ObinzeRoyEmeka:
May the whole of your generation suffer severe leprosy. Your mortuary attentand father throw your junior sister inside a soak-away after he got drunk on cheap burukutu. No wonder you are born dead-brain. Your bridge sweeper mother inherited being a slut from her mother and you inherited _whoredom From her too so I'm not suprise at you giving blow_job to street beggers for just a box of snuff.


If you have a brain thats functioning you should know Fuckshit Has d right to post whatever he feels like. But you lack common sense. Hence all you ever know is to steal from your customers after they take you home for day break sexual romp. No wonder your kleptomaniac father was burnt alive at Jakanra market when trying to pick the some of #175 from an unsuspecting individual.


May the causes of your lineage befall you!

dacblogger:
Marriage is a huge scam...pple just do it for the sake of the society and reproducing.

OkoYiboz:
The OP is like an agbero in this area. He's an unmarried bachelor n his 40s who has never married.

His advice hasn't helped him in life, don't be a guinea pig.
Take marriage advice from him at your peril.

Alesandese:
Could you pls desist from using the 'f' word all the time? You are shouting at your audience

Alesandese:
If you aren't a deadbeat grotesque son of an orangutan you would have known that fvckshit and i were having a friendly conversation. And I pointed out what his frequent use of the 'f' word meant. But no your dried up brain couldn't figure that out morronic son of a bimbo. Your brain processed only the word its accustomed to. I blame your father whose role of fatherhood stopped at being a sperm donor! If only the useless drunk had pulled out we would have been saved yet another wasted entity.

Motherfucking son of a road side biitch spewing trash! may thunder strike you are your pathetic generation!

Idiota

Alesandese:
Getting married is easy, staying in marriage is the hard nut. Both genders should take their time to get that near perfect one they can spend their lives with.

Toks2008:
Each time I hear people talk about getting married as one big task I just shake my head at their ignorance.

Ask any single guy or lady of advanced marriageable age why s/he is still single and you are certain to hear words like..."I'm taking my time,can't rush in and rush out,I need to be sure I'm with the right person...." but the question is ;"Does the fact that you are extremely careful in choosing a spouse guarantees a happy marriage?

Getting married is the easiest task anyone can accomplish and far easier than complicated courtship but we tend to make a mountain out of a mole hill.

You can't be too careful or careless when it comes to your choice of spouse because there is no good or bad choice but what we have is "YOUR CHOICE". Good people can turn very bad and a great courtship is no guaranty of a great marriage so take the risk and stop wasting your time in the name of "being careful"

So if you are a man or lady who is really interested in getting married then read this.

1.For the guys :

Ask yourself some vital questions about the type of woman you want,her tribe,physical attributes as well as inherent attributes and so on and don't just try out every lady in skirt.

Understand that whatever pleases your eyes will inadvertently please your soul so go for a lady that catches your fancy physically, ask her some basic questions about her persona,do a quick background check on her and if you are ok with your findings just take the risk as long as you can feed yourself and one more person and also have a place of your own.

If you can afford a lavish wedding then go ahead but if not talk to your woman about doing a small wedding by paying her bride price and going to the registry while you both plan for a bigger wedding.

If she refuses then help her foolishness by enjoying wify duties from her while she continues to wait but if she accepts your plan please go ahead and marry her and try to work out your differences...

Remember that you can never know a woman but you can only try to understand her gradually only when you start living together.

And remember that though GOD hates divorce,there is always an option of walking away from the marriage if needs be.

2.For the ladies:

Save your self the bull poo of dating and courtship...it's a total waste of time cos it's no guaranty of a happy union.

Except you are a teenager or in your adolescent when dating is mostly just for the fun of it,if you are really interested in a purposeful affair then you don't need to court any guy for more than a year.

If you see a guy you have strong desire for and he says he wants you,...do a quick background check on him and if you are ok with your findings..take that risk and go for it...

Stop complicating your life about doing an expensive wedding by fire by force...you can always do that latter but if the money is available then go ahead with the wedding of your dreams

I have seen many guys and ladies despite their over Sabi and meticulous courtship still break up with their spouse so why fool yourself.

If you like continue to waste your time looking for the ideal man and fooling yourself in the name of courtship while actually getting used by the guy.

Dating and long courtship is for boys and girls who just want to catch fun.
No matter how hard you try and how long you court a man, you can never truly know any man until you start living with him and a guy that truly wants you as a wife does not need any yeye long courtship with you.

Marriage is overrated so stop killing yourself trying to be in the best marriage...just take the risk...if it favors you,stay and if it becomes unbearable,take a bow so why waste your time trying to be too careful when you can never be sure of getting an ideal man or woman no matter how careful you may be.

My take.

Toks2008:


I have lost friends who tend to be myopic as regards my articles. ..they juxtapose my realistic threads to who I am and I'm sorry I can't help them on that.

I'm a realist and I dont write things to favor the way they ought to be rather I write stuffs the way they are.

I hate divorce but what if I marry today and the lady decides to divorce me against all odds would you blame me for that? does it not take two to tango?

People have blamed Chris oyakhilome for his wife's decision to divorce him and I keep wondering how people see things.

If you like preach about marital chastity but that does not change the fact that people leave their marriage daily and if a lady is too careful about getting married because she hates divorce then she should rather remain single for life cos shits happen in marriage even if you the lady is an angel.

My point is simple

Take the risk and dare the consequence rather than being careful forever which is never a guaranty of good marriage.

FTBOY:
so what do you suggest? for men to have baby mamas and have kids by single parents or an orphanage?

pocohantas:
You keep speaking from two sides of your mouth.
Dating beyond one year is for kids?!

Then on another thread you'll be the same person advising ladies to wait on their man. If the guy wants to marry the girl, but for specific reasons, most especially financial stability...what does she do?
Move over to the next guy and date for another one year maybe.

Short courtship doesn't guarantee happiness, neither does a lonone. People should take their time to make a life decision.
Ladies especially should take their time.

The world isn't fair on women during marital break-ups, OP isn't even married. If you're so knowledgeable on how relationship works, why hasn't it worked for you...

Imagine mentioning fornication, deceit and GOD in the same post...smh
Don't come for me with your comments, you'll be ignored.

ItsQuinn:
Sorry I can't date or have a courtship less than a year. Kolewerk! Mine is 4 years at least before tieing the knot.

Toks2008:


Many ladies will remain single for long cos of this mindset.

You can't know a man until you live with him and it will be foolish to live with a man you are not married to

SmartMugu:
Let's just be realistic for a moment. What the purpose of marriage? If just having baby-mamas fills the gap, why overrate marriage like it's a do or die thing?

WiserPrince:

Can I meet you, am a cool guy

OkoYiboz:
The OP is like an agbero in this area. He's an unmarried bachelor n his 40s who has never married.

His advice hasn't helped him in life, don't be a guinea pig.
Take marriage advice from him at your peril.

ItsQuinn:
Sorry I already have a bf

WiserPrince:

Ok that's good. We can still be friends, am different I don't try to date everyone I meet

ItsQuinn:
Sorry I'm a lone wolf.... I don't have friends and I don't plan on starting now. Take care Good morning.

dacblogger:
Marriage is a huge scam...pple just do it for the sake of the society and reproducing.