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My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by gracetie: 12:45pm On Jan 05, 2017
I am 25 years old and my husband is 32. We have two kids together. our sex life was perfect until after our first baby. My husband doesnt touch me anymore. I always have to initiate sex each time im in dare need of it. He has the problem of weak erection and premature ejaculation too.on one occasion I mentioned to him that we really need to see a doctor he said "are you now saying im not a man again"

I said "'no babe you are a man but in the last 6months we've had sex only once and you didnt last up to a minute, there s no need to blame anyone lets just see a doctor. He cut out the idea and we have been staying like that. I give him good and healthy meals. I dress sexy in the house. I doubt if he s cheating cos i have access to his phone and we are always together. he doesnt keep late nights and doesnts answer starnge calls. I think its a health issue but his ego wont allow him sort out issues.

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Rosella1: 12:46pm On Jan 05, 2017
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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by buygala(m): 12:46pm On Jan 05, 2017
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm embarassed while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps sad

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained smiley.... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... cry ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you sad ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them. sad

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you angry

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife cool...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on smiley

Modified. ..

I just woke up.this morning to this thread on Frontpage and a lot of mentions by mostly male folk...smiley

You are entitled to your opinion just like I am entitled to mine ....Yes i am very young and unmarried, but I have a girlfriend who I have been with for a long time. ..a time longer than the duration of some so-called 'marriages' sad...And the fact that our sex life is pretty solid has in no small way helped the relationship...of course there are times when either of us may not be in the mood for any action, leaving the other high and dry. ..but those kinda times are very few and far in between each other, and are very satisfactorily compensated for sooner smiley

Op's husband doesn't even want to take steps to solve his problem, and all you self-righteous men be rooting for him and advising the lady to do this and do that all so she can ride her husband's Peniss undecided ...if the man even did as little as acknowledging the problem, my advice would have been totally different. ...but here he is trying to force the op onto a state of sexual nowhere and all you dudes are saying she should talk to this person or that, do this or that, and generally stand by her husband and bear the brunt of his condition of unreasonable pride and stupidity angry .....

This life isn't always about what is 'right' or 'moral' .....the man has chosen to leave poor op sexually stranded, riding his high horse of pride and impotence aloofly....Speaking a lot of grammer to whoever, becoming a stripper for husby, praying 69 times a day, begging for a dick that's supposed to be hers when and however she wants, is not only unfair to the woman, but reeks of masculine hypocrisy....as if if it's the husband being denied of the puna unreasonably, he will be so nice as to take most of the steps as prescribed by the self-righteous people who mentioned me undecided

In any case, it's Op's life...it's doesn't matter if you all agree with me or not...Op, having seen the multitude of advice given her here, is totally free to adopt the one her mind has privately been leaning towards already cool

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by daewoorazer(m): 12:50pm On Jan 05, 2017
Before I say anything


Upload ur picture before wedding and after Giving birth

Forget about dressing sexy

Are u Now fat?
Do u have stretch marks now?
Do u wear perfume as a sisi but have stopped?
What has changed?

That's that on your part


Talk to him about his condition and ask his permission about buying him pills that increase libido and strength in men.

Thank me larer

#zanga

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by estyvino(m): 12:52pm On Jan 05, 2017
Not good

He need to see a doctor as regards to weak erection, but for the quick ejaculation!!!

Alomo bitter popularly known as aloski will see to that

Remember to thank me later!

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Certifiedbillio(m): 12:54pm On Jan 05, 2017
As if he's not enjoying it

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Nobody: 12:54pm On Jan 05, 2017
Two kids...

Meaning after your first child you've had sex only once?


Sad story.


By the way se.x toys are not demonic, women having sexually dysfunctioned marriages should embrace this Option...


This is not cheating and yes infidelity is a NO NO

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by daewoorazer(m): 1:00pm On Jan 05, 2017
NwamaziNwaAro:
Two kids...

Meaning after your first child you've had sex only once?


Sad story.


By the way intimacy gadgets are not demonic, women having sexually dysfunctioned marriages should embrace this Option...


