I can't seems to understand how someone with a sound moral training from a religiously inclined family could start leading a double life that has gotten me hooked with sleeping with prostitutes for the past five years.

Background
It all started when I was in my final year at the university,as a 26 yr virgin I wanted to experiment with sex and since 2011 till date I have not been able to quit no matter how hard I try.
I know about the sad consequencs associated with my promiscuous lifestyle but I still can't get out ofit. Sometimes I just feel like to sleep and never wake again as my life presently has no meaning. My current relocation down to Owerri has not helped matters as I suffered a terrible relapse twice after seven months of total and complete abstainance.
I need help and I need it urgently.

GO on ur knees

U need a professional help.. This is a serious matter.

If you are a girl, you need help

If you are a guy, welcome to the club

Hope we read your story too...!!

If you can table your story perfectly, hit me up lets talk!!

chibwike:
GO on ur knees

I sure will, but each relapse seems to cut me off completely from God. But I will start allover again. The pain and guilt you feel when you are doing something you know is wrong but can't stop has not been easy.

TrapQueen77:
U need a professional help.. This is a serious matter.

where and whom do you think I can talk to.

BiafranBushBoy:
If you are a girl, you need help

If you are a guy, welcome to the club

Hope we read your story too...!!

If you can table your story perfectly, hit me up lets talk!!

I am a man but I will hit the rock soon if I don't stop this damage I am doing to myself.

loyallove:
I am a man but I will hit the rock soon if I don't stop this damage I am doing to myself.

What damage??

Stop acting naive bro...

You arent even a sex addict.. if you see sex addicts, you will pick race!!

You have a babe?

BiafranBushBoy:


What damage??

Stop acting naive bro...

You arent even a sex addict.. if you see sex addicts, you will pick race!!

You have a babe?

I am not in any relationship presently as I don't i intend to hurt anyone with my lifestyle. I am thinking of settling down as soon as I get over this. I am not acting naive but this is what I have been up to lately. I just have to accept it and fight it.

loyallove:
I am not in any relationship presently as I don't i intend to hurt anyone with my lifestyle. I am thinking of settling down as soon as I get over this. I am not acting naive but this is what I have been up to lately. I just have to accept it and fight it.

Okay... Goodluck

BiafranBushBoy:


Okay... Goodluck

thanks and always remember to say a prayer on my behalf. I hate the man I am presently and will stop at nothing to be the responsible man I use to be. Thanks again for giving me a shoulder to lean on. I will let you know of my progress.

Bro, what you need is to genuinely seek God for help. God can deliver you from this. You're from a religious background so you've probably heard about Salvation. It's the miracle you need sir. It changes everything in a split second. Jesus restores! Just go on your knees and genuinely acknowledge and confess this wrong. God will save you and in an instant, your have a new life. I'm talking from experience.

BiafranBushBoy:
If you are a girl, you need help

If you are a guy, welcome to the club

Hope we read your story too...!!

If you can table your story perfectly, hit me up lets talk!!

God doesn't use different standards in judging, if you want to go down do it on your own and don't lead others astray or your eternal punishment will be worse

hardeytunji:
Bro, what you need is to genuinely seek God for help. God can deliver you from this. You're from a religious background so you've probably heard about Salvation. It's the miracle you need sir. It changes everything in a split second. Jesus restores! Just go on your knees and genuinely acknowledge and confess this wrong. God will save you and in an instant, your have a new life. I'm talking from experience.

I sure do. Sometimes I doubt that I could get to this point. I just want to believe that today onwards will be a turning point in my life.I just want you to say a prayer on my behalf.

The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.

Catalin:
The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.

Thanks a lot, but what do you think will be the outcome if sex is the only reason for marriage. I am definitely going to settle down soon, but that will be once I fix this problem.

Catalin:
The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.

best advice, you likely keep experiencing relapses because your body keeps producing these hormones that must be "released" sooner or later

Pidgin2:


God doesn't use different standards in judging, if you want to go down do it on your own and don't lead others astray or your eternal punishment will be worse

Are you okay?

Whats wrong with you Mrs Saint... guess you focus on your husband and let us be!!

You attacked me on my thread and I let you be, so don't force me to type or you wouldn't love it... Nonsense!!

