Omg! What a sad sad story! I hope the woman is happy to see his end and that of everything good ! Everything is time... I just pity her old age! I hope her fast friends can give her the solace she needs now and always! Ndi Ara!

crackhaus:
Unfortunately these are the kind of men people like Ujoan and her Nairaland sisters like as a husband.
The type that will wash their bra and panties without complain, cook in the kitchen while they go make their hair and nails at the salon, and listen to all they tell them because the voice of a wife is the voice of God.

Thank heavens there are still men like myself around these parts, the woman that will make rules for me or determine who does what or when in our home, hasn't been born yet.
I will end her before she ends me.

Oga , your gragra too much! I just pray you don't get saddled with Delilah's fierced sister. All this your "will break her bones" talk will ebb without struggle. It is well...may God bless us with good people.

balash:




My brother! The man in question wasn't stupid, u could see how he took up his girls teacher issues, he would simply be tryin to keep the marriage cox of the kids and praying she changes for good. At least the marriage was for better for worse, but it was clear the man in question loves his wife wholeheartedly

Abi o...staunch Catholics would rather die in a marriage than divorce. Besides his heart was down for her..what a calamity that was!

Likely fiction

crackhaus:
Unfortunately these are the kind of men people like Ujoan and her Nairaland sisters like as a husband.
The type that will wash their bra and panties without complain, cook in the kitchen while they go make their hair and nails at the salon, and listen to all they tell them because the voice of a wife is the voice of God.

Thank heavens there are still men like myself around these parts, the woman that will make rules for me or determine who does what or when in our home, hasn't been born yet.
I will end her before she ends me.

You are just displaying your imaturity. Ask the OP, it's not by gra gra or hard man.

And in any case who's talking of making rules. . . . Taking counsel from someone and being ruled are two very different things.

You see why I said it's way beyond your comprehension?

raumdeuter:
Likely fiction

Nah i would classify this as Porn, especially to Feminazis

The man brought it on himself. When you have kids it's not just about you anymore. . . Look how his sons wasted their lives out of bad influence from a woman he made their mother. They didn't chose their mother, but he chose his wife and also reserved the right to walk out. But he chose to stay and ruined his life and that of his kids.

Too bad!

Ujoan:


You are just displaying your imaturity. Ask the OP, it's not by gra gra or hard man.

And in any case who's talking of making rules. . . . Taking counsel from someone and being ruled are two very different things.

You see why I said it's way beyond your comprehension?

The person wey de do like that man, na him don mature? abeg, the man messed up. Objectively, what defines maturity and how does it really translate to this without eliciting any doubt about his sanity.

pcguru1:


Nah i would classify this as Porn, especially to Feminazis

hahaha. dominatrix aka femdom. I heard and read about that before. so it really happens.

Ujoan:
The man brought it on himself. When you have kids it's not just about you anymore. . . Look how his sons wasted their lives out of bad influence from a woman he made their mother. They didn't chose their mother, but he chose his wife and also reserved the right to walk out. But he chose to stay and ruined his life and that of his kids.

Too bad!

Some people take "Till death do us apart " too seriously

krauss:
The person wey de do like that man, na him don mature? abeg, the man messed up. Objectively, what defines maturity and how does it really translate to this without eliciting any doubt about his sanity.

I agree with you. . . . I was referring to our conversation from another thread.

pcguru1:


Some people take "Till death do us apart " too seriously

Or maybe he was just a coward

Ujoan:

Or maybe he was just a coward

on the contrary some will see his staying in the tough marriage as being courageous and leaving as being a coward, i guess it's matter of perspective.

pcguru1:


on the contrary some will see his staying in the tough marriage as being courageous and leaving as being a coward, i guess it's matter of perspective.

You are underestimating the courage it takes to walk out and damn the consequences. Why else do people stay in abusive relationships if not for the fear and shame of being labelled a failure?

Ujoan:


You are underestimating the courage it takes to walk out and damn the consequences. Why else do people stay in abusive relationships if not for the fear and shame of being labelled a failure?

Actually i get your point, but for the sake of playing's Devil's Advocate let me just pretend i don't.

it's more easier to walk away from something than to stay when it's rough, However the bold part is mostly attributed to us in Nigeria as in the western world, the whole hassle of alimony, and taking away of the child is why so many frustrated husbands don't even attempt it. Come to reddit and check MTGOW and RedPillers (am not one btw), you will see so many men afraid to divorce due to the financial impact, it would be unfair to call them cowards, am even friends with one sef and mehn the consequences are severe. in Nigeria we focus too much on what people think, because ideally it should be easier to walk away in Nigeria compared to western countries, but because he's a staunch catholic i guess he wanted to stick it till the end. so in short words.... RELIGION is the culprit behind all this B.S

pcguru1:


Actually i get your point, but for the sake of playing's Devil's Advocate let me just pretend i don't.

it's more easier to walk away from something than to stay when it's rough, However the bold part is mostly attributed to us in Nigeria as in the western world, the whole hassle of alimony, and taking away of the child is why so many frustrated husbands don't even attempt it. Come to reddit and check MTGOW and RedPillers (am not one btw), you will see so many men afraid to divorce due to the financial impact, it would be unfair to call them cowards, am even friends with one sef and mehn the consequences are severe. in Nigeria we focus too much on what people think, because ideally it should be easier to walk away in Nigeria compared to western countries, but because he's a staunch catholic i guess he wanted to stick it till the end. so in short words.... RELIGION is the culprit behind all this B.S

I agree. . . . To disagree.

