ArthurADM:
Truthfully and honestly, women lie alot about their personality most especially their age. I've seen worse... Pls advise them to be open...

Some have given birth in other states before coming to lagos.

techcloud:


And who made you a better judge?

The guy spoke the truth.

The foundation is faulty. She will continue to shock him. That's just the truth. Any girl that can keep such a very vital information from her future hubby isn't a wife material. Better late than sorry.

Op, I'm talking from experience. I forgave in my own case like on three different shockers too(including lie about age too, I also discovered this from her mum). She will continue to shock you guy.

Break up with her or live with the regrets for the rest of your life.

Be wise man. Life is too short to marry a problem

chinene1:


You've been hurt before and may have had some similar issues but that does not mean his case will be like yours. I can't understand how people just complicate matter. She lied about her age does not mean she will lie about everything else.
Anyway, at the end, it's for Op to decide.

Op, do you trust your taste in women? If yes then am sure you will know the right thing to do.

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Why are you are sounding like you are the lady in question?

Why did you lie to him about your age?

Old Cargo forming under-16!

Well we get all sorts of children commenting on nairaland nowadays. Am glad we are not mates and yes even if am not older than you in age which I find unlikely, am sure my level of reasoning is way above yours. That makes me old and proud!

P.S, am sure if you really apply yourself, you could sound matured. Just try.



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chinene1:


Ha, wait oh. Before you call off your wedding, I want to ask a simple question. Is she now older than you? If yes, does the age difference diminish your love?
When has age become a terminal or communicable disease. The issue is trust which I fully understand but like most people have said confront her and let her know the next time she lies you won't forgive her. Don't complicate your life and hers unnecessarily by backing out now. This woman is about to promise her life to you. She will be risking her life in the labour room to bring forth your children, she is signing up to make a home for you. She is shunning all others for you. Can't you consider that and forgive?
I can't understand how people say 'I love you' but attach unnecessary conditions to it. I though love was supposed to be forgiving, selfless, and without conditions? Thing it through please.

FortuneTeller:
The mum wants to spoil her daughter's marriage? Hmmm... It may be a test to see your temperament and to know if you truly love her daughter.

techcloud:


You just don't get it do you?

Truth is everybody lies, but when it comes to something you know might come out in the open in some not so distant future. It's just wise to come clean.

And if you truly love someone, you wouldn't lie consistently for good four years. In fact if you can lie to your man for four years without remorse, then I don't think there's anything you can't lie about with him.

I get your point though. But Op should know better. He's been with her and he knows her better than anyone. Make your decision man.

SexyNairalander:
you discovered her age and now want to back out, am sorry but were you in love with her age or with her just curious


you would have simply confronted her to hear from her. . .I dont support girl and their misbehavior buh you shouldn't judge her cos of that. . .you are the man here think before you take action


am out

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Just look at how "women" apply subtle pressure to goad a man into doing what he should not have done!

Sounds like Eve telling Adam in the Bible: Consider all l have done for you.... just ignore God and listen to me joor!
But when the man gets into poo, what does she say next: You should not have listen to me now, why do you call yourself a man sef, if you have to listen to a woman, ehn?

Look, STOP using all these "pressure points" on men, most men know it for what it is: PRESSURISING..
Kid or no kids, shun others or not, risk or riskier, she will make one damn troublesome home, built on LIES, for him.
That is not what we want for this young man, we want him to enjpy married life, not be beholden to a lying wife,.... worse that the Devil, of you ask me!



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And please dont come-back with the "victim narration" or the "you've been hurt before" tale!
Its all "pressure points" that dont sell anymore! Eyes don clear nowadays!

techcloud:


There are still good girls out there. No one is perfect yes, but common, any girl that can lie consistently for four good solid years to her future husband not boyfriend, not lover, her husband to be should be feared.

Yes, we have many better halfs in our compound.

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No, Mum just said it without knowing her daughter has been lying to her groom!
If she knew her daughter was lying about her age to her groom, she would dying keeping the same secret!

Now, dont try to sow doubt into his mind.
Mum was NOT testing him. She just blabbed innocently.
But God was on his side and wanted him to know what he was getting into! maybe the "prayer of his own Mum" did the magic for him.
How about that?


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chinene1:


For a girl to lie and keep up such a lie for 4 years, she must have been scared of losing him. If it's just for her getting married, am sure other guys approached her within the time and she could have left him for another. People sometimes do the wrong things when they are scared.
But ultimately it's his decision

sammyalways:
met her 4yrs ago and wedding is close. got the shocker of my life shez 4yrs older than what she told me. i am considering backing out as a result. coz if she cn do this to me i wonder whatelse she could be hidding. worse part is its her mum who told me. the girl in question has no idea i know. am so shocked.any help on what to do in regatds this latest discovery?

chinene1:


You've been hurt before and may have had some similar issues but that does not mean his case will be like yours. I can't understand how people just complicate matter. She lied about her age does not mean she will lie about everything else.
Anyway, at the end, it's for Op to decide.

Op, do you trust your taste in women? If yes then am sure you will know the right thing to do.

AngelSweetLips:
If she can lie about something as trivial as her age; you better take all your children for a DNA test because this lady will always lie to cover her ass.

sammyalways:
met her 4yrs ago and wedding is close. got the shocker of my life shez 4yrs older than what she told me. i am considering backing out as a result. coz if she cn do this to me i wonder whatelse she could be hidding. worse part is its her mum who told me. the girl in question has no idea i know. am so shocked.any help on what to do in regatds this latest discovery?

Ochillary:
she lied about her age that's something serious abeg.

obowunmi:


She won't stop lying to you. Why not just walk away.

I hate liars.

chinene1:


Ha, wait oh. Before you call off your wedding, I want to ask a simple question. Is she now older than you? If yes, does the age difference diminish your love?
When has age become a terminal or communicable disease. The issue is trust which I fully understand but like most people have said confront her and let her know the next time she lies you won't forgive her. Don't complicate your life and hers unnecessarily by backing out now. This woman is about to promise her life to you. She will be risking her life in the labour room to bring forth your children, she is signing up to make a home for you. She is shunning all others for you. Can't you consider that and forgive?
I can't understand how people say 'I love you' but attach unnecessary conditions to it. I though love was supposed to be forgiving, selfless, and without conditions? Thing it through please.

sammyalways:
met her 4yrs ago and wedding is close. got the shocker of my life shez 4yrs older than what she told me. i am considering backing out as a result. coz if she cn do this to me i wonder whatelse she could be hidding. worse part is its her mum who told me. the girl in question has no idea i know. am so shocked.any help on what to do in regatds this latest discovery?

dhardline:
Lies.... I hate lies .

Confront her anyway, If you really love her then I think you can go on with the wedding but let her

understand the damage the next lie might cause. Couples should be able to tell each other everything and both parties should learn how to be very understanding on issues.

Remember a lot of people have also lied about their ages just to get jobs so before you cast that stone make a deep search of yourself too.

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Cheesux Christ!




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