Atk1nson:


best advice, you likely keep experiencing relapses because your body keeps producing these hormones that must be "released" sooner or later

God changes life. I just know that he will fix me. I can't stand the thought of cheating on my would be wife. I need to get myself under control and then marriage can follow.

loyallove:
thanks and always remember to say a prayer on my behalf. I hate the man I am presently and will stop at nothing to be the responsible man I use to be. Thanks again for giving me a shoulder to lean on. I will let you know of my progress.

I don't even understand you...!!!

Don't tell me of your progress because I don't need it!!

BiafranBushBoy:


I don't even understand you...!!!

Don't tell me of your progress because I don't need it!!

No hard feeling

'Give your life to Christ'. This is not the normal cliche that's been used and abused I'm 100% sure it works.
Godly associations from church will surely help

OP you are on your way to recovery because the first step has been taken,you know your problem and you are ready to fight it .Don't be discouraged ,continue fighting till you become the man you want to see in the mirror. May God help you.

Thank you for this assurance and encouragement. You don't know how much I appreciate it. I want to look forward in the weeks and months to come and be happy once again.

byvan03:
OP you are on your way to recovery because the first step has been taken,you know your problem and you are ready to fight it .Don't be discouraged ,continue fighting till you become the man you want to see in the mirror. May God help you.

OP...but nothing seems to do you nau. Just quit the Allen babes and get a girlfriend.

Totally agree, just that I keep asking myself how many times will I keep suffering one relapse after another. Sometimes I fear I might have tested God to the limit. I knew that what I am doing is totally wrong but just that I am helpless may God wash me off my sins.

Franky826:
'Give your life to Christ'. This is not the normal cliche that's been used and abused I'm 100% sure it works.
Godly associations from church will surely help

Totally agree, just that I keep asking myself how many times will I keep suffering one relapse after another. Sometimes I fear I might have tested God to the limit. I knew that what I am doing is totally wrong but just that I am helpless may God wash me off my sins

Franky826:
'Give your life to Christ'. This is not the normal cliche that's been used and abused I'm 100% sure it works.
Godly associations from church will surely help

Quiting will be my greatest desire. I need not a girlfriend but a life companion that will not regret being in a relationship with me. I need to do these for the sake of God, for my sake and for the sake of my loved ones.

sisisioge:
OP...but nothing seems to do you nau. Just quit the Allen babes and get a girlfriend.

OP if I am right you are above 30years ? So why are you talking of a relapse ?

In western countries and places with economic stability you will be married and therefore have an outlet to express your sexuality.

Its simply your God given hormones expressing themselves and their is nothing you can do about it.

When people advise you to pray its like telling a man who is pressed for urine to pray, does that make sense ?

You simply ask him to ease himself.


The same thing is happening to you. Nothing is wrong with you except you have refused to create a legal outlet for your body which is constantly producing these urges.

Thats why in the north once a boy is more than 20yrs his father will marry a lady for him. Its because they understand that sexual urge cannot be quenched.

Its as natural as thirst and hunger.

So stop acting like you had a half baked education. If you are serious about not sleepimg around, find a lady and marry her.

Stop being so dramatic.

Noted.

Guitarlife:
OP if I am right you are above 30years ? So why are you talking of a relapse ?

In western countries and places with economic stability you will be married and therefore have an outlet to express your sexuality.

Its simply your God given hormones expressing themselves and their is nothing you can do about it.

When people advise you to pray its like telling a man who is pressed for urine to pray, does that make sense ?

You simply ask him to ease himself.


The same thing is happening to you. Nothing is wrong with you except you have refused to create a legal outlet for your body which is constantly producing these urges.

Thats why in the north once a boy is more than 20yrs his father will marry a lady for him. Its because they understand that sexual urge cannot be quenched.

Its as natural as thirst and hunger.

So stop acting like you had a half baked education. If you are serious about not sleepimg around, find a lady and marry her.

Stop being so dramatic.

loyallove:
Quiting will be my greatest desire. I need not a girlfriend but a life companion that will not regret being in a relationship with me. I need to do these for the sake of God, for my sake and for the sake of my loved ones.

Ok, then get married! A colleague of mine who is really into no sex before marriage policy had to get married quickly ni. You don't have to get suicidal just because your body naturally responds to stimuli

@sisisioge I wish I can go back and do things differently. However since I can't undo the past am trying to alter the future outcome.