Hello matured nairalanders I think its best we rub minds together on family related issues ( husband and wives) problems. It really saddens my heart when I see people coming out on nairaland to expose family weakness which I think its proper that you visit a marriage counsellor that are arround either in church or at least from NGO's or private/ govt instituted, many don't know that when you expose ur husband or wives secret or short falls it also affect them also. Matters like this are to be settled amicably at home or with marriage counsellor where u can have a heart to heart talk,its really painful because it affects the children born into the family. When ur in distress or troubled read the bible and seek wisdom from it, let urs not be the case study, endevour for intending couples to go for marriage counselling before saying I do to that man or woman, thanks.