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Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 12:49pm On Dec 12, 2016
I can't seems to understand how someone with a sound moral training from a religiously inclined family could start leading a double life that has gotten me hooked with sleeping with prostitutes for the past five years.

Background
It all started when I was in my final year at the university,as a 26 yr virgin I wanted to experiment with sex and since 2011 till date I have not been able to quit no matter how hard I try.
I know about the sad consequencs associated with my promiscuous lifestyle but I still can't get out ofit. Sometimes I just feel like to sleep and never wake again as my life presently has no meaning. My current relocation down to Owerri has not helped matters as I suffered a terrible relapse twice after seven months of total and complete abstainance.
I need help and I need it urgently.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by chibwike(m): 12:52pm On Dec 12, 2016
GO on ur knees

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by TrapQueen77(f): 12:53pm On Dec 12, 2016
U need a professional help.. This is a serious matter.
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by BiafranBushBoy: 12:55pm On Dec 12, 2016
If you are a girl, you need help embarassed

If you are a guy, welcome to the club cheesy grin

Hope we read your story too...!!

If you can table your story perfectly, hit me up lets talk!! wink

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 1:02pm On Dec 12, 2016
chibwike:
GO on ur knees
I sure will, but each relapse seems to cut me off completely from God. But I will start allover again. The pain and guilt you feel when you are doing something you know is wrong but can't stop has not been easy.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 1:03pm On Dec 12, 2016
TrapQueen77:
U need a professional help.. This is a serious matter.
where and whom do you think I can talk to.
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 1:05pm On Dec 12, 2016
BiafranBushBoy:
If you are a girl, you need help embarassed

If you are a guy, welcome to the club cheesy grin

Hope we read your story too...!!

If you can table your story perfectly, hit me up lets talk!! wink
I am a man but I will hit the rock soon if I don't stop this damage I am doing to myself.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by BiafranBushBoy: 1:06pm On Dec 12, 2016
loyallove:
I am a man but I will hit the rock soon if I don't stop this damage I am doing to myself.

What damage?? angry

Stop acting naive bro...

You arent even a sex addict.. if you see sex addicts, you will pick race!!

You have a babe? smiley

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 1:28pm On Dec 12, 2016
BiafranBushBoy:


What damage?? angry

Stop acting naive bro...

You arent even a sex addict.. if you see sex addicts, you will pick race!!

You have a babe? smiley
I am not in any relationship presently as I don't i intend to hurt anyone with my lifestyle. I am thinking of settling down as soon as I get over this. I am not acting naive but this is what I have been up to lately. I just have to accept it and fight it.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by BiafranBushBoy: 1:38pm On Dec 12, 2016
loyallove:
I am not in any relationship presently as I don't i intend to hurt anyone with my lifestyle. I am thinking of settling down as soon as I get over this. I am not acting naive but this is what I have been up to lately. I just have to accept it and fight it.

Okay... Goodluck
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 2:02pm On Dec 12, 2016
BiafranBushBoy:


Okay... Goodluck
thanks and always remember to say a prayer on my behalf. I hate the man I am presently and will stop at nothing to be the responsible man I use to be. Thanks again for giving me a shoulder to lean on. I will let you know of my progress.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by hardeytunji(m): 2:07pm On Dec 12, 2016
Bro, what you need is to genuinely seek God for help. God can deliver you from this. You're from a religious background so you've probably heard about Salvation. It's the miracle you need sir. It changes everything in a split second. Jesus restores! Just go on your knees and genuinely acknowledge and confess this wrong. God will save you and in an instant, your have a new life. I'm talking from experience.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Pidgin2(f): 2:18pm On Dec 12, 2016
BiafranBushBoy:
If you are a girl, you need help embarassed

If you are a guy, welcome to the club cheesy grin

Hope we read your story too...!!

If you can table your story perfectly, hit me up lets talk!! wink

God doesn't use different standards in judging, if you want to go down do it on your own and don't lead others astray or your eternal punishment will be worse

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 2:22pm On Dec 12, 2016
hardeytunji:
Bro, what you need is to genuinely seek God for help. God can deliver you from this. You're from a religious background so you've probably heard about Salvation. It's the miracle you need sir. It changes everything in a split second. Jesus restores! Just go on your knees and genuinely acknowledge and confess this wrong. God will save you and in an instant, your have a new life. I'm talking from experience.
I sure do. Sometimes I doubt that I could get to this point. I just want to believe that today onwards will be a turning point in my life.I just want you to say a prayer on my behalf.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 2:35pm On Dec 12, 2016
The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 2:41pm On Dec 12, 2016
Catalin:
The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.
Thanks a lot, but what do you think will be the outcome if sex is the only reason for marriage. I am definitely going to settle down soon, but that will be once I fix this problem.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Atk1nson(m): 2:42pm On Dec 12, 2016
Catalin:
The best thing is for you to marry and be doing it always.

best advice, you likely keep experiencing relapses because your body keeps producing these hormones that must be "released" sooner or later
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by BiafranBushBoy: 2:47pm On Dec 12, 2016
Pidgin2:


God doesn't use different standards in judging, if you want to go down do it on your own and don't lead others astray or your eternal punishment will be worse

Are you okay?

Whats wrong with you Mrs Saint... guess you focus on your husband and let us be!!

