Why the emphasis on who she married, must you tell us it's a "young Igbo man,?"
just tell us she remarried, that is all .

chineloSA:


I hear you, its also not guaranteed that cutting your losses will bring better prospects. I have seen seperation works in a lot of cases, but in some cases it doesn't work.
Marrying again does not guarantee better prospects, its a matter of trying.

I also don't agree with violence on women and nursing mothers. The man was wrong from all angles.

I wish her well

Thanks for being polite in your responses and taking the time to explain your position. I do apologize for my initial reaction.

ephi123:


Loool

where can we meet? I love them from Belgium.

Nancy2016:


Thanks for being polite in your responses and taking the time to explain your position. I do apologize for my initial reaction.

Honestly, i didnt see anything impolite in what you said, dear. It was differences in views

Nancy2016:


Potential wife-beater. May no decent woman have the misfortune of marrying you.

You should learn a thing or two from what he just wrote down instead you decided to chose the ''Dumb Road''? SMH

chineloSA:


I hope you red my ensuing comment. I dont agree with abuse or violence, but I said that seperation for longer periods could have resolved issues.

Coming from a blended family, i can tell you that there will always be uneven distribution of love and resources. More especially once this men start producing his children with the women. Unless they are rich. In the event where there is limited resources, women/men normally start singing a different tune, passing the buck of financial responsibility to the childrens biological father.

Yes a woman or man can love someones child but can never love them more than she/he would love her/his children if he/she had children. There will always be imbalance and disagreements and complaints on distributing the resources.

Example, If a man doesnt agree to buying a child an iphone 7 before they are say 18, but the woman feels that its no big deal. She will only think that its because its not his biological children, if it was his children, probably he would have agreed, even if its not the case.

Being from a blended family setting, and having experienced it, I am not for it, unless one partner is dead. Blended families are not ideal and easy.

If I was her, I was going to date but not marry yet until my kids are of legal age.

Once again one you have kids, its not always about you, the welfare of your children should come first.

I wish her well though.

Hmmmm!! I have always known you work in a social welfare office.

Nelo durlling , it haf tay wey you dun dey advice all these shudren oh .

bankyblue:
make i read first

Hello,are you married now?

tempex88:
I read the way this Lady was celebrated on Lindaikeji and i totally do not think it is worth the Hype.
As much as am happy with her on her new found love, what we should preach and encourage is resolution not walking away.
Walking away should be last option. When one does walk away, it is not something worth celebrating when he/she chooses to settle with another partner.

Give that Advice to ur sister.

What a beauty. Imagine her wasting away with a stupid man all in the name of not wanting to work out. No marriage is worth anybody life. Congrats, i hope ur ex hugs transformer!

iamloyalty:


Give that Advice to ur sister.

You need to understand that there is freedom of speech, and everyone won't speak from the point of view. No matter what you think of someone's opinion, it remains his/her opinion and must be respected. If you choose to remain single, heaven will not fall. Don't advise those already in marriage to quit, just on account of "abusive marriage" you can't explain.

iamloyalty:
What a beauty. Imagine her wasting away with a stupid man all in the name of not wanting to work out. No marriage is worth anybody life. Congrats, i hope ur ex hugs transformer!

The pains have already grown to your bones. Sorry!

Fedayeen02:
where can we meet? I love them from Belgium.

Somewhere in Mars or Pluto

Truckpusher:
You should learn a thing or two from what he just wrote down instead you decided to chose the ''Dumb Road''? SMH

From your screen name I can see your level of education. Both of you are Tweedledee and Tweedledum.

Excellentmind:

The pains have already grown to your bones. Sorry!

He pain am!

ephi123:


Somewhere in Mars or Pluto

So far off. How come you broke space record before Russia and USA


Are you from Daulung's United States of Nigeria?

