EfemenaXY:


It makes no difference love or no love.

You're indirectly justifying such indiscretions from the menfolk with your write-up and it's opinions like these from fellow women I find really sick.

A marriage is meant to be the sanctification of two hearts. A union between a man and a woman, to the exclusion of all others. Otherwise what's the point of taking those vows if there never was any intention of keeping them in the first place? (I'm referring to monogamous marriages).

Sleeping around whether it's done discreetly or not is beside the point. If the man wishes to become the local public toilet, and storage unit for countless STIs and other sexually transmitted nastiest, it's his prerogative but he really shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.

What a joke.

HARDDON:


Splitng hairs n wars r eternally @ a tangent .... so worry not.


I pray they get tru this but do know that she cant get more than has been stipulated by law shld d roof cave

Shortyy:

She's your wife, whom you married for better and for worse, she's being loyal, loving and caring for you. And her whole body changes cos of pregnancy and child bearing, which is probably why you're chasing sexy and curvy girls. Please you people should fear God.

EfemenaXY:


As long as she gets a big payout, enough to put a big dent in his pocket and financially set him back for a good number of years (better still if he has to start all over again from scratch), then all's fair & square.

HARDDON:


Take a deep breath B.

U hurting.

There something we shld know?

raumdeuter:


She did this because she wanted to and wasnt forced. Every female know what pregnancy and the changes involved is before getting into it

And you are not doing your husband a favour by getting pregant you got pregnant because you wanted to and its one of the main things women look forward to from an early age

HARDDON:



I do get ur drift n you r right.

Just a lil question:

Why do ladies see marriage as a trophy that once won, u need not luk after yourself again? U need not put up smart n sexy? N wear nice cologn?

U just eat n grow fat?
How can a mAn be walking with his own wify n she luks like his momma?

Truth be told, God has given ya'll d grace to bear kids, u just need to apply in lil wisdom to shed d fat .

I have seen women , working class, with 3 kids n guys still drool over them.

HARDDON:



I do get ur drift n you r right.

Just a lil question:

Why do ladies see marriage as a trophy that once won, u need not luk after yourself again? U need not put up smart n sexy? N wear nice cologn?

U just eat n grow fat?
How can a mAn be walking with his own wify n she luks like his momma?

Truth be told, God has given ya'll d grace to bear kids, u just need to apply in lil wisdom to shed d fat .

I have seen women , working class, with 3 kids n guys still drool over them.

Shortyy:

Wait a fvcking minute, there's no way in hell you'll justify what that side bitchh did or why you as a husband should cheat on your WIFE. No way. She's your wife, you married her to stay with her, and if you are tired of her, tell her it's over, divorce her! Don't subject her to emotional trauma! You are human, I'm sure you have a conscience.

HARDDON:


Take a deep breath B.

U hurting.

There something we shld know?

raumdeuter:


Do you know how to read? How does my response you quoted relate to wat you are posting

I am saying no woman was forced to get pregnant How that now equals justifying what anyone did?

I am saying saying a woman got pregnant because she wanted to not because she was forced to

Shortyy:

Soooooooo? If you're a man won't you want your wife to get pregnant? What exactly is your point? That cos she wasn't forced to get pregnant, you can do whatever you like with her feelings?? Wtf?

eyinjuege:


Nowhere do I justify infidelity amongst couples please.

What you underlined in my previous post is what happens in even those relationships that we assume the respectable men are the best thing to happen since the creation of ice cream. How many well respected men including pastors are discovered to have other wives and children during their burials?

And not only men cheat.

Women learnt the art of guile and manipulations from infancy while the men are still trying to learn how to kick a ball.
Women that cheat go to the grave with their indiscretions. Many men feeling like the real MVPs with their various mistresses don't know that only two out of their four children is theirs.
It doesn't make cheating by women right either..
I won't deceive myself that the world is such a perfect place and people don't cheat.
When you see a woman truly keeping to her vows, its because she wants to. A man also breaking is vows is because he also wants to. We still have some decent men who keep their vows because it means something to them.

raumdeuter:


You cant say you got pregnant because of your husband, You got pregnant because you wanted to get pregnant and have children. If you will list out things a woman sacrificed remove the getting pregnant because she wanted it as well

EfemenaXY:


For the record, I don't consider pastors (especially Nigerian "pastors" ) respectable men



You're going off tangent here.