This is not cheating and yes infidelity is a NO NO








Haaaaa... This is out of it..... You are further drifting dem apart..... You are encouraging independence on d part of the young woman



OP pls don't try this



No offence intended @mr nwamazi

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Joshrob(m): 1:01pm On Jan 05, 2017
maybe he doesn't enjoy the missionary style you guys always do..and he don't know how to tell you.
since you are a virgin before you guys got married,you still lack some experience maybe you need to watch more porn and learn new style.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by banme(m): 1:07pm On Jan 05, 2017
So u are already ready to cheat...

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Nobody: 1:14pm On Jan 05, 2017
Men love sex, for you husband to suddenly lose interest in having sex with you means that he might be cheating.

You need to confirm if your husband is cheating.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by slyng(m): 1:20pm On Jan 05, 2017
I am not cheating dont mind them o. I promise to change from this moment. Prepare urself for a clasico tonite. Can't wait

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by pedrilo: 1:27pm On Jan 05, 2017
Check his finances! Is he struggling to cater for family expenses? Do u support him in this regard? Such life challenges can affect a man's libido n overall sexual urge.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by NATIONALPASTOR: 1:38pm On Jan 05, 2017
Its a pity.
Pls madam, i beg you, Never cheat or else you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
Let him know how you feel, things will change

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Aoky: 2:07pm On Jan 05, 2017
Perhaps it is necessary to turn to a psychologist?

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by SalomonKane: 2:26pm On Jan 05, 2017
gracetie:
I am 25 years old and my husband is 32. We have two kids together. our sex life was perfect until after our first baby. My husband doesnt touch me anymore. I always have to initiate sex each time im in dare need of it. He has the problem of weak erection and premature ejaculation too.on one occasion I mentioned to him that we really need to see a doctor he said "are you now saying im not a man again"

I said "'no babe you are a man but in the last 6months we've had sex only once and you didnt last up to a minute, there s no need to blame anyone lets just see a doctor. He cut out the idea and we have been staying like that. I give him good and healthy meals. I dress sexy in the house. I doubt if he s cheating cos i have access to his phone and we are always together. he doesnt keep late nights and doesnts answer starnge calls. I think its a health issue but his ego wont allow him sort out issues.

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.
There are remedies he can use. Why don't tell him stylishly to see a herbalist?

I for one know the wonders of Agbo.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by sexymoma(f): 3:32pm On Jan 05, 2017
try watching some kamasutra with him
my sister jos download some in your phone, since you guys do stay together most times
relax on his chest then jos play it... if he says "what is this" tell him you are learning some skills
he s your hubby not a stranger... act anyhow.

tell him some sexy words even before night comes
like.. babe my nipples itches wink, my boobs looks fairer than my face
u go hear "let me see" grin

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Acidosis(m): 3:50pm On Jan 05, 2017
gracetie:

I have reminded him many times that i am only 25 and he married me a virgin. How can i proudly say that in 5 years of married we have had sex not more than 10 times and lucky two of the times resulted in pregnancies. Please advice on what I should do. I am soo tempted to cheat and satisfy myself. But I love my husband. I wish our sex life can go back to what it used to be.

I don't understand..


What it used to be? 10 times in 5 years is what it used to be?

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by pocohantas(f): 3:56pm On Jan 05, 2017
Sadly, this is what some Nigerian women go through. When they complain, people accuse them of being fat or tell them to focus on their kids.
I can count the Nigerian men that are actually that good-looking physically, yet they still demand the sex as their right it is na. No one has asked them to go and work-out.

*You can keep convincing him to see a therapist.
*Get a sex machine, only you can work that vagina like you want. You'll be amazed at how he'll become invisible after you achieve just one orgasm from a sculptured dil.do.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Nobody: 4:00pm On Jan 05, 2017
shocked shockedshocked

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by thelish(f): 5:04pm On Jan 05, 2017
daewoorazer:
Before I say anything


Upload ur picture before wedding and after Giving birth



Forget about dressing sexy


Are u Now fat?
Do u have stretch marks now?
Do u wear perfume as a sisi but have stopped?
What has changed?

That's that on your part







Talk to him about his condition and ask his permission about buying him pills that increase libido and strength in men.

Thank me larer











#zanga


So without perfume, pricckk nor fit stand? every problem in marriage is really from d woman. I forgot.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by ebujany(m): 5:26pm On Jan 05, 2017
It's well
Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by daewoorazer(m): 5:30pm On Jan 05, 2017
thelish:



So without perfume, pricckk nor fit stand? every problem in marriage is really from d woman. I forgot.