[quote author=tempex88 post=52887139]I read the way this Lady was celebrated on Lindaikeji and i totally do not think it is worth the Hype.
As much as am happy with her on her new found love, what we should preach and encourage is resolution not walking away.
Walking away should be last option. When one does walk away, it is not something worth celebrating when he/she chooses to settle with another partner
[/quote
Walking away should be the last option? Really, until the Man kills her one day by mistake or intentionally, please this life is just one, there won't be a resolution to talk about again when he sends her to heaven or hell, anyone she deserves at the end

Excellentmind:


You need to understand that there is freedom of speech, and everyone won't speak from the point of view. No matter what you think of someone's opinion, it remains his/her opinion and must be respected. If you choose to remain single, heaven will not fall. Don't advise those already in marriage to quit, just on account of "abusive marriage" you can't explain.

Then dont condem another person decision to walk out cos u aren't "in the person shoes"

Nancy2016:


From your screen name I can see your level of education. Both of you are Tweedledee and Tweedledum.

I dey laugh you eh.

I've decimated your type here in this forum - Look at who is talking about one's level of education by merely looking at a handle. I wonder the manner of education you've got to know the true identity of someone through his handle - You were probably educated by aliens from planet Nibiru.

chineloSA:


I agree with him that she should have tried to make it work. Even opt for seperation for a long time. Particularly since their bone of discontent was abuse. But I don't agree with marrying for the second time for the sake of the children.

Just like one is always told to make it work for the sake of the children, on should avoid marrying for the second time for the sake of the children.

Blended families are very very difficult. Also who said she will have a perfect marriage again? If its not perfect to her standard, will she divorce again?

Madam, I pray you find yourself in an abusive marriage and I will then know if you will uphold this view of yours. It is easy to make up rules when we are not affected.

Everybody deserve to be happy abeg...

iamloyalty:


Then dont condem another person decision to walk out cos u aren't "in the person shoes"

Walking out is an acceptance of defeat! You girls will always shout abuse each time you try to control what you don't have and it's resisted.

Truckpusher:
Hmmmm!! I have always known you work in a social welfare office.

Nelo durlling , it haf tay wey you dun dey advice all these shudren oh .

I888:
Madam, I pray you find yourself in an abusive marriage and I will then know if you will uphold this view of yours. It is easy to make up rules when we are not affected.

Everybody deserve to be happy abeg...

I never said she was suppose to tolerate abuse. Nevertheless, our views differ, its normal

chineloSA:

Who's raffing with you

Excellentmind:




Walking out is an acceptance of defeat! You girls will always shout abuse each time you try to control what you don't have and it's resisted.

Defeat? Until he kills her one day. Better to accept defeat than an untimely death/ unhappy marriage. No untamed animal deserve to have a wife. Abeg sleep well jor make u fit go hustle tomorrow.

Fedayeen02:
So far off. How come you broke space record before Russia and USA


Are you from Daulung's United States of Nigeria?

Lol!!

ephi123:


Lol!!

I tend to like you from afar, you are one of those Nairalanders i secretly admire.

Your maturity and high sense of reasoning makes me wow about you

I believe you will be fun to chat with

Fedayeen02:
I tend to like you from afar, you are one of those Nairalanders i secretly admire.

Your maturity and high sense of reasoning makes me wow about you

I believe you will be fun to chat with

This your scope is not a small matter, but all the same thank you

ephi123:


This your scope is not a small matter, but all the same thank you

Scope kwa? I've been a visitor for long and I know those ladies that i tend to gbadun their post.


You ve been everywhere but nowhere. Can we talk on whatsapp.

2romantic:
what an interesting end for her. Her ex will be so so bitter Now. God bless their union

This your reasoning is dumb and wack

Do you think her ex even cares? For all we know the man could be chilling with a very beautiful and loyal woman giving him a warm massage.

He has his life to live, business to attend to. And money to make not spying on an old woman who had no choice than to run to a sugarboy

I love this thread..

May she always be happy.

Fedayeen02:
Scope kwa? I've been a visitor for long and I know those ladies that i tend to gbadun their post.


You ve been everywhere but nowhere. Can we talk on whatsapp.

I hear you!
You've tried but I don't chat, all my comms stay on Nairaland

ephi123:


I hear you!
You've tried but I don't chat, all my comms stay on Nairaland

O gini di. Haba


You ll be the first person I'm asking and you turned me down


This is real broken heart in play