The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria
should be
between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be something,
to be someone is so immense. When you look around
you everyone seems to be doing something for
themselves, people seem to be living a life you only
dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have
been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.
Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age
when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol or drugs,
because the disappointments become too much and you
find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few
people you studied with have been lucky enough to land
jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly
they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with
yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do
when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they
are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and
planning another trip South Africa while you are not sure
of what your next meal would be?
Most times you follow the conversation silently, all
alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is
no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep
around the more the pressure to be something, takes a
toll on you. You know when stories about house parties
come up and you act deaf because you don’t know
where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you
ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone
on the market or how British Airways offers poo services
and you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss this is
chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that
talks about GMAT, SHLn Dragnet, jobberman or job
vacancies sites“.
But you sit there as these people are lost in their
lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking
minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like one of
a woman’s breasts during pre-intimacy. Once in a while
one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another
drink and you wonder if you should just say No and
head home, but head home to do what? So you
grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have just one
last one“ Lie.
But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready
to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as
long as it pays , so you end up as an office messenger
in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5
years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced
to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not
doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the
employees when they are broke and they can’t order
with fast food. This is when conversations about where
people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of
any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t
matter – you have resorted to surviving.
Once in while you will bump into your now well to do
classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even
eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you
feel better about yourself, because in your mind you
wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort
your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you
will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but
always it’s your face that would look the odd one out –
not even the best filters can hide a face which has
suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled
beans.
The worst mistake you can do during this period is to
try and date – there is nothing that a person going
through such times can offer in terms of love. How are
you going to do evening romantic walks when you are
tired from walking delivering letters in offices around
town? What are you going to tell your lady when she
says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or
love garden sites that are in town? That your financial
religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when
you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to
date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older
than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your
life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in
life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if
you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and
if by then your life is still in disarray like Leicester city's performance in the EPL then my friend be
prepared for a walk out.
But then this is the age when you learn a lot of about
life, if you can hack through this stage of life the only
hard moment in your life would be when you lose your
parents - that’s if you are still lucky enough to have
them. This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance,
about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it
teaches you something about friendship, love, career
growth and personal responsibility. This is always your
rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.
How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how
you handled your life in this phase.
Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win.

tompat86:
The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria
should be
between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be something,
to be someone is so immense. When you look around
you everyone seems to be doing something for
themselves, people seem to be living a life you only
dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have
been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.
Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age
when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol or drugs,
because the disappointments become too much and you
find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few
people you studied with have been lucky enough to land
jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly
they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with
yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do
when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they
are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and
planning another trip South Africa while you are not sure
of what your next meal would be?
Most times you follow the conversation silently, all
alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is
no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep
around the more the pressure to be something, takes a
toll on you. You know when stories about house parties
come up and you act deaf because you don’t know
where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you
ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone
on the market or how British Airways offers poo services
and you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss this is
chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that
talks about GMAT, SHLn Dragnet, jobberman or job
vacancies sites“.
But you sit there as these people are lost in their
lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking
minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like one of
a woman’s breasts during pre-intimacy. Once in a while
one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another
drink and you wonder if you should just say No and
head home, but head home to do what? So you
grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have just one
last one“ Lie.
But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready
to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as
long as it pays , so you end up as an office messenger
in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5
years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced
to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not
doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the
employees when they are broke and they can’t order
with fast food. This is when conversations about where
people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of
any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t
matter – you have resorted to surviving.
Once in while you will bump into your now well to do
classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even
eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you
feel better about yourself, because in your mind you
wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort
your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you
will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but
always it’s your face that would look the odd one out –
not even the best filters can hide a face which has
suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled
beans.
The worst mistake you can do during this period is to
try and date – there is nothing that a person going
through such times can offer in terms of love. How are
you going to do evening romantic walks when you are
tired from walking delivering letters in offices around
town? What are you going to tell your lady when she
says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or
love garden sites that are in town? That your financial
religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when
you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to
date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older
than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your
life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in
life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if
you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and
if by then your life is still in disarray like Leicester city's performance in the EPL then my friend be
prepared for a walk out.
But then this is the age when you learn a lot of about
life, if you can hack through this stage of life the only
hard moment in your life would be when you lose your
parents - that’s if you are still lucky enough to have
them. This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance,
about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it
teaches you something about friendship, love, career
growth and personal responsibility. This is always your
rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.
How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how
you handled your life in this phase.
Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win.

You no dey lie!

nice write ups..... kudos.... permission to copy and past to my friends.... they sure need this

You just made me remember my hustling days. Oh boy, It's not easy to be a man I tell ya. Thank God for his faithfulness.

Quite inspirational and motivating. Thanks bro, this would indeed go a long way to help save lives and encourage youths going tru this phase of life. Its well with all Nigerian youths