Yes as that could be d case in that particular man. Have you heard of foot fetish before? Some are head over heels for a lady's feet. Just d feet!


And no, every problem is not always from d woman.... I woulda advised same if it's zhe oza way round wink
Of course, read my comment well, it was a balanced weight thrown at both parties.


BTW... Are u a feminist? Ur comment reeks of feminism

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by daewoorazer(m): 5:36pm On Jan 05, 2017
Catalin:
Men love sex, for you husband to suddenly lose interest in having sex with you means that he might be cheating.

You need to confirm if your husband is cheating.







But ma'am, logically, are u saying women don't like sex Or that men love sex than women?

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Nobody: 5:39pm On Jan 05, 2017
daewoorazer:








But ma'am, logically, are u saying women don't like sex Or that men love sex than women?
I never said women don't like sex. But men are wired that way.
Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by daewoorazer(m): 5:56pm On Jan 05, 2017
Catalin:
I never said women don't like sex. But men are wired that way.



Sorry, but wired which way?

I think what u talk about is limited to d toasting/wooing stage, when a woman is free with you, in most cases, we men are d victims. We get complacent too quickly.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Abiagirl777(f): 6:23pm On Jan 05, 2017
Gracetie,I understand how you feel .I myself does not joke with sex so if you aren't satisfied,tell him you want to get intimacy gadgets to help him or use his hands on you.
it is only unmarried boys n girls in this section that'd always open their mouth to always blame the woman when such issues come up.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Nobody: 6:42pm On Jan 05, 2017
thelish:



So without perfume, pricckk nor fit stand? every problem in marriage is really from d woman. I forgot.

You're forgetting data is cheap so everyone has access to internet by everyone I mean even teenagers

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by Nobody: 6:44pm On Jan 05, 2017
This is a serious issue 10 times in 5 years is bad, am thinking he's too ashamed to admit he's not stepping up, sadly his pride is costing him alot, you need to bring it up and let him feel comfortable enough to confide in you, if possible cry if you have to, let him know that its important to you. This marriage thing sef dey fear me

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by bigcp(m): 6:57pm On Jan 05, 2017
buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm embarassed while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps sad

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained smiley.... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... cry ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you sad ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them. sad

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you angry

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife cool...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on smiley

don't ever cheat on ur hubby oo..because he'll eventually find out...d moment he finds out you'll loose ur home n d respect of ur kids....u knw hw d society is....it's always difficult 2 get a nice hubby wen u r divorced...not to talk of having 2 kids...so b wise my dear....

try getting him herbal medicine..it works like magic... I've heard so many testimonies...i think it's beta dan english drugs...since he won't follow u 2 d hospital....go n get herbal/roots for weak erection 4 him...explain to d seller he/she will mix a concussion 4 ur hubby 2 drink...trust me within 2 to 3weeks he'll be very active....u can thank me later....
most times the problem is 2 much sugar in d system.... (or pie)....herbal drugs will do d magic trust me...
GOOD LUCK. ..

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by sunvick(m): 8:17pm On Jan 05, 2017
Does she really need to inform him about intimacy gadgets? Notifying him of getting a toy will kill his ego and the (I'm not man enough line will always suffice). I think she should go ahead and get a Love Machine to help herself pending when they agree to see a therapist which will also remove her mind from cheating.
You stayed a virgin before marriage and even in the marriage you are still sex starved.
Op, you can as well use your hand to help yourself.
Life is to short to suffer in a sexless marriage.


Abiagirl777:
Gracetie,I understand how you feel .I myself does not joke with sex so if you aren't satisfied,tell him you want to get intimacy gadgets to help him or use his hands on you.
it is only unmarried boys n girls in this section that'd always open their mouth to always blame the woman when such issues come up.

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Re: My Husband Only Sleeps With Me When We Need To Have A Baby by OLAFIMIX(f): 9:15pm On Jan 05, 2017
Try seduction, tell him he should allow you to take the wheel. Use ur mouth till he comes, then you can proceed to jajirova grin grin men don't last long during first round. If that doesn't work try rape him grin grin. You can also try to grap his microphone to sing with it when he still dey sleep.


boo don't worry we will go to cloud 9 and come back together, come out from ur hiding place now. This hide and seek game don't tire me ooangry angry

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