I am hurting so much as I type this, my story is long but I will try and make it short.

She was posted to the north, I spent a lot of money to have her relocated back to Lagos but it didn’t work instead she got Oyo state where we didn’t know anyone, getting an accommodation was hard because she refused to get a cheap one and I didn’t have the money for an expensive one so she decided to squat with this dude who she claims is just a friend until I can raise moneu to get her an apartment, Bella that’s where my trouble began.

Anytime I call her at night she doesn’t pick, whenever she picks she says she can’t talk she’s tired; when I chat her on whatsApp she says its late and wants to sleep but she would remain online for hours, when I call her on whatsApp it would say user on another call, my heart is aching.

I asked her why she’s always online she says she isn’t that the guy was using her phone to call and chat on whatsApp, when I tell her on phone I love her she won’t say it back, claiming she can be talking about love when she’s staying with someone so the guy won’t be offended, they sleep together in the same room but she claims she sleeps on the bed.

She’s always uploading pictures of her going out with the guy in his car having fun, when I ask her she says it’s nothing that the guy likes to go out when he comes back from work and doesn’t like to leave her at home, she says if I don’t trust her I can come visit her that the dude knows about us and he’s really friendly, I only spoke to the guy once and thanked him for harboring my woman.

Two weeks ago I got angry and have refused to call her and she hasn’t called me back since then, I don’t feel good, I love her how do I get my girlfriend back?



Anonymous.




Relocating to a new place can sometimes be strenuous and have a toll on relationships doesn’t necessarily means your girlfriend is cheating; I am saying this from experience.


I was currently in this position and it put a strain on my work and my relationship also, my routine was changed, I was in a strange land where I knew no one, I barely spoke to my family because I was trying to settle in.


You need wisdom to tackle this, getting angry will not solve this, ending communications with her will only worsen things, she says you can come visit have you tried that? She might really not feel comfortable talking to you while the guy is there; you should try and find out why.


Like I say in all my write-ups love isn’t about money, money is just a criterion that spices up love, love is about sacrifice and compromise, you need to sit down with her and have a long talk, she needs to get a cheap apartment, it’s just for ten months and NYSC is over and if she refuses maybe it’s time to take a walk, don’t give up so soon, people get carried away sometimes, you need to fight for what’s yours and from your email I can tell you really love this girl, why not give her another chance, call her, try to know how she’s coping, tell her you would like to visit her and know the next step forward and get back to me on her response.


Talk2Bella

http://www.talk2bella.com/2017/02/my-girlfriend-went-for-nysc-and.html

Ok

Bella! don't get me angry with you!


So u want to tell me now that if the roles were swapped and it was d guy in the lady's shoes and she was the one worrying, would u have advised same? How can a male and female sleep on the same bed without fvcking each other? Who just does that..

gay alert

From the look of things, you sure still have her...

But bartered and panel beaten like hell by the guy who is only doing the work ordinarily you can't do from a distance...

the op and Toto issue are 5 & 6.

Ur babe didn't go for Nysc, she went for Big Brother Oyo since she's squatting with a guy in oyo. Just wait for this edition of Big brother oyo to finish so she can come back to you that's if she doesn't get preggy b4 then. Adios

dingbang:
Bella! don't get me angry with you!


So u want to tell me now that if the roles were swapped and it was d guy in the lady's shoes and she was the one worrying, would u have advised same? How can a male and female sleep on the same bed without fvcking each other? Who just does that..

a man and a woman can sleep on the same bed without doing the do lool

lofty900:
Ur babe didn't go for Nysc, she went for Big Brother Oyo since she's squatting with a guy in oyo. Just wait for this edition of Big brother oyo to finish so she can come back to you that's if she doesn't get preggy b4 then. Adios

you're mean loool

Dude, just go and get another girl even though u claim to her because that girl is a goner but dont worry she will soon realise her mistakes

Talk2Bella:


a man and a woman can sleep on the same bed without doing the do lool

so they say.. Are u there watching them?

Guys and gals are naturally not meant to cohabit unless they want to get intimate. That was a costly mistake on his part.

Talk2Bella:


you're mean loool

your words "you need to fight for what is yours"

if she is really his he doesn't need to fight for her. who does that these days with so many girls out there?

Talk2Bella:


you're mean loool

yeah it's true.

