BETWEEN MARRIAGE AND WEDDING; Now and then comparisons.


According to MSB school of thought,

*...Marriage is a lifetime Union between man and woman while wedding is a occasion or ceremony to mark the beginning of marriage.
In marriage,there must be a mutual agreement between the parties involved while sometimes wedding can be faked or staged but marriage cannot be faked.
Marriage in those days involved many procedures which MUST be carried out, without skipping any step while wedding is one of the procedures of marriage.
These days, some ladies do not value marriage but value a glamorous wedding more than the marriage.
In olden days, parents were the total initiators of the procedures while nowadays,the parents are only informed or involved when preparations and conclusions have been at 90%.
In those glorious days, the people lived and celebrated 30,40 even 50 years of faithful, blissful and happy marriage but the bond in marriage,these days, is very weak and could not hold the couples to live and celebrate such a long years in marriages. Hardly can we see 5 in 50 to match with such celebration.
In those days, our forefathers and mothers prepared for marriage with a lots of lessons/seminars/experiences for the intending husbands and wives, to help them build and maintain their home but these days, the intending couples, always prepare more for wedding of one day and neglect the marriage preparation which is lifetime. Some waved such lessons and claimed to have been equipped well.

CAUSES:
What could have caused the problem? Well, according to MSB school of thought, the following points are assumed causes of the menace.

*Civilization: some people belief that those practices and beliefs are old-fashioned.

*Lack of respect: the youth do not respect culture, value , custom and norms of the olden days.

*Culture devaluation: majority do not even belief in the culture let alone practice it.

*Greediness: to some degree, it contribute to the problem.

*Lack of preparation: people prepare more for wedding than marriage.

*Covetousness: it affect both sides, to some extent.

*Social Media: it contributes about 75% to the problem.

*Inadequate parental care : the hustle and bustle of our daily activities have contributed a lot. Some parents are married to their jobs and neglect the need to prepare the future of their children.

*Lack of Submission: some wives do not want to be submissive to their husbands.

*Gender Equality: some ladies are claiming that they are equal to or with their men.

*Love of materials: it is one of the major causes of the problem.

*Lack of patient: some people are not patient to choose the soulmates.

*Wrong Choice of partners: it contributes its quota.

*Immaturity: some people are not matured for marriage before they ventured into it. Sometimes, Age is not a determinant of maturity. Some might be aged but still not matured.

*Too much pressure: sometimes, parents and friends can mount pressure on their children and friends respectively. When the pressure is unbearable, people tend to bend and dance to the tune against there will.

The list can go on and on but the few mentioned can serve as eye opener

. WAY OUT:
"To every problem , there is equal solution to it".......MSB
The way out, according to MSB school of thought, depend on people status of the problem they might be facing in their marriage. The followings are just a guide :
* Identify the problem.
*Analyse the problem.
*Be prepared to solve the problem.
*Open up
*Seek for advises, from a genuine source.
*Be prayerful.
There are no general problems likewise there are no general solutions. A problem somewhere might not be a problem else where. My candid advice is that , "A better society begins from a better family and a better family begins from a better marriage".......MSB.
Please prepare and work on your marriage than on your wedding!

"The message might be beautifully written but the most beautiful thing about the message to you, is its usefulness"........MSB.


From MSB.

High rate of infidelity

Physical abuse.

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