Since I broke up with my ex 8 months ago, I noticed that any guy that comes my way either irritates me or bores me to death after I spend like an hour or two with him.

I keep intouch with my exes and even they irritate me as well. This terrifies me because I dnt want to end up alone. My last ex really hurt me a lot and I dont know if this is the reason. He called me just last week on my birthday and we talked for a long time on the phone, he even invited me to his niece's wedding. But anytime he tries getting chatty I just feel myself getting irritated and I cut the phone on him.What could be wrong with me o?There are some great guys around me right now and I wish I could just like one. I know how good guys are hard to come by.

Am I getting frigid emotionally and if I am what can I do?

Sweetie you have retreated into your shell because you were hurt. Time heals all wounds and you will come out the other end. In the mean time keep being friendly with guys _{They are not all bad} .

YOU just need to stay on your own and get your self together,.
Looks like you are emotionally scared

I think you are just jaded. Have fun and give yourself time to figure it all out

[color=#000099]Hi Miss, it takes time for the heart to heal from any emotional scar. The heart needs love and when broken , needs tender-loving care to help in healing process . When hrt broken and every other opposite sex irritate u , it's a proof that you really love the person u ache for . Do u want the relationship to continue or you'd like to taste the waters and explore the world of possibilities? ,  Chris- Abuja[/color]

Just saw ur pix in ur profile,  i dont want to believe a beautiful girl like u would complain abt relationship. Eh! with ur sweet smile, eyes, white teeth ad gap-tooth! Kai, call me on 08038418611 or 07095083156

Thanks o, my head is swelling.who no like compliments

Sorry mama. . . ya heart will heal with time.

Definitely frigid

u need to free yourself first, stop being stiff

Okay. . .

dajoaneke:

Just saw your pix in your profile,  i dont want to believe a beautiful girl like u would complain abt relationship. Eh! with your sweet smile, eyes, white teeth ad gap-tooth! Kai, call me on 08038418611 or 07095083156

hehehe, the lady in that picture dey rock life well well lol

Lesson learnt in life i guess . Just move on with your life as if nothing happened except that u be more cautious this time around but keep ur mind and emotions open. U never know; he could be the next ONE or one of them just around you !

scottN:

U never know; he could be the next ONE or one of them just around you !

Or One of them in here

Macgreat:

Or One of them in here

Hawk, Carry go, nutin do u sha!

whitelexi:

Definitely frigid

u need to free yourself first, stop being stiff

Stiff? And how do I free myself?

Macgreat:

Or One of them in here

Not sure.Nairaland guys are sooooo randy, well some of them.

Godmother:

Since I broke up with my ex 8 months ago, I noticed that any guy that comes my way either irritates me or bores me to death after I spend like an hour or two with him.

I keep intouch with my exes and even they irritate me as well. This terrifies me because I dnt want to end up alone. My last ex really hurt me a lot and I dont know if this is the reason. He called me just last week on my birthday and we talked for a long time on the phone, he even invited me to his niece's wedding. But anytime he tries getting chatty I just feel myself getting irritated and I cut the phone on him.What could be wrong with me o?There are some great guys around me right now and I wish I could just like one. I know how good guys are hard to come by.

Am I getting frigid emotionally and if I am what can I do?

haba godmother, how can you do this to me now? I thought we agreed not to discuss our "relationship" and its problems on here? ehn? is this fair?
By the way, i'm the cause of that "frigidity", as a typical yoruba man, noone breaks up with me and expects to walk into another man's arms, they gave me a padlock to lock up ur emotions, so u better return to your one and only kia kia,

Ebonyeyes:

Sweetie you have retreated into your shell because you were hurt. Time heals all wounds and you will come out the other end. In the mean time keep being friendly with guys _{They are not all bad} .

why do ladies always talk about retreating into a shell after they feel hurt, are they snails or tortoise or what. love turns around and knocks u off ur feet. that dosent mean u shld take it out on ur sef or the world. hurt is when u remain where u were dump. u have not business staying there, cos whoever dump u there is gone, so u need to get ur self up and move on too.

@Godmother,
Like you said you are getting frigid,you have to open your heart,life is a process but you have to help you yourself too,its not going to be easy after heart breaks,it happens to everybody,the earlier you begin to open up more the better,i'm not saying you should start dating immediately,make friends and see how it goes from there,take time out learn about yourself and people before going to a relationship,discover who you are before going into a new relationship,that way you can know the kind of man you want,though he might not be perfect but atleast he will not break your heart when you find him.

Baby Girl mistakes are bound to happen, and you ought to learn from the mistake, their is this saying I like saying, "THE DOWNFALL OF A MAN(WOMAN) IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD" it's jus your ability to get up and face your challenges.mistakes and hope not to make the same mistake over and over, don't be too hard on yourself or the other guys that come your way, just open up and becareful one day you'll definatly meet the Special man .

debest1:

haba godmother, how can you do this to me now? I thought we agreed not to discuss our "relationship" and its problems on here? ehn? is this fair?
By the way, i'm the cause of that "frigidity", as a typical yoruba man, noone breaks up with me and expects to walk into another man's arms, they gave me a padlock to lock up your emotions, so u better return to your one and only kia kia,

ROFLMAO
So you placed emotional "magun" on me she?Lol

Godmother:

ROFLMAO
So you placed emotional "magun" on me she?Lol

yes now! what did u expect, 2 let u go just like that?

@ post, You dont need to be 2 hard on yourself, just take your time and when u meet that special someone you'll find your self relaxing in his company,

I'm praying for that

Godmother:

I'm praying for that

Maybe we can hold prayer meeting 2gether sef, "Prayer of agreement"

Hehehehe Debest you will not kill me.Lol

Godmother:

Hehehehe Debest you will not kill me.Lol

lol,

madambini:

@poster---
YES, U Are FRIGID,
maybe u shud swing the other way.

No can do, Im not a gay

@ poster

I believe your frigidness is due to your last relationship which ended up badly. It is normal to develop a sort of hatred for the opposite sex when one of them has really hurt you.

I am going through the same thing (not sexually speaking) so I understand you.

sorry! hope u get out of ur frigidity soon or else u go just old,

^^^

michelin89:

@ poster

I believe your frigidness is due to your last relationship which ended up badly. It is normal to develop a sort of hatred for the opposite sex when one of them has really hurt you.

I am going through the same thing (not sexually speaking) so I understand you.

Thanks Madambenin