Okay, first off, I'm an American women. & I know my culture is in some ways very different, some ways not so much... Like dating, same thing I believe everywhere. My issue is why doesn't he want me to wear make up, leave the house without telling him where I'm going, why is he always checking my phone, and when he introduces me to his family here I always have to stay close to him?? I have to talk on the phone to his mother every time he calls her even though his mother doesn't speak English well so we say the same things. (Not that I have a problem with his mother, she is a wonderful woman) It's like he's scared I'm going to run away.. He also keeps telling me I'm a white woman, in which I'm biracial so it gets on my nerves, because here I'm considered African American, but he doesn't care. When I tell him about himself he just tries to throw in my face about all these women that want him. Then he gets mad when I tell him to call them and tell them I personally said they can all fucking have him. I guess I should be concerned about him leaving but, I could really care less, besides every time I try to leave he gets all emotional and begs me to just marry him... I don't get it!!! I love him but, I'm not the one to just beg a man to stay or not to have relations with other women.. I don't care if he does, but I tell him if I find out I will drop all his shit off wherever he is and they can deal with his controlling ass! I just don't understand why he thinks he can do whatever he wants and I'm just suppose to go to work and stay home. I can't wear makeup around others because he says I'm already pretty and he doesn't want others to get any ideas about me, whatever that means. Oh and when I wear makeup anyways he calls me a witch. Wtf is that about?? Should I stay with this man and marry him or will it only get worse? So confused.

Work on your manners.

You can tell a lot about about a person's character/manners even from their write ups,and yours madam says it all.

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All You're saying in essence is for nairalanders romancelanders to clear your confusion abi? ?

and soo what

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Nawa o.

Yes, he keeps telling me about manners... I will try, But manners beside.. Are Yoruba men always controlling like this? Maybe it's just his personality and has nothing to do with where he's from. Idk just confused.

This is hard to believe

Control freaks are not limited to ethnicity. It is a function of temperament.

If you think Yoruba men are controlling then you haven't met Urhobo men. They are control freaks!

Gosh, I just can't deal abeg. Nothing like a control freak to bring out the worse in me

Ishilove:
Control freaks are not limited to ethnicity. It is a function of temperament.

If you think Yoruba men are controlling then you haven't met Urhobo men. They are control freaks!

Gosh, I just can't deal abeg. Nothing like a control freak to bring out the worse in me

Hmmmm.

BLeshea:
Yes, he keeps telling me about manners... I will try, But manners beside.. Are Yoruba men always controlling like this? Maybe it's just his personality and has nothing to do with where he's from. Idk just confused.

It is his personality. There are really sweet Yoruba men out there, although promiscuity is deeply ingrained in their DNA.

Oh damn it! Why the hell should he called you a witch, sure you don't look like one

Ishilove:
Control freaks are not limited to ethnicity. It is a function of temperament.

If you think Yoruba men are controlling then you haven't met Urhobo men. They are control freaks!

Gosh, I just can't deal abeg. Nothing like a control freak to bring out the worse in me

Contradiction

It sounds funny. Believe me, the dude is scared you might go away someday. Pardon me, but men like this are sometimes pushed to go to the extreme and then, things go awry. He needs orientation. Then, let him believe you love him.

But, please, if he doesn't change, call things off. The relationship could turn abusive.

HungerBAD:


Hmmmm.

Yes o. Urhobo men are the ultimate control freaks. There is one I almost had a thing with but it didn't work out because he is very bossy, arrogant, always telling me 'shut up', assumes he knows everything there is to know about me, can't take what he dishes and thinks I'm naive. He refuses to see that people have different opinions about an issue, and if an opinion doesn't conform with his, he labels you 'naive and inexperienced'. Mscheeeew.

That's the thing, I am very loyal. I do not cheat. I cook, clean, make sure everything is done and everything is fine until I want to go out with friends or anywhere without him. He gets angry checks my clothes, makes me change and then calls almost the whole time I'm out. But if I call him when he's out lol it's a problem. I'm just going to start turning my phone off. I just don't think he trust me, and it's really sad that he feels that way.