While I don't dispute what you typed here, I still maintain my stance about the bolded, underlined bits in red of your previous post.

The assumptions you made there rankle. To the core. No self-respecting woman should be made to feel such despicable actions from a man are acceptable because cheating exists from time immemorial, neither should she be made to believe such men love / respect their wives because they're "discreet".

ITbomb:
From here, I can understand the problem. The wife has stopped taking care of herself and has grown fat, but the man still loves curves.

Apparently the man still loves the wife, so *some text missing*

Funny enough,that could be a lie the man made up for the sidechick.
I've had married men tell some very funny lies to me about their wives too,just to hit the jackpot
Besides what stops him from helping his wife change if it was true?
It's never the fault of the wife trust me.
Some men are just unrepentable dogs

PaperLace:

It's not sick o.
Y'know men are always thinking 'bout sex, their TESTETORONE is shooting through the roof. If they don't have sex they experience physical pain ,become irritable and tensed (no be me talk o, na for here I read_ from a man).

With the frequent threads I see, wives are obviously not meeting up. Let's not forget they're polygamous in nature.

Right now, the best we can do is come up with ways every party can coexist in peace. I have some feasible guidelines on how to manage madam and side-chick.

Not just any man, but one who's made it clear he relapses into lunacy every five minutes.

Surely we are to disregard the words of such a man in the same manner we'd disregard a born-blind person's description of colours. No?

EfemenaXY:

It makes no difference love or no love.

You're indirectly justifying such indiscretions from the menfolk with your write-up and it's opinions like these from fellow women I find really sick.

EfemenaXY:


Why would I be hurting? Over what?

Only cheating men would find my advice to women at the receiving end (on how about to hit back where it hurts the most), uncomfortable.

So do you fall into that category??

Shortyy:

It's not easy for a woman to get into shape after child birth, but they still do it. After they're done with child bearing. But this woman in particular is pregnant. You know that?

Acidosis:
This text is enough to provoke her into beating the life out of the side chick, but if such happens, my dearest Nairaland sisters will condemn an angry wife for teaching a side chick a well deserved lesson.

They'll say: "why can't the wife beat her husband instead?" I didn't know women now beat men... smh for our dearest confused sisters.


The woman obviously married a dog, but the she-dog deserves all the beatings she can get from a superior power

HARDDON:


Take a deep breath B.

U hurting.

There something we shld know?

cococandy:
If the man wasn't telling her his wife smells like urine to boost her ego and give her morale, they wouldn't be having that conversation.
Place the blame where it belongs.

eyinjuege:


Interesting.
So if the she-dog has the upper hand and beats the life out of the pregnant wife, and also causes her to lose her pregnancy, what would you say?
The wife would have started the assault by going to meet the girlfriend and also starting the fight. Starting a physical fight doesn't always mean you'll have a upper hand btw.
"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never harm me"
Verbal insults can never justify physical abuse/assault. So if your husband's mistress insults you, that's not enough reason to hit her with a stone. If you start the fight, and she has the upper hand you are still to blame.
Is it not better you go and discuss with your husband and resolve your marital issues?
This particular convo seems to have happened on the man's phone, so the mistress never sent a message to the wife.
How can a man be telling his mistress his wife stinks, is fat and all sorts of nonsense? Why won't the mistress have the guts to say rubbish to the wife?
If its not this particular mistress, it will be another for such men that have no respect for their families.
There are men that have mistresses outside marriage, but they've always created boundaries for their mistresses never to cross. Its always been understood that their wives are important to them, and they would never want to hurt their wives by her finding out about their indiscretions. The mistresses have always known that once the wife finds out, that's the end of the amourous relationship with the man. So they behave themselves.
So for any man's mistress to have to guts to confront the wife and say rubbish, the fault is with the man abeg. The wives need to go and sort it out with their husbands who's pledged his allegiance to them.

Acidosis:


The fault belongs to the husband as the beating is to the side chick. They both deserve to be served.

Acidosis:


The blames belong to the dog, but the beatings belong to the side chick.


Let any side chick say such to my sister, I will personally handle the beating...

HARDDON:




If only u know......
Bin trying for us to look @ this objectively but u blowing ur top like some gurl that has caught her guy in sexy steamy romps.

My lyrical quill i hereby retire early