bbeautylik:


My own marriage is normal but not perfect

I'm not saying it is scary
All I am saying here is the life between the married and the single.

Well as for me spending about 2 weeks with my family after a year in marriage was like I was just released from prison

JerryTemi:
I feel marriage is sweet when you marry your Friend not just marriage but when I see what men do to ladies I fear,when you told yourself that I am OK with this person and the fellow is still rubbing it on your face.I just don't no if marriage is the beat option or staying single and making your money,get pregnant and take care of your child finish.

Omoluabi16:
how can you prefer being married when you're unmarried?

PRISTINEMUSCLES:
Whatever divide you are on, be it singlehood or marriagehood? Enjoy and bask in it. The grass is never truly greener on the other side. It is best you water your own grass so that they become luscious green.
I laugh when i hear single folks say they would truly experience happiness when they get married. Dat is a big fat lie from the abyss of obesity.
If you are a sad,lonely, depressed and pessimitic individual when single, you will most definitely remain so when married. Nothing changes.



No Pain
No Gain.

shaybebaby:
Well, I am divorced and I love it. I have a new partner and a kid from my marriage. So I have the best of both worlds in a sense.
I can enjoy my relationship without the pressure of wondering if it'll end up in marriage. Been there done that.
I do not worry about what if I never find someone to have kids with, I have one already and quite frankly, that's it. Not interested in more.
My ex and my current partner both adore my son, he gets double the love.
When my son goes to his dads, I get a break from parenting and do grown up stuff, holiday with my partner, go out with my friends.
So maybe I have the best of both worlds, not married but not single either.

BoboYekini:
Must feel like paradise for you.

shaybebaby:

If making the best of the life I've got can be called paradise, then yeah you could say that.

davidif:


I guess a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons (sex, to have kids, family pressure, peer pressure, fear of being single forever or of never meeting a better person, hatred of being single, loneliness etc) and that's probably why you hear stories like this. You hardly ever hear a lot of people saying they are getting married because they truly love the person and can't imagine spending the rest of their lives without them.

BoboYekini:
Kinda like having your cake and eating it. Why did you bother to get married though?
I have always wanted such an arrangement. Babydaddy/mama and still living the free single life. Jagua Nana meets Californication.

Honestly, the only real need I can find for marriage - and for purely selfish reasons - is that it communicates to society that you are eligible for higher political/social office.

davidif:


I guess a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons (sex, to have kids, family pressure, peer pressure, fear of being single forever or of never meeting a better person, hatred of being single, loneliness etc) and that's probably why you hear stories like this. You hardly ever hear a lot of people saying they are getting married because they truly love the person and can't imagine spending the rest of their lives without them.

shaybebaby:

Free single life? Nah.
You guys forget that change is constant. Not everything that happens to you is exactly what you planned, so let me ask you: what do you do when things occur that you did not envisage or plan for at it's inception?

Do you dwell on it and try, by fire by force to get back to where you imagined you should be or pick up what you can and face the future as best as you can?

Thing is, no sane person who loves their partner sets out with the intention of breaking up.. but you and I know break ups happen. It's not new, some make it, some don't make it at the first try and keep trying, some never get to try the first time. Life doesn't happen according to a manual for everyone.

I know the narrative is different what the average naij person expects or would even like to see( it's more comforting for bitter peeps to think that if a woman gives the marriage institution the finger at any point, she is doomed). But I refused to let my story end that way or become the cliche divorced parent.

Marriage in itself is redundant if that is the ultimate goal. I guess people need to ask themselves if it is the ceremony that validates their partnership or if a true loving relationship validates the concept togetherness.
I choose the latter, I love my current partner, but only time will tell if we can make it the whole distance, not marriage.

BoboYekini:
For the average person, these are all valid and reason enough to get married.

kimbra:
Chai!, Ma'am why are you scaring us?.
I think it's because your marriage isn't as fun as you anticipated. I wouldn't want to spend a week in my family house and feel the way you're feeling.

bbeautylik:
lalasticlala which do you prefer?

Viking007:
Snakes.