My first love and ex of 9years relationship wants me back after refusing to pick my calls and communicating with me for four months. He has done it before and it all started when he got a job with one of the leading financial institution. This time he said he is serious and ready for marriage and still love me and cannot do without me. However i am in a relationship with someone who loves me so much but am still tryin to love as much he loves me. he is a young graduate and still serving and would love to marry next year but uncertain. What do i do? am scared of investing in this relationship like i did for the the other of 9years. What if he makes his money and start misbehaving too. I am not gettin any younger infact i am overdue for marriage.

This life is all about taking risks. Pray for God's guidance and then make a decision. However u know these people better than us. U know how much the 1st loved u n u can compare wit the other so still the choice is urs.

Keyshia42:

My first love and ex of 9years relationship wants me back after refusing to pick my calls and communicating with me for four months. He has done it before and it all started when he got a job with one of the leading financial institution. This time he said he is serious and ready for marriage and still love me and cannot do without me. However i am in a relationship with someone who loves me so much but am still tryin to love as much he loves me. he is a young graduate and still serving and would love to marry next year but uncertain. What do i do? am scared of investing in this relationship like i did for the the other of 9years. What if he makes his money and start misbehaving too. I am not gettin any younger infact i am overdue for marriage.

U are overdue for marriage?
and u're dating a guy who's still serving.
Be prepared to wait a while for him to acquire some basic things before he can think of getting married.

Keyshia42:

My first love and ex of 9years relationship wants me back after refusing to pick my calls and communicating with me for four months. He has done it before and it all started when he got a job with one of the leading financial institution. This time he said he is serious and ready for marriage and still love me and cannot do without me. However i am in a relationship with someone who loves me so much but am still tryin to love as much he loves me. he is a young graduate and still serving and would love to marry next year but uncertain. What do i do? am scared of investing in this relationship like i did for the the other of 9years. What if he makes his money and start misbehaving too. I am not gettin any younger infact i am overdue for marriage.

Roflmao hey poster, no one can answer this your question. you have the answer within
yourself. look truly into your heart, and you will find your answer.

@poster
the fact that you are desperate (overdue) is the reason why you are confused.

the first guy left you when he got a better life AND after you stuck with him for 9yrs. he just blocked you out, what kind of silly man is that? and you still thinking of giving him a chance?! oh lawd!

the second one you dont really love because if you did, you would have never considered the first guy who dumped you like a bag of crisp and, even further, you wouldnt have post this thread.

so i should tell you that none of them is good and you should look elsewhere for the right guy not the next available one.

BUT since you are desperate i guess any of these two are the perfect candidate.

@Poster,
You have two men and at the same time, nothing.
Desperation can only lead to a road full of regrets.
In my own honest opinon, according to what you've said, none of these guys are ready to marry you.
The new guy still has a long way to go and by the time he gets to his feet, you'll be an old chapter to him.
Your ex-boyfriend's intentions are still uncertain. He could be serious or he just wants to tap some a*ss.
Guys do that. You just have to be careful, since you're running out of time like you said. Look before you leap.
All that glitters are not gold.

my dear pray. i too i have such issue. let me help a little bit. if u are christian read songs of Solomon 1vs1-3,psalm 133,and psalm 24.read them 7times each,and pray Ur heart to God.read daily,and God will surprise u

hmmm you can go back to him but be careful

ichommy:

hmmm you can go back to him but be careful

Go back to him? u want the idiot to take advantage of her ass? pls poster dnt go back to that useless guy, Search within urself if u can love this new guy.
BTW, sorry for asking,how old r u sef dat u r saying u r long overdue for marriage? (no offense intended) .dnt be in a hurry so as not to regret later ,remember, 10broken relationship is better than a broken marriage, If the new guy looks serious,give him a chance

thanks y ' all for ur response both constructive and otherwise. I knw its for the better, keep u posted of development but right now am sticking to the new guy and lets see how dis play for me.

Do not allow desperation to lead you into making a wrong choice/decision!

Keyshia42:

My first love and ex of 9years relationship wants me back after refusing to pick my calls and communicating with me for four months. He has done it before and it all started when he got a job with one of the leading financial institution. This time he said he is serious and ready for marriage and still love me and cannot do without me. However i am in a relationship with someone who loves me so much but am still tryin to love as much he loves me. he is a young graduate and still serving and would love to marry next year but uncertain. What do i do? am scared of investing in this relationship like i did for the the other of 9years. What if he makes his money and start misbehaving too. I am not gettin any younger infact i am overdue for marriage.

Make your own money and stop looking for whom to live off

Go back to your "old school", You know you want to.

The first guy just wants to hit that spot one more time, TRUST ME!weak ex-es are fun to play with unfortunately!!if you continue like this,the second will definitely leave u when things get better because i am sure he knows u r not committed

Easy, i say marry your ex. . .

go back 2 dem i u losin anytin

@h2oozone

h2oozone:

go back 2 dem i u losin anytin

true i am not losin anythin but i will loose everything as time goes on.

@Macgreat

Easy, i say marry your ex. . .

i will think abt dat but, i do not think its the best and only option

POSTER  DONT BE TOO DESPERATE your TIME WILL DEFINATELY COME, FROM your POST I THINK U SHOULD STAY WITH D NEW GUY, your EX IS NOT SERIOUS HE HIS PLAYING GAMES WITH U. BE DEDICATED TO your NEW GUY AND PRAY.

I SAID I WILL KEEP U UPDATED, WELL THIS IS THE NEW UPDATE

i am almost loosing it in the relationship with the young graduate. Did i mention he is the last born and the only boy and so his family still treat him like a child, his big cousin' talk to him like he is not grown up and all. The pros is dat i am caught in this web and they tend to deal with me in thesame vain even though i see myself as an independent woman. I am thru with school and working and i have never dated any one this young in my entire life. Its bothering me i need ur advise on this.(i dont wanna break his heart or he wont love again and probably take it out on another woman)

Keyshia42:
I SAID I WILL KEEP U UPDATED, WELL THIS IS THE NEW UPDATE

i am almost loosing it in the relationship with the young graduate. Did i mention he is the last born and the only boy and so his family still treat him like a child, his big cousin' talk to him like he is not grown up and all. The pros is dat i am caught in this web and they tend to deal with me in thesame vain even though i see myself as an independent woman. I am thru with school and working and i have never dated any one this young in my entire life. Its bothering me i need ur advise on this.(i dont wanna break his heart or he wont love again and probably take it out on another woman)

You are on your own.