You attacked me on my thread and I let you be, so don't force me to type or you wouldn't love it... Nonsense!!
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 2:47pm On Dec 12, 2016
Atk1nson:


best advice, you likely keep experiencing relapses because your body keeps producing these hormones that must be "released" sooner or later
God changes life. I just know that he will fix me. I can't stand the thought of cheating on my would be wife. I need to get myself under control and then marriage can follow.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by BiafranBushBoy: 2:48pm On Dec 12, 2016
loyallove:
thanks and always remember to say a prayer on my behalf. I hate the man I am presently and will stop at nothing to be the responsible man I use to be. Thanks again for giving me a shoulder to lean on. I will let you know of my progress.

I don't even understand you...!!! undecided

Don't tell me of your progress because I don't need it!! angry
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 2:50pm On Dec 12, 2016
BiafranBushBoy:


I don't even understand you...!!! undecided

Don't tell me of your progress because I don't need it!! angry
No hard feeling

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Franky826: 4:19pm On Dec 12, 2016
'Give your life to Christ'. This is not the normal cliche that's been used and abused I'm 100% sure it works.
Godly associations from church will surely help

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by byvan03: 4:21pm On Dec 12, 2016
OP you are on your way to recovery because the first step has been taken,you know your problem and you are ready to fight it .Don't be discouraged ,continue fighting till you become the man you want to see in the mirror. May God help you.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 4:38pm On Dec 12, 2016
Thank you for this assurance and encouragement. You don't know how much I appreciate it. I want to look forward in the weeks and months to come and be happy once again.
byvan03:
OP you are on your way to recovery because the first step has been taken,you know your problem and you are ready to fight it .Don't be discouraged ,continue fighting till you become the man you want to see in the mirror. May God help you.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by sisisioge: 4:40pm On Dec 12, 2016
OP...but nothing seems to do you nau. Just quit the Allen babes and get a girlfriend.
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 4:42pm On Dec 12, 2016
Totally agree, just that I keep asking myself how many times will I keep suffering one relapse after another. Sometimes I fear I might have tested God to the limit. I knew that what I am doing is totally wrong but just that I am helpless may God wash me off my sins.
Franky826:
'Give your life to Christ'. This is not the normal cliche that's been used and abused I'm 100% sure it works.
Godly associations from church will surely help

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 4:42pm On Dec 12, 2016
Totally agree, just that I keep asking myself how many times will I keep suffering one relapse after another. Sometimes I fear I might have tested God to the limit. I knew that what I am doing is totally wrong but just that I am helpless may God wash me off my sins
Franky826:
'Give your life to Christ'. This is not the normal cliche that's been used and abused I'm 100% sure it works.
Godly associations from church will surely help
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 4:50pm On Dec 12, 2016
Quiting will be my greatest desire. I need not a girlfriend but a life companion that will not regret being in a relationship with me. I need to do these for the sake of God, for my sake and for the sake of my loved ones.
sisisioge:
OP...but nothing seems to do you nau. Just quit the Allen babes and get a girlfriend.


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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Guitarlife: 4:52pm On Dec 12, 2016
OP if I am right you are above 30years ? So why are you talking of a relapse ?

In western countries and places with economic stability you will be married and therefore have an outlet to express your sexuality.

Its simply your God given hormones expressing themselves and their is nothing you can do about it.

When people advise you to pray its like telling a man who is pressed for urine to pray, does that make sense ?

You simply ask him to ease himself.


The same thing is happening to you. Nothing is wrong with you except you have refused to create a legal outlet for your body which is constantly producing these urges.

Thats why in the north once a boy is more than 20yrs his father will marry a lady for him. Its because they understand that sexual urge cannot be quenched.

Its as natural as thirst and hunger.

So stop acting like you had a half baked education. If you are serious about not sleepimg around, find a lady and marry her.

Stop being so dramatic.

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 4:55pm On Dec 12, 2016
Noted.
Guitarlife:
OP if I am right you are above 30years ? So why are you talking of a relapse ?

In western countries and places with economic stability you will be married and therefore have an outlet to express your sexuality.

Its simply your God given hormones expressing themselves and their is nothing you can do about it.

When people advise you to pray its like telling a man who is pressed for urine to pray, does that make sense ?

You simply ask him to ease himself.


The same thing is happening to you. Nothing is wrong with you except you have refused to create a legal outlet for your body which is constantly producing these urges.

Thats why in the north once a boy is more than 20yrs his father will marry a lady for him. Its because they understand that sexual urge cannot be quenched.

Its as natural as thirst and hunger.

So stop acting like you had a half baked education. If you are serious about not sleepimg around, find a lady and marry her.

Stop being so dramatic.
Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by sisisioge: 5:00pm On Dec 12, 2016
loyallove:
Quiting will be my greatest desire. I need not a girlfriend but a life companion that will not regret being in a relationship with me. I need to do these for the sake of God, for my sake and for the sake of my loved ones.

Ok, then get married! A colleague of mine who is really into no sex before marriage policy had to get married quickly ni. You don't have to get suicidal just because your body naturally responds to stimuli wink

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Re: Help A Concerned Sex Addict by Nobody: 5:08pm On Dec 12, 2016
@sisisioge I wish I can go back and do things differently. However since I can't undo the past am trying to alter the future outcome.

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