Buhari sef... guys can no longer free cash for treasure. bellas advise, go n see if u can shine her puna on d same bed she's been using this suspected screwdriver... Chic's aren't loyal

I hope u will be ready to do d needful when confirm ur suspicions.
she can't find a fellow girl to squat with and family houses no dey? all of una na lai Mohammed siblings

Talk2Bella:


Relocating to a new place can sometimes be strenuous and have a toll on relationships doesn’t necessarily means your girlfriend is cheating; I am saying this from experience.


I was currently in this position and it put a strain on my work and my relationship also, my routine was changed, I was in a strange land where I knew no one, I barely spoke to my family because I was trying to settle in.


You need wisdom to tackle this, getting angry will not solve this, ending communications with her will only worsen things, she says you can come visit have you tried that? She might really not feel comfortable talking to you while the guy is there; you should try and find out why.


Like I say in all my write-ups love isn’t about money, money is just a criterion that spices up love, love is about sacrifice and compromise, you need to sit down with her and have a long talk, she needs to get a cheap apartment, it’s just for ten months and NYSC is over and if she refuses maybe it’s time to take a walk, don’t give up so soon, people get carried away sometimes, you need to fight for what’s yours and from your email I can tell you really love this girl, why not give her another chance, call her, try to know how she’s coping, tell her you would like to visit her and know the next step forward and get back to me on her response.


Talk2Bella

http://www.talk2bella.com/2017/02/my-girlfriend-went-for-nysc-and.html

How can you give this sort of advice? So the girl is stressed out to talk to her man but she always hangs out with another guy and even has the time and energy to chat and call others?

Why shouldn't she be comfortable talking to her man when the guy is there? Doesn't the guy know that they are dating? Haven't they established the fact that they are in a relationship to the knowledge of the guy? What sort of silly excuse is that?

No offense but your advice is rubbish.

Looke:


How can you give this sort of advice? So the girl is stressed out to talk to her man but she hangs out with other men and even has the time and energy to chat and call others?

Why shouldn't she be comfortable talking for to her man when the guy is there? Doesn't the guy know that they are dating? Haven't they established the fact that they are in a relationship to the knowledge of the guy? What sort of silly excuse is that?

No offense but your advice is rubbish.

other men?

Abeg, tell this guy the truth na. The lady is receiving a stronger rod from the guy she's squatting with and that's reason resetting her brain

Talk2Bella:

other men?

Another guy. Reread my post.

Mehn.. As a youth corper she would be given a lodge like other corpers.. If she doesn't like the lodge she can collaborate with another female corper and rent a house together.
The first mistake you made was allowing your gf move in with a guy.. You claim you guys didn't know anybody in oyo so how come she knew this guy When and how? It's sad to think that you being a guy its taking full responsibilities of a girl you haven't married.. Why didn't her family help complete the money for house rent.. Bro!! Look how you played yourself... Tho!! The facts of this story dont add up I'll take it that the op was trying to make it short that's why.

Ahhhh Bros please don't heed to the op's advice...it is crystal clear your so-called gurl is getting d D from the guy....

There are a million and one male corpers out there the guy would have help buh hey he need a fvvvck mate n ur gurl appeared out of d blue...

Sorry brOoo....start searching for a new gurl ASAP!!!!

This Op will just be talking like someone having brain fart, this is the 2nd post in as many days where I'm reading your dumb advice.

Berbierklaus:
I think she is sleeping with him but in love with you?

What do I know

Women!!...twalley...4 u nah... who knows u maybe a good girl but....

This dude needs a brain.... Somebody pls borrow him yuh brain.... yuh chick b squatting wiv a dude u don't knw,nigga u just gave her away,n now she acting up n yuh surprised if only she rly cared she wouldn't v gone to live wiv him in d first place...she cld v jst managed a cheaper apartment abi no b service she come...

She don go be say she don go. Find another woman.

See Yeye advice from OP.

The Fact is she's not into U again, as all her excuses proves it. Some mumu guy still dey like this sha. Issokay Issokay.

The girl too they experience change as per the country dey experience change.

*detonates bomb on thread*













waste of mb with the silly advice she gave

Superstory! Next!

dingbang:
Bella! don't get me angry with you!


So u want to tell me now that if the roles were swapped and it was d guy in the lady's shoes and she was the one worrying, would u have advised same? How can a male and female sleep on the same bed without fvcking each other? Who just does that..

dnt mind dat tin calld bella.