What would you advice a child to say to his father who left him 15 years ago and is now back to seek forgiveness?

Did he completely leave the child?? As in no contacts?? Whatsoever! Well that's sad...

If the father asks for forgivness forgive him or her.

tell him you need 15 yrs to think about it

hot-angel:

Did he completely leave the child?? As in no contacts?? Whatsoever! Well that's sad...

If the father asks for forgivness forgive him or her.

U saying ds cos u dont knw how one feels wen it comes to that.Though,its nice to forgive,but b4 then,he go smell pepper.

timmy:

tell him you need 15 years to think about it

I love dt n dt's exactly wat i'm gonna do if my dad shd come come back.

i will tell him i love him
he might have a good reason to have left

after 15 yrs,i will show himthe way out of my heart.
indeed,i might even think of thinking bout it 4 15 yrs

timmy:

tell him you need 15 years to think about it

Correct guy.

Nothing...what da h..K?

As long as he coming back wid pails of dough! lol Now seriously, u dont know wat prompted his decision. i'm not saying he was right, but he could have been very young then, inexperienced, scared, poor, ,sometin like that.,.,and i'm sure he could have been loving u all the while he left u, and wishin he cld come back just like he's just done

your dad is your dad no matter what maybe circumstances forced him to leave, maybe not, but all the same do forgive him what matters most is the fact that he's back!!

timmy:

tell him you need 15 years to think about it

what if he's gone by then,dead!!! how would you feel knowing you didnt forgive him before he died, how would you feel that you didnt get to tell him you loved him?
IT WOULD ALL BE TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO LATE BY THEN he would be goneeeeee

To y'all pips talking crap bout waiting for 15years to forgive your dad, i betchu change ur minds wen u learn u in his will + A LUMP SUM

OMG! The same thing happened to me. Only it was 13 years. I NEVER forgave him and NEVER will. EVER! I despise him for leaving me, the first time we met, i said "hi".

Ask him why he left you,
Ask him if he missed you
Ask him if he thought about you
Ask him if he's going to stay

Make him pay for leaving you,

Well done sa, nice muuv

retro:

OMG! The same thing happened to me. Only it was 13 years. I NEVER forgave him and NEVER will. EVER! I despise him for leaving me, the first time we met, i said "hi".

Ask him why he left you,
Ask him if he missed you
Ask him if he thought about you
Ask him if he's going to stay

Make him pay for leaving you,

please fellow nairalander,

how can I send a new post

where the hell have u been all these years

you see something yeah i think every man has a fault, he left you and dats wrong but you cant keep hating him for that! i think you should forgive him, for him to beg to come back that means he really cares about you! many kids dont even see their dad till they here he died, he probably cant forgive himself for leaving you! and ill say just spare him an extra burden by FORGIVING HIM! You should see it as those 15 YEARS were his loss not yours! Make up with him dear lifes too short to hold grudges!!

retro:

OMG! The same thing happened to me. Only it was 13 years. I NEVER forgave him and NEVER will. EVER! I despise him for leaving me, the first time we met, i said "hi".

Ask him why he left you,
Ask him if he missed you
Ask him if he thought about you
Ask him if he's going to stay

Make him pay for leaving you,

yea
i take back wat i said earlier
this is wat i'll do
cos this past few months i've come to realize more things

aiht girl i do hope evrything works out for you!! i wont say ive been in your shoes becuase my dad is well respected and hes in the public eye alot of times so i dnt want to say nuffin bout him bt i forgave him, it was hard bt i needed a dad my mum couldnt do both

Timmy was so right. Retro was on point too.
@Shawna-Great question

Personally; if the reason he left was a reason that I wouldn't tolerate then I wouldn't say anything. You lived without thinking of me so die that way. I know it may sound cruel but somehow I don't care. Life is hard without a father but if life with him would've been harder then I wouldn't start any relationship. You won't be at my graduation. You won't be at my wedding. You won't see my kids. I just dont want to know.

It depends on his reason. If his reason sounds so stupid to me, I will tell him he is forgiven but he should go and never try to contact me again. Chikena! One thing I believe is no matter the situation never you run away from your responsibilities.

I would say:

Soo the wonderer returns! or Look what the cat dragged in:

So he remembers me today abi, he should take himself back where he came from. I was doing just fine without him.

How about:

"I've got a brand new dad. Won't mind a spare around though, just in case"

whats that, ?

Whatever a child says/does to his/her father that abandoned him/her years or decades ago is his/her right! The fact remains that YOUR DAD IS YOUR DAD! If he has come back to his senses, all you need to do is to FORGIVE.

You should say: Hello stranger you got just fifteen year to catch with to be my daddy.So go one start the race
For real to forgive isnt that easy especially when you suffer'd a bunch because of his absence.
i would say listen to your heart for a while and do the most re-occuring suggetion.

Who knows if he is back for real anyway?

Is he coming back loaded or broke-ass? Lots of cash will go a long way to facilitate this reunion process.

he didn't leave u! he left ur mother!!
take ur time to forgive and make up for lost time.
he's back because he cares. u get to know him b4 u let ur guard down.
good luck

All the people who said forgive don't know what the F*UCK they are talking about.

Oh Daddy! Forget the fact that you rejected me, left me, didn't account for me, didn't support me, didn't communicate and didn't love me because I forgive you!

Oh Daddy! You're back! never mind that it's been 15 years of pain and self hate, loneliness and lack of paternal love, I forgive you!

Oh Daddy! Mum had a s*hit time doing your job and we felt the hardship but now you've come back everything's okay, we forgive you!

Give me a muthaf*ucking break.