yomi007k:



U hav PH 2 times n u neva GH?


Wow

Bobmaintain:
Next time she asks your for money, tell her you will need the permission and approval of her husband before you can do so.

solace2013:
Cynthia was my girlfriend at the university about 12 years ago. She parted ways with me when we were in 300 level because of a guy from her hometown who her parent wanted her to marry.
I haven't been hearing frequently from her since then. I learnt that they got married in 2008. On June 30 this year, she sent a friend request to me on Facebook which I excitedly accepted, as a girlfriend I haven't heard from in more than a decade. Within one week of chatting with me on Facebook messenger, she started telling story of woes, how her Hubby's business isn't working normally anymore, how she lost her banking job, how paying children school fees and feeding has been difficult etc. I have given assistance on two occasions (totalling 50k), but she have persisted in making financial demand. It's not that I'm too buoyant financially but I have been managing to be above waters. I'm confused and embarrassed sometimes when a supposedly married woman with kids would unashamedly ask for financial assistance from an ex, I intend to still assist one more time and after that no more, her pestering is becoming too much and nauseating, what do you think great guys in the house?

solace2013:
Great suggestion. She's been telling me never to mind each time l ask about her hubby.

NotOfThis:
OP, you're not obligated to be giving her money at all, so stop it. You said you've already helped her out financially on two occasions and you yourself aren't financially buoyant. If you want to help her out one more time, like you've said, then go ahead. Just know that the more money you give her, the more financal demands she'll be making, until you put a stop to it.

cococandy:
You don't owe her money. Tell her you can't if you can't. Simples.

BTW if I left a guy to marry someone else, I'd rather quench before I admit to him that I chose the wrong person instead of him.

Lol. I guess we are not all the same.

legalexpert:
oga Op,
ignore her request... you are meant to be building your future not hers, she is past and she is another person's responsibility, if the guy cannot take care of his home, its not your business, tough luck to her. as she choose husband make she enjoy husband, no be ur headache.. ps dont even think of getting gratification for help rendered..

solace2013:
Cynthia was my girlfriend at the university about 12 years ago. She parted ways with me when we were in 300 level because of a guy from her hometown who her parent wanted her to marry.
I haven't been hearing frequently from her since then. I learnt that they got married in 2008. On June 30 this year, she sent a friend request to me on Facebook which I excitedly accepted, as a girlfriend I haven't heard from in more than a decade. Within one week of chatting with me on Facebook messenger, she started telling story of woes, how her Hubby's business isn't working normally anymore, how she lost her banking job, how paying children school fees and feeding has been difficult etc. I have given assistance on two occasions (totalling 50k), but she have persisted in making financial demand. It's not that I'm too buoyant financially but I have been managing to be above waters. I'm confused and embarrassed sometimes when a supposedly married woman with kids would unashamedly ask for financial assistance from an ex, I intend to still assist one more time and after that no more, her pestering is becoming too much and nauseating, what do you think great guys in the house?

baby124:
Just block her. Also tell her to meet her parents for solution to her problems. They gave her the solution once before by offering her a husband from her hometown. Maybe they can provide for her now too by plucking money from the tree in her hometown. Tell her she made her choice to suffer through thick and thin and that you need your own money for your future family. She should deal with her own problems while you deal with yours. Tell her she is greedy and should be content with what her husband provides her and you are glad you didn't marry her as she would have disgraced you just as she is disgracing her husband begging for money on Facebook. Smh.

pocohantas:


Very annoying.
I am sure she won't tell her husband where she is getting the money from. I doubt any Nigerian man would tolerate that...

She is obviously cashing in on OP's weakness.