asks them to jump, they shouldn't protest but rather ask how high they should jump. What if her husband died? What if by some stroke of fate the marriage gets unravelled? Yet it is for the same marriage that she sacrificed her academic aspirations. Such servile persons can never be found around me. You ought to lay it on her without the soft landing of honey-coated words, because I know you are only trying to be diplomatic with her. 3 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 9:18pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: Me, too. It is so unlike me. Amëlian or whatever she calls herself represents everything that no woman should be, and is one of the reasons why male chauvism is having a field day. When a woman doesn't know her worth or considers herself inferior, it is only then she can even think to choose marriage over self-betterment. Such women have been groomed since childhood to aspire toward marriage. They are usually trophy wives and it has been indoctrinated in them that when a man asks them to jump, they shouldn't protest but rather ask how high they should jump. Well, she has a very healthy libido. She could not be in a long distance relationship and she doesn't have to so she does not expect her husband to go without s.exx because she herself couldn't. Not every woman can be married to a soldier. What if her husband died? What if by some stroke of fate the marriage gets unravelled? Yet it is for the same marriage that she sacrificed her academic aspirations. In order to sacrifice your academic aspirations, you need to have them in the first place. She places top priority on family life, I guess. She should be free to do so. Such servile persons can never be found around me. You ought to lay it on her without the soft landing of honey-coated words, because I know you are only trying to be diplomatic with her. There are men out there and on this thread who want to be married to a woman with her attitude. To each their own. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 10:10pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Mindfulness: I tell you, I was gobsmacked. One minute Mindy is Socrates – the gadfly always trying to make known the truth to the people of Athens, and without the luxury of diplomacy. And the next minute she is why Wole Soyinka said: “The man in him dies who tries to be diplomatic in the face of FUCKERY”. Okay, Soyinka never said that; I only tweaked his words.
Of course, but such women should not revile the wives of soldiers either. They have no right to do so. Go read her first comment on this thread. She was castigating married women who go abroad or have to study in Timbuktu. No one says she cannot prefer to forgo her academic aspirations or life dreams so she can be with her hubby – her business, her life –, but when she becomes overzealous by tanning the hides of women who would do otherwise, then someone needs to shove some hot coals down her throat. I'm certain I was able to do that on this thread.
To each his-her own, but just don't vilify or mock those who do not share your views. It was this particular post of hers that got me talking. See, she was even asking God to give sense to the women who do not share her views. By that she's implying that they are unintelligent: Amelian: |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 10:45pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
DarkRebel101: What is this? You killed me now. Of course, but such women should not revile the wives of soldiers either. They have no right to do so. Which conversation is she less likely to 'castigate' other women after; the one with you or the one with me? What people cannot give you, they need the most. To each his-her own, but just don't vilify or mock those who do not share your views. Oh God, I am beginning to feel like Mother Theresa after all. I prefer the bad azz image but I will say it anyway. Don't we all feel some sort of smugness, arrogance, and even imperiousness in the view of comments that challenge our perception - especially on this site? And don't we all feel that we are on the right side all the time? It was this particular post of hers that got me talking. See, she was even asking God to give sense to the women who do not share her views. By that she's implying that they are unintelligent: I am not going back to read her first comments. I care about now and tomorrow. I only go back if the memory pleases me. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 11:47pm On Nov 15, 2016 |
Mindfulness: Don't worry, you would rise up on the last day.
What do mean by “the one with you or the one with me”? PS: we were not conversing when she castigated the women who would prefer to further their studies.
I don't and I know many people that don't. One must be humble before he-she can attain intellectual transcendence, and one's perception(s) should be as flexible as a Chinese gymnast. It's the charlatans -- and they are rife on this section -- that choose deliberately to be boneheaded and bloodyminded even when it's obvious that they are wrong. Charlatans whom I hate unremorsefully and would decry at every chance I get. , Those who do not learn history are doomed to relive it. You should not be concerned only about today and tomorrow, you limit yourself that way. Past experiences make us approach tomorrow two times more wiser than if we were to plunge full-bore into the future having no clue of the past. |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Nobody: 11:11am On Nov 16, 2016 |
[color=#006600][/color] DarkRebel101: Most men can last a month without sex. What am asking you is can a hot blooded man stay 6 months without sex? |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by Phunkyposh(f): 8:58pm On Nov 16, 2016 |
[quote author=IRobot7 post=51052432][/quote] What? |
Re: My Friend Is Cheating On His Wife, Putting Me In A Tight Situation by IRobot7(m): 9:01pm On Nov 16, 2016 |
Phunkyposh: OOps sowie, posted it at the wrong place. Accept my apology please. 1 Like |
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