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Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Fadman4real(m): 7:20pm On Jan 10, 2017 |
Ginaz: I think your case is worse Dan mine. I don't even know aw to chat about with strangers talkless of talking with them. It is crazy, I had been following this topic since it was created but never had d urge to say anything cause I don't know anyone in this faceless forum. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by davidif: 3:36am On Jan 13, 2017 |
Ginaz: You need to buy the book "How to make friends and win over people" by Dale Carnegie it is one of the most important book written the last century and read it carefully. https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/0671027034/ref=pd_bxgy_14_img_2?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0671027034&pd_rd_r=31NTY752437HEF5Y4J1J&pd_rd_w=T41P7&pd_rd_wg=nk3ky&psc=1&refRID=31NTY752437HEF5Y4J1J |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by ephi123(f): 11:13am On Jan 13, 2017 |
@Ginaz There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Don't let your aunt or anyone make you think there is. You are simply an intovert like so many others are. Don't let anyone try to change you into who you are naturally not. Of course, there is a time for interacting with others but that should be by choice and not under duress. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by waluga(m): 3:17pm On Jan 13, 2017 |
i think thats one thing so common about NLers |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by waluga(m): 4:52pm On Jan 23, 2017 |
Ginaz:i think i have this same issue...and couple with the fact that i have this kind stone cold/IDC look but go lone on my own and people think am maniac or crazy...but middle finger to that....babe live ur life |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Kristus(m): 1:11am On Jan 24, 2017 |
Ginaz:I finally found my female version. Though sometimes I'm the craziest extrovert to myself. I'm funny and crazy and creative and fun, but just around really very close friends. I love my personal space, I don't like being in a crowded place( Party or whatever) without familiar faces. People who aren't close to me don't here me talk and those very few who know me think I'm a clown. Every other thing about O.p is me........ Except the gender. PS: introverts are not always boring. They can be very interesting in most cases, we don't just like drawing public attention cos we can't always handle looking back into all the eyes that fall on us. 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Lupechance: 1:37pm On Mar 11, 2017 |
Ginaz: The entire first paragraph is exactly me. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ahdunns(m): 10:56pm On Jul 12, 2017 |
Ginaz:yea u so correck same here! i here bullshit all day. i blame ma self and others. but i guess God has the upper hand |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Trishiana(f): 5:31pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
Am also in your shoes, am really shy to even meet up with people so I remain indoors, sometimes I get angry at myself but what can I do. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Nobody: 5:54pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
MackBrooklyn: You are very silly. Why would you use a strange colour, italics, and small font size in the same text?? |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by alfajet(m): 7:17pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
Ginaz: I bet you were born from 22august to 22september(virgo), cos you are not alone, thats our zodiac trait, but you can overcome it just like me |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by alfajet(m): 8:33pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
Ginaz: You are even lucky that you like talking compared to some introverts like me. But now i am very social, and makes friends easily. If i can changed, then you will do better. start with your family members. try talking for a longer period with family members and at the same time try to resist the urge to go and recharge (staying alone). Try to extend the time you spend with family members. From there, you can graduate to family friends etc. Also reduce your time on social media All i have to conclude is practice makes perfect, a journey of 1000miles starts with a single step, gradually you will surprise yourself. Good luck. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by oilcity(m): 9:02pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
Pple Judge by wat they see, so, aldoe u r ok u av to try and make some adjustments. U can begin to try and socialize doh moderately because dis attitude of yours can cost u alot because pple will always misinterpret ur attitude. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by deafeyez: 9:28pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
UrennaNkoli: And do u like d person u are becoming. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by febo15(m): 9:35pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
Ginaz:u funny |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by deafeyez: 9:39pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
Ginaz: Don't tell me your contributions doesn't make sense and you don't want to talk into their discussions. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 10:01pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
deafeyez: Is not about my contribution sometimes, they won't listen to me. They always feel they know what they wanna know about me judging from my character and all that. So I don't like saying much anyway, they gonna assume so I let them. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Ginaz(f): 10:04pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
alfajet: I'm not a social media freak, I'm strictly only on whatsapp. I have only one pix on my Facebook wall. Anyway thanks for your advise. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Windflower(f): 10:35pm On Aug 24, 2017 |
