Toks2008:


Why you too get sense like this? if you be woman I for woo you die. ..Chai!

FreeSpirited:


Boss....Most of your posts are always objective. By your previous posts I know you are a Christian and married to one wife but I do appreciate the sincerity and objectivity of your posts. Its very rare for a Christian.
No matter how flawed my stance on Christianity, I still strongly believe that if Jesus was alive now, he can never condemn polygamy when a lot of women are suffering and dying for lack of husband. Jesus never condemned polygamists of his time because it was the norm.

Toks2008:


So how will you answer the question I asked?

Dfinex:


firstly i may not be able to answer question number one because it's supposed to be personal choices which how ever we all know is majorly based on societal influences....however if we are to look at it without prejudice, do u marry a woman solely because she is single? are there no other attributes to judge from? are widowers also made to face this stigma (I chose to call it so) or is it an exclusive preserve for women?.....why are we having guys clamouring for polygamy while polyandry is frowned at?

secondly, need I inform u that as at today in Nigeria the population of men to women is in excess of 3million in favor of men (Google can help u). so my dear there is no scarcity of men as against what we are made to believe .

if a widow or a single woman decides to become a second wife it should be based on personal conviction and not because the society says there is a dearth of men

cococandy:
An avenue for justification of randiness. That's what this thread is.

More and more of you will end up like that man who died recently from hot water bath by his wife. And I won't waste my RIPs on you.

Pretending like you care about the widows' plight when you're just looking for extra Pusey to fvck.

If you're so touched so much, look for suffering families to help. Not this silly charade. Like any of you would ever do something for someone if there's nothing to gain from it.

Stupid.

Thecassanova:
Nice topic Op, man has a shortlife span. For Eg We lost more able men soldiers to terrorism every year. What should happen to their young widowed wives back at home? And also other women who are in the 30's seriously searching for life partners.

The more we realise the shortage of single men and put doctrines asides the better for us.

Buh looking at the other angle how does doctrines of one man one woman crub the society of single women when clearly the supply of single women clearly exceed the single men around To me it wouldn't be fair allowing these women to remain single for the rest of their lives.

Sometimes I doubt if some doctrines are really inspired that's why I believe when they say "They teach doctrines commanded my men".

Our ancestors never felt this cos most had 3,4 wives and then everything was balance. Our grandma, great grandma married below 20 even has 3rd wife, so it was hard seeing a single lady at 22yrs.

This is so deep. As long as I hate polygamy, I feel for our generation and the next.
It has already being stated;
Isaiah 4:1
“And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel: only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.”

Nma27:
Thank God you know how deep it is.

Toks2008:
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zomoears:
Interesting and insightful topic.

1. I personally believe the bible does not expressly forbid polygamy. Counter me with a direct quote, not an advisory.
2. A man was designed by the creator to have multiple partners. Women have monthly cycles and can only conceive for a few days in a month, meaning they are the regulated gender. Men on the other hand are 'kick and start', and can get erect at any time,impregnate at any time, etc.
3. Women in circumstances need men in their lives too. Naturally,mostly married guys with experience in managing womenfolk can handle these women of circumstances I.e widows,single mothers and women over 40. Single matured minded guys can too, but they are mostly pressured by society to go for fresh punany. So who will service these other women?
4.[b] I once sat with an elderly man of cloth, and his opinion on widows was quite interesting. He suggested that sleeping with widows was almost like doing society a favor. This, he said, was especially true for widows who cannot re marry cos of either number of kids they already have, or they want to avoid complications of d african society(place of burial, etc). He thinks these women should not be allowed to burn with passion, but can maintain respectable sexual relationships.

[/b]Need to pause at this point.

vedah:
No!

I wouldn't agree she settles for a man who's already married. Trust me, there are single men who'll still ask for her hand in marriage.

That said, I'm not in any position to tell her how she runs her life, if she feels okay to marry this man, why not? I'll give her my support. Its all about her happiness.

DatesAndMeals:

I like the way one commenter said, mingling well is the key, I will say mingling correctly, positioning your self well as a lady or even man in such shoes and making urself an asset will make u get married not just to single men but to enviable single men. Which single man wants to marry a woman who is not bringing enough income for she and the children she already is responsible for?
We see artresses everyday and in every country marrying their third or fourth husbands, you think its because they are artists? Don't we see single old artists who never get married. Too many taboos is also our problem in Nigeria. We will not patronize paid and credible dating sites, will not patronize match makers. We will stay in our room and be sad praying and fasting.
I am not just yarning, before I started match making as a business, I had previously patronized one and done online dating, as I once under went a divorce and know what I am talking about. Now I am not only married to a single, handsome young man who has never been married nor has kids, but I am truely happy. So like I said, if you want something, go and get it, prayer is good, but if that's the only thing u do about your marital desire, you must be waiting for the angels to marry you.

maasoap:

How many of this have you seen?

cococandy:
An avenue for justification of randiness. That's what this thread is.

More and more of you will end up like that man who died recently from hot water bath by his wife. And I won't waste my RIPs on you.

Pretending like you care about the widows' plight when you're just looking for extra Pusey to fvck.

If you're so touched so much, look for suffering families to help. Not this silly charade. Like any of you would ever do something for someone if there's nothing to gain from it.

Stupid.

emmasege:

One thing I know is that some open polygamists will make heaven while the secret ones (i.e. one wife at home but with girlfriend outside ) won't.

galantjoe:


You have summarised everything u said this bible quote. Polygamy is a way out for african. Very soon there will be social problem caused by unmarried ladies. They need men no matter what
My take is let some one who has ways and means to take the lead. Action is louder.