BLeshea:
That's the thing, I am very loyal. I do not cheat. I cook, clean, make sure everything is done and everything is fine until I want to go out with friends or anywhere without him. He gets angry checks my clothes, makes me change and then calls almost the whole time I'm out. But if I call him when he's out lol it's a problem. I'm just going to start turning my phone off. I just don't think he trust me, and it's really sad that he feels that way.

You can't change such a man. He will only get worse in marriage.

Sorry dear, but you can't continue in such an unhealthy relationship

miss american, there's something we Nigerians call #YorubaDemon. that's what you've got for yourself. enjoy your Yoruba demon.

bi0nics:


Contradiction

I know, but the satisfaction no be here

pweetixandy:
miss american, there's something we Nigerians call #YorubaDemon. that's what you've got for yourself. enjoy your Yoruba demon.

Esigbo demon. Njokata

Ishilove:

Yes o. Urhobo men are the ultimate control freaks. There is one I almost had a thing with but it didn't work out because he is very bossy, arrogant, always telling me 'shut up', assumes he knows everything there is to know about me, can't take what he dishes and thinks I'm naive. He refuses to see that people have different opinions about an issue, and if an opinion doesn't conform with his, he labels you 'naive and inexperienced'. Mscheeeew.

He always woke me up at night to gist (time difference), but when I tried it with him he yelled at me.

Me? Ishilove?

The last time we chatted last year, I rugged am! He was driving and he kept on yelling that I'm distracting him. Why? Because I was giving him hot

He even deleted his chat app because he couldn't cope with me, a woman he can't control

lolz

sorry ma imagine a guy yelling at you.. Shiit please show me that guy he needs serious slapping..


Thank God the beast is out i would have shown him cameroon pepper and india pepper to choose from...

Ishilove:
Control freaks are not limited to ethnicity. It is a function of temperament.

If you think Yoruba men are controlling then you haven't met Urhobo men. They are control freaks!

Gosh, I just can't deal abeg. Nothing like a control freak to bring out the worse in me

Why you dey spoil we market

He's never put his hands on me, and I know he loves me, I just don't know what I can do to get him to trust me. It's driving me crazy to not be able to do all the things I did before. I'm in no way the type that just goes out and meets up with men. He is absolutely amazing and makes me very happy, it's just when I try to get space away from him. Or try to get out of the house. I have all brothers, if he ever did get abusive I can handle myself. Not worried about that.

now I remember simi ft Drake... controller ...

BLeshea:
That's the thing, I am very loyal. I do not cheat. I cook, clean, make sure everything is done and everything is fine until I want to go out with friends or anywhere without him. He gets angry checks my clothes, makes me change and then calls almost the whole time I'm out. But if I call him when he's out lol it's a problem. I'm just going to start turning my phone off. I just don't think he trust me, and it's really sad that he feels that way.

Honestly, I didn't read your story buh all i can say is that you should dumb his sorry ass.




And Marry me

BLeshea:
That's the thing, I am very loyal. I do not cheat. I cook, clean, make sure everything is done and everything is fine until I want to go out with friends or anywhere without him. He gets angry checks my clothes, makes me change and then calls almost the whole time I'm out. But if I call him when he's out lol it's a problem. I'm just going to start turning my phone off. I just don't think he trust me, and it's really sad that he feels that way.

aunty mi sorry but are you dating a boi or you dating an onions??

optional1:




lolz

sorry ma imagine a guy yelling at you.. Shiit please show me that guy he needs serious slapping..


Thank God the beast is out i would have shown him cameroon pepper and india pepper to choose from...

My dear Optional, see me see wahala o. He doesn't know me that's why he thinks he can talk to me anyhow. Dem never born the man wey go physically or verbally abuse me.

EmperorLee:



Why you dey spoil we market

Sowee

BLeshea:
He's never put his hands on me, and I know he loves me, I just don't know what I can do to get him to trust me. It's driving me crazy to not be able to do all the things I did before. I'm in no way the type that just goes out and meets up with men. He is absolutely amazing and makes me very happy, it's just when I try to get space away from him. Or try to get out of the house. I have all brothers, if he ever did get abusive I can handle myself. Not worried about that.

so you waiting for him to turn abusive right before you run

weldon
siddon there dey look me..

EmpereLee lol sorry taken by the controll freak