Bullshiiit story. Nobody is that silly especially when he earns an income. And no, i don't believe in jazz. Therefore the story was made up just to draw attention to men abuse.
Yes, some men are being abused but not to this extent. It's toyboys and gold digging men that mainly receive abuses. Any man who doesn't fall into this group and allows himself become a lackey should be castrated and banished from civilization.

I almost cried reading this article. Poor man. May his soul rest in peace. To be sincere this type of cases are rare.

Ujoan:


I agree. . . . To disagree.

Catalin:
I almost cried reading this article. Poor man. May his soul rest in peace. To be sincere this type of cases are rare.

Cases like this 'rare' because men don't have support system for them by most institutions therefore they will not be reported as they will be seen as losers/weak esp like the comment before yours, doesn't mean they don't happen, just like men who get raped don't report it, they just represses it all up and drink some 40%+ alcohol and listen to some sad songs.

pcguru1:


Actually i get your point, but for the sake of playing's Devil's Advocate let me just pretend i don't.

it's more easier to walk away from something than to stay when it's rough, However the bold part is mostly attributed to us in Nigeria as in the western world, the whole hassle of alimony, and taking away of the child is why so many frustrated husbands don't even attempt it. Come to reddit and check MTGOW and RedPillers (am not one btw), you will see so many men afraid to divorce due to the financial impact, it would be unfair to call them cowards, am even friends with one sef and mehn the consequences are severe. in Nigeria we focus too much on what people think, because ideally it should be easier to walk away in Nigeria compared to western countries, but because he's a staunch catholic i guess he wanted to stick it till the end. so in short words.... RELIGION is the culprit behind all this B.S

My man, alimony or no alimony, some are just too naive and..... make i no talk am. btw, the concept of prenups also attenuate alimony. Also, there are so many people who don't even pay the money designated to them. so many I mean. Again, there are so many ways to circumvent this process. e.g liquidating your assets and transferring them out to other states or countries. Just find someone who is smart as a lawyer. One thing they don't also tell you is, the richer you are, the likelier it is to reduce the penalties or even possibly remove any penalty accruable. Check the recently concluded johnny depp vs amber heard divorce case and how much she got(8 million USD out of more than 400million USD fortune). Tiger woods was just willing to allow ex-wife that much because he taught, well I bleeped up a lot and yep, she gat my kids.

krauss:
My man, alimony or no alimony, some are just too naive and..... make i no talk am. btw, the concept of prenups also attenuate alimony. Also, there are so many people who don't even pay the money designated to them. so many I mean. Again, there are so many way to circumvent this. e.g liquidating your assets and transferring them out to other states or countries. Just find someone who is smart as a lawyer. One thing they don't also tell you is, the richer you are, the likelier it is to reduce the penalties or even possibly remove any penalty possibly. Check the recently concluded johnny depp vs amber heard divorce and how much she got(8 million USD out of more than 400million USD fortune). Tiger woods was just willing to allow ex-wife that much because he taught, well I bleeped up a lot and yep, she gat my kids.

true.

yeah i get though however Murder is still the cheapest option so far (forgive my dark humour)

As for the last part, sorry to hear that same thing happened to my step-dad, she got the kids and the kids don't even check up on their dad, i can see it in his eyes especially when his daughter got engaged to a guy and she didn't inform him till she sent the guy's family to meet my/her dad for introduction, I hope you and kids don't have that. all the best

pcguru1:


Cases like this 'rare' because men don't have support system for them by most institutions therefore they will not be reported as they will be seen as losers/weak esp like the comment before yours, doesn't mean they don't happen, just like men who get raped don't report it, they just represses it all up and drink some 40%+ alcohol and listen to some sad songs.

Men say they enjoy when women rape them

Catalin:
Men say they enjoy when women rape them

Nobody enjoys rape. However they make male rape a comedic value and female rape a sensitive issue. Though I know some guys like sticking weird objects in there. a girl once initiated to stick a Love Machine into me I guess am not that open to some ideas

pcguru1:


true.

yeah i get though however Murder is still the cheapest option so far (forgive my dark humour)

As for the last part, sorry to hear that same thing happened to my step-dad, she got the kids and the kids don't even check up on their dad, i can see it in his eyes especially when his daughter got engaged to a guy and she didn't inform him till she sent the guy's family to meet my/her dad for introduction, I hope you and kids don't have that. all the best

Hey, nope man. That ain't me, I reject it. I said tiger woods. abeg, repeat after me, it shall not be krauss's portion, abeg talk am.

krauss:
Hey, nope man. That ain't me, reject it. I said tiger woods. abeg, repeat after me, it shall not krauss's portion, abeg talk am.

Sorry I read it as you. Amen o

pcguru1:


Sorry I read it as you. Amen o

Good, brother. Not your portion too. We cool there?

pcguru1:


Nobody enjoys rape. However they make male rape a comedic value and female rape a sensitive issue. Though I know some guys like sticking weird objects in there. a girl once initiated to stick a Love Machine into me I guess am not that open to some ideas

Hahahaa

JeffreyJamez:


Because it's a man it's fake ba

I wonder o

Ishilove:

I wonder o

Truth be told,there are many men in abusive marriages,but they can't talk because no one will take them seriously.Just like Male rape cases.

JeffreyJamez:


Truth be told,there are many men in abusive marriages,but they can't talk because no one will take them seriously.Just like Male rape cases.

it depends raped by men or raped by women ?

pcguru1:


it depends raped by men or raped by women ?

Raped by women