[quote author=Ginaz post=51059229]I don't know the right section to post this but I really need to know cos I'm tired already so forgive me. I'm in my early twenties, I'm the kind of girl that just love being alone with herself. I don't go clubbing, don't go to parties( except I don't have a choice and I'm being forced by my mother, marriage tinx) I have few friends, just 4 I share deep emotional matters with. I'm always alone when at home, in fact I get excited about it. I have never visited anyone this year, except on 2 occasions. Only 2 have visited me also, I close from work straight home and sleep, read novels or watch movie. I like social stuff but too much of it kills me, makes me shy and tired. Now I'm at my aunt's house, I've been inside my room since Saturday, I only come out to do house chores. This is my personality but I feel people don't understand. My aunt just had a talk with me right now that I keep myself from people, and it's getting me mad cos I didn't think it that way. Nairalanders, please am I too introverted or what? Is there something I'm missing? Please. [/quo Its like you have just described me,could remember while I was in the university,a coursemate called me and asked why am so reserved. I can be a talkative when need arises,but I just like being alone and not having to deal with the madness of some people. My work is a part time job,so I don't out everyday, I can be home for a week and I won't even step outside. This whole thing is beginning to scare me,I am 24 already, how would I meet Mr Right if I don't go out. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by cgniyi(m): 1:39am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Nothing you've described is strange and a lot of introverts can relate with all you've posted, and seems we plenty for here I've never been the social type too, though over the years I've learnt to be more comfortable at gatherings. The funny thing is,now , I can be in my room all day and not feel the need to come out. Next day, I'm out hanging out with friends all night till the following morning and they are tired and ready to go home, but I still feel like staying out. Then there are times I go out and be by myself at a public space. I actually just went to a bar yesterday to watch a match by myself. I was trying to tell a friend about the match this evening, and he told me he finds it weird how I occasionally just step out the house to go watch football and not involve anyone. I do the same thing at the beach or the cinema All I can tell you, there's nothing wrong with you, but you need to just need to put yourself out there sometimes just so you have some really exciting life moments cos trust me , I know, introverts tend not to have any exciting personal experience to talk about. All you know for now, you read, watched or heard. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by koolengrtimmy(m): 5:06am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Trishiana: You need to let out the fears and start a conversation in a faceless forum to build your confidence. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Lewaluv(f): 5:12am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Try to push yourself everyday to do something out of character sp that you dont lose yourself in being too introverted. I am very introverted and i do this to balance myself. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by koolengrtimmy(m): 5:31am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Having read thoroughly this thread, certainly we all cannot be the same. My only advice for you introverts is to build your confidence in a forum like this by engaging in responses to topics been displayed on NL that interests you. Life is too short not to be enjoyed. At some point when I was getting too reserved , I searched for some of my primary and secondary school mates whom we can really talk and bring those old memories and that sparked me up again. There is no place I can start a conversation with someone even in a bus, Do not be SHY to even admire people you dont know. At times I admire people style of dressing in a polite way. You all just need to start connecting because this is a country where your fate depends on whom you know. Gradually you will need to work it out yourself, for ladies how about watching sports or even engaging in one . If you are close to the university of Lagos you can come check the sport complex and register for tennis and co. Lastly find an avenue to enjoy your life to the fullest in your own modest way. |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by koolengrtimmy(m): 5:36am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Lewaluv: If i may ask ,Can you share few things you do to balance up yourself? |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by koolengrtimmy(m): 5:46am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Fadman4real: Do you like sports? Do you watch live games though could be boring at times but you need to start responding to conversation and making meaningful comments on topics on NL express yourself how brief you can. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Lewaluv(f): 6:02am On Aug 25, 2017 |
I will strike up a conversation with a stranger when i particularly dont want to. Instead of texting i video call. I try to draw attention to myself even though I haTE it! koolengrtimmy: |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by koolengrtimmy(m): 6:09am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Video calls on a first conversation or after a sparkling connection? |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by koolengrtimmy(m): 6:11am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Lewaluv: Video call on a first conversation or after a sparkling connection? |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Lewaluv(f): 6:12am On Aug 25, 2017 |
For those of us who feel the panic feeling or the anxiety come before we leave d house, visit mates, talk in public etc..must remember that it is an ongoing battle. We must always keep a little push in our lives so these tasks are not so hard for us. 1 Like |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Lewaluv(f): 6:13am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Doesnt matter. The more daring d better. koolengrtimmy: 1 Like |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by koolengrtimmy(m): 6:15am On Aug 25, 2017 |
Lewaluv:This is interesting |
Re: Am I Too Introverted? Please Help by Windflower(f): 6:35pm On Aug 27, 2017 |
Ginaz:Its really hurts especially when your own family doesn't understand you.I couldn't help but come back to read your post,because everything you have written is just like ure describing me. Today was the last straw,Its like I should just go somewhere else and be alone. Anyways, Is there any changes,did you take to the advice here |
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